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Sorry, I almost cough.
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This cough has been getting me but welcome back to Lincoln Bio
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I am Alejandro and I'm Jenny.
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I don't know if you recall.
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But yesterday's episode, I did have a rant about my car
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being moved and they got hit.
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So thank you. That was weird.
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Like you spoke it into existence.
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It's my own fault I guess for being a little bitch insert
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the video from yesterday.
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I fucking told you guys see you tomorrow.
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That's all that matters.
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I meant what I said when I said thankfully,
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no one got hurt but fuck that shit because I got hurt
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You felt it in your bones.
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So brother Anyhoo, we got a show to do brother you
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So we're going to be talking about the doj and how
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they're saving our pockets and what is quiet vacationing?
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You'll find out and Trump says something racist again and speaking of
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bullies. No, but on a serious note,
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we do have a therapist joining us today and a mom
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to talk about bullying and Children how to deal with that because
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it's a very tough situation subject in general.
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And then on the lighter note,
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we have Chila Key joining us in the building.
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Oh my God. So this one always,
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it's a roller coaster of emotions y'all.
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But let's go for the ride.
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All millennials we've been caught.
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A recent study showed that 70% of us workers do not want
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particularly among Gen Z and millennials who don't want to look like
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slackers. So what they're doing is called quiet vacationing.
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So essentially quiet vacationing is like when you take time off without
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notifying your manager, but you're still around,
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you know, moving the mouse every once in a while,
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sending an email every now and then.
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So you're active, right?
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You're online, you're,
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you know, ready to work.
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That's so crazy. I've never heard of such a thing.
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Why do you say it like that?
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This all sounds so strange.
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Very strange. Indeed.
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So apparently 66% of workers want to adopt a European style PTO
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system which mandates longer vacations,
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shorter work weeks and even a full month off of work.
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Why do we feel the guilt to take a vacation and request
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unlimited PTO? Right?
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Our parents even like I feel like always.
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Yeah, I know my parents especially my dad like he does
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not like taking, I mean,
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he wants to take time off.
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But he doesn't feel comfortable because then he feels like he has
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to come back from vacation.
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A lot of work that piled up while he was on vacation
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He has to tend to or like,
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he's losing out, you know,
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and he gets like anxiety.
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I feel like right before and I think many of us can
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actually. Right. But why are we so scared to take
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unlimited PTO? That's a whole new discussion.
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I'm gonna go to the quiet vacation If you don't mind,
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don't say it. It's not quiet if you tell everybody for
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I'm, I'm putting in my request right now.
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RBD made a big return last year with their reunion tour,
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but it seems like it's all come to a halt.
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We've got some cheese for you guys.
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So apparently they are legally beefing with their former manager.
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The band's legal team reports.
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There is almost $1 million missing after their successful reunion tour.
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RB D's lawyers are taking the business management team and manager to
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court to figure out where the money has gone.
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I hope they figure this out soon because I didn't go to
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this first kick off of the tour and I want to take
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my mom because you know,
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you also and I want to go party.
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So I mean, hopefully this all gets figured out because this
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is not looking good.
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Yeah, and I'm black and they're walking on the walk.
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They're, and hell no,
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you're not going to take it.
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Just tell me so I get in Silencio and give me my
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fucking money, right?
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Sorry somebody puns with their songs,
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they're just all bangers,
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they're such bangers and they don't,
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they deserve better. Like come on get that bag,
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y'all get that bag L A.
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Animal shelters are set to euthanize about 100 dogs within the next
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couple of weeks because the animal shelters are at capacity and looking
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for help brother, this breaks my heart,
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you know how much animals mean to me and just the fact
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all these dogs are getting like euthanized.
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It's just insane and it's crazy because this is just again in
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L A, about 1.5 million shelter animals,
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dogs and cats are put down every year in the US and
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that's about like 4000.
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Was it a week a day a day?
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Yeah. No, it's insane.
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Like don't shop adopt and be smart and make sure your pet
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like make sure you're ready for a pet.
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Yeah, it's a big responsibility but people again might not understand
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that. So please be more aware and you know,
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make sure you're able to take on that responsibility because again,
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1.5 million dogs, people,
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that's a lot of lives like these,
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these are living creatures,
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you know, that are being put to sleep.
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It's sad. And if you truly want to help,
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please check out the Humane Society and A S PC A and
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their websites to find out how you can help the animals in
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your community. In these shelters.
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Sister is a three day weekend.
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It's Memorial Day. Exactly.
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Do you know why we celebrate Memorial Day?
