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Surviving The Dating Scene w/ Alexia Del Valle

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Influencer Alexia Del Valle helps Jenny venture back into the dating scene with powerful advice on what (and who!) to avoid while searching for love.
Show transcript
00:02
Man. Look, brother.
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This is my first Valentine's Day without a man.
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You know what sister?
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That's ok because you don't need no man.
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Yeah. Yeah, definitely.
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It's just, I mean,
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10 years, you know,
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so it's like I've all those 10 years I've had like com
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like I would expect something and like within those 10 years and
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now it's like, oh well,
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I expect like it doesn't feel like Valentine's Day to me.
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I hear you. But this year maybe there's a secret of
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my r just been,
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he's been waiting for his chance just to like,
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you know, for you to take that at so and so
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out of out of your bio and now he's like,
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let's go. We all slide in the D A time.
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No. Well, I mean,
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you know, thankfully we have Alexia Del Valle here
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to give us everything we need to know about being single on
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B day. Welcome,
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Alexia. Thank you for having me.
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I love being the face of the single women.
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That's right. So a girl,
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I do not know how to do this,
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you know, like it's just,
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it's crazy like it's been six months I've been like,
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you've been out of the game for a minute.
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I've been out of the game for a minute.
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Like since before dating apps were a thing.
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So I, I wanna ask you,
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is this your first Valentine's Day single or?
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Mm mm baby girl.
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It is not my first time to say my first rodeo.
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I've been in this for a minute.
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And how do you feel?
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I mean, I it's sad to say I'm used to it
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I think the last time I had a Valentine was like
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2018, which now feels like ages ago.
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So I don't know,
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I feel like now I'm kind of just used to it.
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Like if I get random flowers on my door,
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it'll be shocking. But,
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you know, I'm,
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I'm more used to kind of doing this thing on my own
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to be honest. Well,
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girl, I, I want you to help me out here
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So how should like if I wanna get back out
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there? Like, how should I try and meet someone,
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you know, like the apps?
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I know if I can hear horror stories about the apps,
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maybe at a bar.
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Yeah, girl, I'm not,
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I'm going to be positive for you right now.
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It's, it's, it's rough out there.
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But I always,
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I always say listen,
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I'm not against apps,
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ok? Because after every situation,
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so you probably have called me on an app for,
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you know, so I'm not gonna say that I'm against it
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But I say try to go on the railroad first.
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A bar is not a bad place depending on the bar.
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For example, like if you're at a bar in New York
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you might catch some finance bros,
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you know, maybe that's your vibe.
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So it depends on like the bar.
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The gym is not a horrible place either.
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I could not find myself talking to someone at the gym because
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I just, that seems like an awkward setting,
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but I work for people before.
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So I try to put yourself out there first in the Real
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world and then, you know,
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maybe hop on the apps if that's,
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if it, if it goes really bad,
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that's what I've heard.
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And I wanted to ask you too,
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what is a red flag for you?
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A big one for me is when the guy just talks about
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himself the whole time and doesn't let you get a word in
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like speaking from experience.
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I don't know why I tend to attract guys like this like
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that. That's a,
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no, no, that's not going to work with me.
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No, same here.
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What do you think,
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brother? I think of what she's about.
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The gym makes so much sense because when me and my
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wife started dating, we were super slim and then we were
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going to the gym and we wouldn't work out.
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We just mess around and like,
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hey, what's up?
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I text her like,
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we gotta go hang out by each other like this isn't working
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So we ended up just canceling the membership and like then
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just going on,,
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you know, hanging out outside of the gym.
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But,, that's one thing that she said,
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stuck out to me.
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So that's what I think.
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That's true. And then what do you think makes a man
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like boyfriend material, like to you what's really important that you're
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like, oh, that part,
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you know, I think for me,
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like a guy who's reassuring,
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like a guy who makes me feel like I can trust them
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because I feel like in today's generation especially,
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it's so hard to trust with social media and someone who's just
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reassuring, that's like a big,
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a big part of it.
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That makes me feel like they're very open and I can trust
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them. That's a huge,
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it is so true.
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Like I, I feel like also,
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like the little things too,
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I feel like, like if I go out with on a
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date with a guy and say like this happened once I was
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like, he's sitting on a hard chair,
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like we're waiting and it was like,
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they had the party chairs.
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I was sitting on a hard one and he had the one
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with the little cushion on it and he was like,
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I was like, oh,
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look, like sit on,
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on my chair like it has a little cushion and he took
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the hard one and I'm like,
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little things like that I look for,
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you know, it,
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it shows their character I feel but I agree.
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Attention to detail. It's like a big one.
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A guy was a gentleman,
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big one. Ok.
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What, like, what's the type of influencer to date?
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I might be a little biased with this one but
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you know what, I'm gonna,
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I'm gonna stand with this one.
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I'm gonna say comedy influencers.
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Like, don't go for respectfully the pretty boys.
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That's not for me.
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I had my share.
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Maybe that's why I speak from experience.
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But I think the ones that are funny,
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like if, if you're funny personality huge for me.
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So like if you're funny and you're making funny content,
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I kind of see how your brain works.
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You got funny ideas.
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If problem is in person,
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you're going to be funny too.
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So I would say the comedy influencer,
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someone who posts comedy content and it's like you're funny too.
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So I'm sure you guys were gonna like banter,
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like really cute and like get along really well.
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Any final advice you can give me and all the single
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ladies I would say and I say this all the time.
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First love yourself. Like,
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don't put your value in finding someone or how men are treating
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you. It just really is about loving yourself,
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knowing your worth, not lowering your standards for anyone stand on
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business as they say in the generation.
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Stay with the chess girl.
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I love it. You'll be good.
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You're gonna be fine.
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Thank you. That's where I'm at right now.
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For sure. I'm learning.
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I'm learning a lot.
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Just wanted to thank you so much for,
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for coming on and,
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and giving this advice.
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I'm gonna take it and I'm gonna put in my pocket and
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and I'm gonna,
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yeah, I'm gonna keep it with me because I,
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I really, really appreciate it.
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I also wanted to ask where can people find you?
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Yeah, you guys can find me on all the socials at
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Lex Del Valle. Thank you so much,
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Alexia. Thank you.
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Thank you and Happy Valentine's day to you guys also.
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Thank you. Take care sister.
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I can see you dating a comedy guy because like I say
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it as like a loving in a loving way.
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It's a cornball like I love like your coffee you like,
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so you know, I want a goofy dude.
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I do. I,
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I want a goofy dude.
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That's, that's, that's what I'm looking for,
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you know, a silly guy,
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you know, and that puts me first that gives you the
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cushioned seat. That's right.
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Give me the cushioned seat,
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not the jinky party rental.
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You tell him.