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Today we are here with Vicky,
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the Fitch guy. I've never had so many applause.
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So she is our first Gen Latina sister with wise words and
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some bad ass workouts.
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That is me. She is me.
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I am her. I'm such a big fan dude.
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So OK, when did you come up with the first gen
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older sister? It was,
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I think January of 2022.
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I didn't initially just think of it.
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It's just, I felt like I was kind of like writing
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a letter to myself on social media.
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And then I was like,
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oh, it would be cool to say like first Gen Latina
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sister because a lot of these girls in my D MS,
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a lot of my followers call me their big sister.
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And then they always come in my D MS and they ask
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me for advice. I'm like,
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well, it goes hand in hand.
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I love that. And a lot of us don't have older
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sisters. Like I wish I had like sisters.
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I only have like a younger brother.
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So it's good to have people like where it's like,
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oh, I can go to her to get that sisterly advice
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So, yeah, I don't have an older sister but I
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I love that. And can you break down your mom hairstylist
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rant? Like I feel like we've all been kind of like
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put in that situation.
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I've had many times with my mom that it's been my breaking
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point and I feel like all of us as Latinas have that
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I was my mom chauffeur.
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I would basically take my mom everywhere.
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And one day I got fed up and I said,
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you know what? Maybe this wasn't the smartest idea because then
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I got hit with a bill.
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I'm gonna go buy you a car.
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So I'm like, I'm like,
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I'm done, I'm not your chauffeur anymore.
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But like, so I'm like here,
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there's no more favors when she went to the hair stylist.
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She's not. And I feel like a lot,
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a lot of our Latino parents go through this.
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They're not very outspoken.
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So she literally called me and said,
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hey, can you tell our hair stylist to curl my hair
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today instead of straighten it?
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And I'm like, you're sitting there right there with her and
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so obviously I do it.
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I was so frustrated that I was like,
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I'm going on a rant and I didn't expect that rant to
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No, she actually got mad about got mad at me.
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She's like, why are you taking people?
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My business here I am again telling her business.
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but we definitely can relate.
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Like there has been instances where I'm like,
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stop. But then again,
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oh Puerto Para and then I feel bad because I'm like,
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yeah, my mom came over here when she was 17.
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Freshly married. No family here.
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She had two kids by the age of 20.
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I'm like, I couldn't even get my life together at 20
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He had two kids and like,
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I, I feel bad because she sacrificed a lot for me
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She's done a lot for me.
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So which is why I give back to her a lot too
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But it's frustrating because I also have other siblings.
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But I'm the one that she comes to and I'm like,
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I can't do it all even though you think I can,
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I simply can't and how can we put our needs first?
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Like, what's a way to set boundaries?
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Because that's a hard one.
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So basically I take care of my little sister too.
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So I basically have raised her along with my mom and she
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would spend 3 to 4 nights in my apartment and I would
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take her to school because my mom works very early mornings and
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again, I have other siblings.
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Why do I have to do everything?
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my breaking point yet again for a different situation and I was
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vocal with her and I was like,
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hey, I can't do this.
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It's either I'm gonna be helping out financially or I'm gonna be
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helping out physically. I can't do both because helping out everybody
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else is completely draining me and she didn't talk to me,
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like, for maybe two days I had to give in and
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call her and now after having that conversation,
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yes. Now I only take care of my sister once a
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week, but it is a hard conversation to have because I
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feel like our parents aren't emotionally equipped to deal with these kind
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of conversations and they easily get frustrated and like my mom,
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I don't know about like,
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yeah, yeah. Look at and I'm like,
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lady when you have a conversation about this,
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but they are not like that you get me and I feel
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like a lot of Latino parents will easily shut down a conversation
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instead of, you know,
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addressing the issue. Exactly.
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You're admitting that they're wrong.
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No, they'll never admit they're wrong,
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dude. It really takes a lot for my mom to walk
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in my room and say like Mia that was I did wrong
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mostly. It's like at least your mom does.
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That has never done that.
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She says Hacienda and I'm like,
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oh, now you're breaking that.
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I know she'll bring like,
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you know, like to say I'm sorry,
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but she'll never really say it.
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But so I know you mentioned kids in your videos and
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do you want kids or like?
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And that's ok. That is ok.
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I I my mom has said also this that since from like
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people try to change my mind like,
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you'll know when you're ready.
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my mom has literally told me from like the age of 10
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that I have always said I don't want kids.
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And that also goes back to being very,
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very young and not and taking care of my siblings like
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you know, so I've always put a lot on my plate
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I've always helped others.
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I've always helped my mom and I'm just like,
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you know, I don't mind doing that,
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but for the rest of my life,
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I don't want to take care of anybody else.
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I just want to take care of me.
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I wanna focus on me and live for me and that's ok
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I love that and I feel like you've been doing that
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right. You you've been doing that.
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So it's like I already did it.
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Like I do the school drop off.
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I've done all the things I've raised the kids.
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I've been up with them in the middle of the night,
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crying at four months old.
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Like I've done all of that.
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I think it's a good thing to be self aware that you
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don't want Children. And that's ok.
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That's ok. Like if people try to change your mind,
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I think that's an issue on them and not on yourself.
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You're doing the smart thing.
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You're self aware. I'm not fully equipped to be a mother
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and people should just simply understand that.
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But they won't, they won't,
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but they won't. But,
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I mean, at the end of the day it's your life
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The only person opinion that matters is yourself.
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They're not paying your bills.
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And they're not going to pay for these kids.
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This is true. Thank you so much,
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Ricky. We really love having you on the show.
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Thank you for having me.
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I appreciate it. Yes.
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And where can people find you on Instagram?
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all my socials are Vicky the fit chick.
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Simply at Instagram, tiktok,
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youtube. I'm need to get back on my youtube game.
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But they're all you can find me under Vicky the Fitch and
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I have something very exciting coming to the fitness world very soon
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Let's give it up for Dicky.
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