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Veterans? Kinda? So,
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actually it goes back to the civil war when 620,000 veterans or
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soldiers sorry, were killed,
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which is 2% of the entire population of the US in the
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18 sixties. So to kind of put that into context,
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2% of the population today would be about like 7 million people
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imagine the whole of Arizona.
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Ok. So that's why we have a three day weekend.
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Yeah. So this weekend guys,
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you know what? Enjoy your Carne Asadas,
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enjoy your sales, enjoy everything.
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But also don't forget why we have this day off for the
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memorializing. Yeah, we're remembering them and you know,
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while you're having your carnitas,
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Sala cerita, don't forget to drop some cerita for,
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for the soldiers. Not for your homies.
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All right. But you know what,
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for real? What's the best way to get,
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like, maximize a three day weekend?
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Because look, you have an extra day of sleep technically,
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but I feel like with a three day weekend you don't always
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It's like when you go on vacation you have vacation from your
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vacation. Yeah. Like you feel like,
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oh my God, it's a three day weekend.
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Like, I, this is my chance to do whatever you
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I think any time you need to have rest,
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what's the way to optimize your three day weekend?
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Is it like Saturday?
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You rest Sunday, you go crazy Monday,
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you rest, or do you go crazy on Saturday and Monday
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and Saturday? You re wait,
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party, party, party rest.
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So when do you rest on Monday?
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Oh, you said Friday?
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my back hurts. So I'll join you from the couch,
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but that's how you maximize the three day weekend.
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Y'all. Definitely. Donald Trump said something wild at his trial
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yesterday. Which trial is the one about the Georgia fellows where
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he was like, you know,
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find the votes and all that or no.
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Not that one. Is it the one about the classified documents
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where he has employees move boxes of like the government dos and
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he didn't want them to.
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Not that one. Is it the one about,
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What's the porn star's name?
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The hush money with that one?
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So he's pissed at the judge right now.
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Trump said the judge hates Donald Trump.
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Take a look, take a look at him,
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take a look at where he's from.
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But wait, he's talking to the third person.
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I don't know. But what does Donald Trump mean,
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but look at where he comes from like,
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what do you mean by that?
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take a look, take a look at him,
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take a look at where he's from.
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He means the judge is from Colombia.
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So he's a Latin American immigrant who became a judge and was
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appointed by NYC Mayor Bloomberg.
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But Trump, I don't know,
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like thinks he's s because he's Colombian dude that's got to be
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I'm sure he loves Shakira and he loves let's see who
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else? Sophia Vergara Fade.
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I think he's just like,
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because the judge. Exactly because the judge is a Colombian.
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Oh my God, that was good.
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That was so good that we can,
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we can say look at where you look like you're from Florida
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because you look like a fucking orange.
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Oh the Florida, oranges,
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yeah, it's just super slow.
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It's just saying that out loud.
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like you said, it's just like whatever,
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bro. Just take everything instead of a grain of salt.
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We have an update on the Ticketmaster Department of Justice lawsuit and
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the DOJ is real for this one.
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The DOJ is forcing Live Nation and Ticketmaster to break up because
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they're a monopoly on the concert business.
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The lawsuit was originally for Live Nation because they own Ticketmaster.
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no, no, you gotta break up.
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It's kind of like those couples that are always together and it's
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like I don't need your man at girls night.
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You know, like you gotta do your own thing.
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Like it's a toxic power couple.
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You know what it reminds me of that homie at work.
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We're like, we need two people to do this task.
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you don't, you can do it separately but go off queen
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there used to be one phone company in the US.
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They set the prices.
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you could send messages with the carrier pigeon.
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So we start like that.
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And now there's so many phone companies,
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right? So maybe this lawsuit might,
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you know, help more ticket companies come to light.
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So we as a consumer have more say in where we buy
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our concert tickets. I like this.
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Hopefully this case kind of helps us out.
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I want to listen to some concerts,
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man. I wanna be able to afford a couple.
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Not just one a year.
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It's like, all right.
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Porque mega Guines. Shout out to the DOJ.
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Well, we'll see what happens.
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Hey, Jenny, do you know the difference between a cop
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and a sheriff? I don't really know.
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No, actually one has a little Estrellita on them and the
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I mean, I look at their cars,
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I think once a sheriff but one where 10 target employees,
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I never noticed the uniforms.
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But anyways the point is,
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cops are hired and sheriffs are elected.
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So people elected them to be a sheriff,
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elected to own a gun.
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Yeah. Like you said,
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cops usually have a shield.
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And sheriffs were a star.
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Oh, well, that's old fashioned.
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Definitely. But also don't forget this fun fact.
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Sheriffs are nearly three times likely to kill you than local police
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And that's from a CBS report that investigates how out of
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control sheriffs are in the US click link bell.
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For more details. That's not a fun fact.
