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Situationship or Relationship?

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Singers Joel De León and Matt Paris ring in their new single with a discussion on girls shooting their shot, dating apps, and the toxic vibes of “the chase.”
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We are here with Matt Paris and Joel de Leon who just
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dropped their song Diamante and we're going to chat about how we
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can find our diamond because girl,
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it's rough out here.
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It is rough. So,
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hey, guys, can you tell me about your newest single
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Diamante? Yeah,
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Diamante basically is a song that I,
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I feel like it's really refreshing to everything that's going on in
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the Latin world right now for this specific case.
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you know, Diosa a tempo,
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you know, de La Nele Studio.
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I, I was producing the song and I kind of
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like I, I heard him in my,
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in my, in my mind d here.
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OK, Arpiza from there.
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He went on Juntos IP de Man.
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So we wanted to ask you guys some questions on like dating
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advice. Like, do you guys think it's OK for a
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girl to shoot her shot first or like,
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how do you guys see that?
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Like if a girl like reaches out to you,
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do you see that as weird or what do you think?
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No, definitely not.
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No, I think that I think that's cool.
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If anything I feel like it's like breaking the stigma,
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you know, of how it's typically done.
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So, I think it's pretty cool.
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It's actually pretty attractive to be honest.
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So, I don't think,
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I think that's weird if anything,
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pretty attractive.
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Yeah, I agree.
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I agree with, I agree 100%.
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I mean, we're not magicians or at least not all of
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us. You know,
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if you, if you feel some type of way that make
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it known, you know what I'm saying?
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That's true. That's true.
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So you guys don't see it like because people say,
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oh well, men like,
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you know, a woman like that,
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he has to chase like don't,
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don't be so available or don't be so direct.
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So you guys feel the opposite,
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right? You like straightforward.
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I don't know, I just feel like this generation has gotten
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used to like that like that toxic route of relationships of oh
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I want to get what I can't get,
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you know what I don't feel that's too easy.
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But nah, I don't think,
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I mean, not me,
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at least, I mean,
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it's nice to have a little chase sometimes,
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you know, but not to the point where it's like I
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have to always chase you all the time in order for me
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to feel like, oh I really want you,
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you know, so I have permission to slide in guys D
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MS first. Is that what I'm hearing?
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100% girl? Go do your thing.
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Shoot your shot girl because I will,
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I got a few in mind.
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So. Ok, tell me what are green and red flags
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on a dating app profile because I feel like I have a
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few but I want to hear what you guys think.
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I don't know, I never thought I never really thought about
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this. But if I see like pictures of like some,
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you know, like a girl with like animals or dogs or
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you know, anything has to do with,
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with animals. I think that's definitely a green flag because for
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me, like, I love animals,
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I, I'm always gonna wanna have animals around me at least
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you know,
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when, when I,
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when I end up having a wife or a girlfriend.
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So that's definitely a green flag because some,
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some people just don't like animals.
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But you know, that has to be 100% thing for me
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I don't know.
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That's the first thing I thought out of the top of my
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head. No, I always look for furry friends.
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Like if they're good with animals,
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then they can show me some love or the familia to their
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family a lot to it.
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Very important because orientated.
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Yeah, because if they're,
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they're strapping too much.
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It's a red flag girl.
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Too much facts. So tell me what makes someone,
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girlfriend, material versus situationship,
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girlfriend, material versus situation.
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I feel like every situation is different.
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Like it also depends on what you're seeking at the moment,
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you know, because you might have an emotional bond with somebody
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but maybe you're not prepared to have a,
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a fully committed relationship.
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You know, I'm a musician and I am a Gemini.
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So I'm really emotional.
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So when I love,
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I love super hard,
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like I'm super romantic and everything.
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So I've learned over the years that I have to be mindful
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because I give away my heart sometimes too quick.
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You know, I get that for me.
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If this person is my best friend,
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I feel like that's definitely like,
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like girlfriend material,
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you know, if,
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if they can be a friend before or even after,
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you know,
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getting to meet someone,
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I think that's very,
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you know,
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it's, it's nice to be able to feel like you can
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also talk to the person instead of just having like that physical
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attraction. Yeah, I love that.
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So, really appreciate like that natural friendship connection first.
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I, I agree.
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I think that's crucial in a healthy and sustainable relationship.
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Exactly. Yeah. Well,
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it was wonderful speaking with both of you.
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So tell us where we can keep up with you and follow
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you. Where, where can we do that?
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Diamante is already out in all platforms.
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Anyone that's watching this,
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they can go ahead and,
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and find it on youtube.
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We have a great video.
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you know,
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there's a lot of great things coming.
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we're gonna be traveling for the next couple weeks,
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you know, they can find me in social media as map
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Paris official. M att Paris like France official with two Fs
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and, you know,
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I'll give it to you to for sure.
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No, I think I'm listen,
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ma you gotta check out our,
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our, our social media to be able to see what we're
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gonna be doing. I'm,
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I'm added, I'm so sorry,
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I'm so used to speaking in Spanish like the whole day and
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I'm kind of like stumbling but like at Joel de Leon
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or Joel de Leon,
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I'm like that everywhere.
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Thank you. Thank you so much,
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Matt and Joel much as much as gracias.
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Thank you, my love.
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I appreciate it. Appreciate it.