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Let's welcome, stand up comedian Daniela Mora to Mitu Jay.

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Thank you so much for having me guys.

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I'm so excited to be here.

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Thank you. You're so excited to have you queen.

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First of all, thank you for your service because seriously,

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I am done trying to pretend I actually want to be friends

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with my ex. I'm done.

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It's canceled. So I guess that leads me to my question

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Are you friends with any exes?

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I will say that I am friendly.

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There is a lot of overlap sometimes where,

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where I work and so some situations there have been times where

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we do work together and so we kind of forcefully had to

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become friends, but I would say like still hanging out on

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a day to day texting,

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sending memes like we were in a relationship like before,

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I will not allow that.

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I will refuse to answer just to really change the dynamic because

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I feel like that's unfair.

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Like if you don't want to get married,

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you can't comment on a photo.

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And what are the,

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what do you think are the D Os and don't of a

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breakup? Like is there like a no contact thing or

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I feel like it kind of depends how it ended in

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something recently where I did make this video kind of how it

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ended. Like, he didn't really do anything like super wrong

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Like there wasn't no,

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there wasn't any cheating,

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you know, it wasn't like we got in a huge fight

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It was just kind of more so like,

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I don't think this is working out right now.

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So like, let's put this to rest.

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I think you always need to have like a no contact period

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even if it's for like two weeks or like months,

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but you need some time to like cool down the feelings and

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emotions just because if I saw this guy like two weeks ago

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I would have been like,

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I love you. Let me like,

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suck your earlobe. Like I would have been really in love

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with the guy, you know.

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So you definitely need a no contact.

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I'm a huge fan of muting anybody that I've ever hugged.

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I think the muting important just because you don't really want to

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see it. It's just too much,

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you know, I don't want to see what they're doing and

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I'm like, who's in the back of that photo and it's

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his aunt, you know,

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like then I'll start spiraling.

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So I think kind of out of sight,

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out of mind is my best way to go.

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I like that and I think muting is safe like,

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it's not cutting them off completely.

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Like I can come back when I want to,

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when I'm ready to.

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But the power is in my hands because I'm not going to

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give them the, I'm not going to give them the attention

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It's more so for you though.

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Right? Like, it's not really like,

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oh, I'm going to mute you because,

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but it's for myself,

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it's nothing personal. I know earlier you were like,

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oh, you kind of had to keep relationships going with people

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you've had things with because you kind of worked with them.

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How about dating someone in a friend group or like your building

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I went out with someone in my apartment building like two

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years ago and, you know,

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we had nothing in common but the building's common space.

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Like we, I did not know this man.

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We were talking about the Amazon packages being sorted.

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Like it was like bizarre.

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Definitely awkward. I wouldn't say it's not the worst thing to

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do. I think a friend group are working together has like

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more stake in it,

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but running into them,

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you know, in the lobby is also never pleasant.

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So definitely it's gonna be a little more picky going forward.

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And,, so it's,

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it's when Harry met Sally season,

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do you think single men and women can be friends?

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I want to say,

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yeah, I do think so.

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I do have a lot of guy friends.

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I think that there's definitely limits like,

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there are some guy friends that I have,

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like, flirty stuff with,

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you know, and maybe there's like,

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a little bit more than there than a friend.

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But like that either has been explored and that didn't land well

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or, like, that's just a bit too much.

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I do think guys and girls could be friends though.

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It's not nearly what female friendships are though.

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Like, I call my girlfriends all the time.

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I can't call my guy friend.

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Good morning. Like,

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that would be scary if I'd want to get him pregnant.

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But yeah, I do think it's possible with some boundaries and

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probably like a roster.

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Oh my gosh. I just want to have a roster so

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I can do that so much,

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so much work. It's a lot of work,

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but it wouldn't make me better at just staying friends with people

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because I wouldn't have to worry about,

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you know, stability.

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I know. Yeah,

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I can't be like,

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doing a draft every week.

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Like, I barely know where my socks are.

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I'm not going to be like,

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where's Sam? Like,

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I don't not care enough.

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So it is October,

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which means we're in Spooky season.

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Do you have a favorite ghost story?

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You know, ghosting,

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ghosting story. I'm kind of a fan of the Mutual Ghost

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I do like,

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if we are both kind of ghosting.

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there was like maybe two years ago I was talking

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to this guy and I was still down to go out.

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and I remember that he just kind of never hit

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me back up again.

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And for the first time ever,

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I was like, Bride and I had dignity then and I

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didn't hit him up and we kind of just mutually faded out

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And of course,

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I ran into him recently and he was like,

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let's get drinks and I was like,

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who is this? But,

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I mean, most people that I've ended things with have been

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it's been like a fade out more than a ghost because

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like, we know that we're alive,

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maybe they'll like, swipe up later and it just kind of

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like, slowly died or like they've said like,

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hey, I don't like you that much and I'm like,

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I would have preferred the other ghost.

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I just would have preferred a full ghost act like he died

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Like I got hit by a car but I'm still active

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on Instagram. You know,

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that's why I prefer that lie.

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I agree. Like,

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actually I used to like ghosting in the scary.

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But you're right, I'd rather that than you just,

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there's just no words you were interested and that's it.

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Yeah, just, I like the music will fade out.

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Yeah. And then,

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you know, guys,

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I feel like should lead it.

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So I don't mind like,

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if they're not planning to do stuff,

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I'm just like, yeah,

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that's it. I guess that's the end of this.

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Yeah, I was like,

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I got it, babe,

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but still down probably,

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but I got it.

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Well, thank you so,

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so much for joining us,

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Daniela. Where can we follow you?

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Of course. I'm on Instagram,

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Daniella Mora one, Daniel am or a number one.

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I'm on tiktok. It's spelled differently.

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It is D A Nyell A 5000.

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It's a very niche one.

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But if you really liked me,

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you can probably type it in if you ever in New York

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come by, see a show.

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But yeah, this is so fun.

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Thank you so much for having me.

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Thank you for joining.

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Let's give a round of applause.

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But I have your love.