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It's not a fun fact,
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but it's like what the fuck is going on?
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Bullying has been getting out of hand for some time now and
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is evolving and getting worse for kids who are being harassed online
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Joining us is therapist Helene Soto who will share insights on
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the impact of bullying,
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how to recognize it and she's going to assist Blanca,
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a local mom dealing with her child being bullied.
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Blanca Eline. Thank you so much for joining us today.
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Thank you for having me.
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The bullying is getting out of hand.
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I feel like from when I was a kid to now it's
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like what's going on?
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Absolutely. How common is it for kids to be dealing with
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bullying now in 2024 it is very common.
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Unfortunately, I mean,
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this has been around for a long period of time,
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but I think as you know,
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we're seeing the world and its social political cultural tension.
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A lot of people are becoming more maybe comfortable and being open
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with their identity a little bit more which it could even be
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like LGBT Qi a or racial identity being open with their culture
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There has become much more of an open space to be
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able to attack or even judge or criticize or put down dehumanize
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Children and also hurt people,
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hurt people. So they're going through something similar too,
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whether it's like in through society or even at home or at
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school. It's definitely become a heightened problem.
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Blanca. Do you mind sharing what you and your daughter have
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been going through? My daughter began getting bullied now in fifth
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grade. So initially when she started off the fifth grade
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school year, she was really confident,
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she's very successful academically.
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So no concerns there.
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But slowly over the school year as it's progressed,
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the bullying has gotten more and more intense.
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So I've seen her go from being confident and,
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you know, very proud of herself,
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loving herself to a shell of who she was.
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Now she's to the point where she's scratching herself until she
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She's hiding herself,
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she's embarrassed of many different things about her body and her face
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you know, things that 1/5 grader should not have to
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be thinking about. So I've just seen her completely deteriorate in
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every way. You know,
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and I, I don't see the same child that I used
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to have. Thank you for opening up with us about that
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Do you have any advice for Blanca and her daughter?
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first of all, Blanca,
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I appreciate you for sharing your vulnerability.
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And sometimes as parents,
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we feel very hopeless,
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but I will say like there is a seat of hope still
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especially when it comes to like the root of her empowerment
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which is you and a root of building her self confidence
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Like reframing a lot of these narratives that she's been told
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through her bullies at school.
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And how we even reframe some of those narratives is like
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you know, you are enough,
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like the bullying doesn't define you,
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but also reframing what help looks like.
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So sometimes in order for parents to be able to assist with
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that is like sometimes checking their own experiences with their parents,
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like what your experiences were with your parents,
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what did you need growing up to hear a little bit more
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of, to build some of those internal resources or strength that
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you could use to bring to a different environment where you may
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feel helpless growing up.
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Maybe a little bit more of from your parents to maybe
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not feel so judge or criticize or like not feeling like you're
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enough. I think personally if I would have gone to therapy
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when I was at a younger age that would have helped a
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lot. Yeah, my daughter,
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I have her in therapy so that's helped.
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Although it still feels like at school they're kind of undoing the
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progress she's making, like,
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in the therapeutic setting because,
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you know, it's like a bunch of kiddos against her.
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but it definitely helps and I think that is something
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I would have really benefited from.
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Another question I have is how can parents effectively communicate with their
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kids about bowling? Like Blanca,
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has your daughter been approaching you about these things or have you
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just been noticing or like,
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how can we have that conversation?
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Yeah. So with my daughter,
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she was more hesitant because she's very sensitive to the needs of
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others. She's very empathic.
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So I didn't know about most of the stuff that was
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happening until I slowly started seeing her starting to deteriorate.
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So she started having eating issues,
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sleeping issues, scratching herself.
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She has two sides on her neck where she scratched herself raw
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from the anxiety. So I started seeing more and more
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of these really disturbing behaviors and I finally was like,
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something's going on. You need to tell me and she's like
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well, I don't want to get anyone in trouble and
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then they're going to say I'm a tattle tale and this is
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embarrassing. So I really had to pull it out of her
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She just has a big heart when it comes to communication of
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what it looks like to see that help.
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Communication is important. Yes.
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But I think also mimicking or modeling that for her like it's
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Help doesn't equate weakness.
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You know, telling her she's not crazy for feeling the way
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she is, even though these other colleagues or peers may make
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That is not the case.
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And on top of that is encouraging her about her personality,
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her characteristic and in the stage that she's in it is
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industry versus inferiority.
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Meaning this is when she builds up self-confidence over her abilities.
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So when she's at home,
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reassuring her of her abilities and empowering that ensuring her resilience and
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strength, so she can now bring those abilities when you're not
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present or those skills or her voice and empowering that to school
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So that conversation is creating that trusting and safe space with
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her first validating those feelings and reassuring her.
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I love that. And thank you so much.
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That makes a lot of sense because I know for her,
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it was like she was so used to kind of in her
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mind putting everyone else's feelings first and not wanting to hurt other
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people just by speaking on her,
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on her needs, like kind of like what you said about
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her feelings and and herself,
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her pain. So kind of what her therapist too was sharing
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was exactly what you said.
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And also to try to let her know that her feelings matter
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too. Not just the feelings of the bullies or all the
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people who are ganging up on her.
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What can parents do?
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They suspect their kid is being subject to bullying?
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Can they go to the school or as a parent?
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What would be the first?
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That's a very tricky situation because sometimes they're not ready to,
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they're not there yet and there is valid fear around that.
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being able to build that trust with them that everything's going to
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be ok. This is to help you and this is to
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also teach a lesson to bullies and and be able to have
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even a sit down conversation with counselors or parents on what's happening
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and even getting a therapist for the bully,
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you know, if you need be your resources because these are
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projections of one's personal experiences most of the time.
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Thank you again, Blanca for your time and for your vulnerability
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and just sharing your own experience and for you at link for
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joining us and sharing your,
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you know, your insights with Blanca and where can people find
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resources and your social and stuff like that to be in touch
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with you? Of course.
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Well, I work at Abundance Therapy Center.
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We have phenomenal therapists there,
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email me there with my,
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my name, full name at Abundant Therapy center.com and I can
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provide resources like referrals elsewhere,
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other other therapy platforms like alma are really good octave I believe
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it's called those are phenomenal.
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As far as finding a therapist that's suited for your needs
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thank you Blanca and thank you,
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Elena again. Thank you.
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Thank you for having me.
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Thank you Blanca. Oh,
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we're rolling. Sorry.
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We have a lot of celebrities that come in but I'm starstruck
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We're starstruck super star struck.
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Thank you for having me here.
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Me too. Thank you for stopping by.
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We know you are super busy these days.
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I want to ask Chila,
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did you choose this life or does this life choose you?
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Hey, what can I tell you,
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man? The spotlight chose me.
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You know, I was just minding my own business and then
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one day all of a sudden boom said es con la Cosa
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Oh really? And actually I was wondering,
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do you have that dog in you?
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Will there be any baby Chilaquiles in the future or what's your
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dating life like? No,
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there's no baby Chilaquiles.
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Unfortunately, it'd be really cute though.
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I'm not going to lie.
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My love life is a little bit complicated.
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You know, there's this one dog,
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Mamba Sita, but that's all I can say right now.
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He's flirting with. Let me tell you we go to like
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us. A cute chihuahua walks by.
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Are you allowed to sniff or do you only keep it like
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golden? Don't get me started?
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I'm not allowed to sniff.
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I try to keep it golden but sometimes some perro you a
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bad boy. What's the craziest thing you got on your DM
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I got a lot of picture set.
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I'm not going to say about what I'll say for work.
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So we're very popular all over Instagram and tiktok.
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But do you get recognized in person?
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There's been a couple of cars that have pulled over and been
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like, oh my God is a Chila and then I started
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getting really, really freaking excited summers around the corner.
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Any words of wisdom chil that other people can,
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you know that can inspire other people.
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Some wise words. What can I say,
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man? Just take it easy,
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take it easy, be nice to each other.
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Be nice. World at of sunscreen.
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OK. That touched my heart.
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I felt that we know you're a big doggy influencer.
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So we want to ask you,
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where can people follow you on tiktok,
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Instagram? You can find me at Golden Chile on tiktok and
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on Instagram and Facebook and youtube.
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Perfect. That's great.
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You won't be disappointed guys.
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Thank you so much for coming on.
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You're the best guest we've ever had.
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Thank you guys. Thank you for this interview.
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What a great episode guys.
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So good. What do you think like you bro,
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everyone here was Fang going so hard.
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Oh my God, I've never seen that before.
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Seriously. One of my favorite guests on the show and you
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know, when you meet someone that's famous or like a on
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social media or celebrities and you're like,
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damn, like, I wonder how they're in real life and
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sometimes you get kind of disappointed and you're like,
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oh I say, don't be your heroes,
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but I met my hero and he is,
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I didn't think I could love him even more and I do
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es un amor how our coworker Daniela would say he definitely brings
23:22
that golden retriever energy.
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You know, there is so much charisma,
23:25
but anyhoo, thank you guys for joining us.
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I'm Jenny and I'm Alejandro and we'll see you next week for
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another episode of Lincoln Bio.
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Bye guys. I'll park on the street y'all.
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Bye long, long weekend.
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