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The Audacity Of Being a Boss with Dariany Santana

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The ladies welcome Dariany Santana, an influencer and restaurateur to chat about smart money moves, dealing with life’s curveballs, and what it’s really like to work with friends
Show transcript
00:00
Dadiani.
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You're the food goddess.
00:03
So I'm assuming that there's some kind of food in your purpose
00:05
I just love to feed people, whether it's feed them with love
00:08
feed them with food.
00:09
Did you know anything about opening a business?
00:14
You had no idea.
00:15
And your dad didn't eat between me and my dad.
00:17
We had officially zero years of restaurant.
00:20
The best advice you could give anybody is spend as much time
00:23
with yourself.
00:29
I'm gonna be honest, I don't know how to swim.
00:31
Y'all bitches are leaving me or not, but you really don't know
00:34
how to.
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I would, I would honestly, I would just say, hey, like, why
00:37
don't you lay out?
00:38
I'm gonna just run in the water.
00:40
Why don't you stay on the shore?
00:42
Why don't you learn?
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Isn't that first of all?
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No, no, I will teach you.
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I will teach you.
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Yes, it is.
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You move your arms and legs.
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That's actually true.
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I feel like it is.
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It at some point in certain things you just wanna learn in life
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Like learning how to drive.
00:53
I don't know how to drive either.
00:55
Well, you, you know how to write a sense Yes.
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See, I can't ride a bike so I can't judge.
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I do with these life skills.
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I'm from New York City.
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We only need to learn how to survive crime and everything else
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falls to the wayside.
01:06
What about aliens?
01:07
Can you survive aliens?
01:09
We're going to talk about the news I have before we get too deep
01:13
I do want to welcome Darian Santana to the couch.
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She's going to be joining us in our girl talk.
01:19
And I want to know, do you believe in aliens?
01:21
Absolutely.
01:22
You think there's the giant universe?
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And we're the only ones that are here?
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No, no, it doesn't make sense.
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I'm not ready to meet the alien but they're not ready to meet
01:32
us either.
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Which is, I think that's why at this point I have to, I think
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I dated an alien.
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If there's a 6 ft five alien, that trauma, he's coming here
01:43
in peace.
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Which is exactly what I dated for a whole year, two years.
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An A, he was seven.
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I just, I had no idea what this being was, but he showed up in
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my life.
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You guys, I, I don't believe you show us a picture, no pictures
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He doesn't take pictures.
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He doesn't exist anymore.
02:00
It's like, it's like in and out 67, just like very slept, like
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like every night you slept like, and you were next to this
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man every night and he had like earphones on that had like,
02:11
this certain frequency every night and I would be like this
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I, I'm not joking, wake up in the morning.
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Why did you wake up in the morning?
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Because I was so intrigued and he taught me so much about so
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many things.
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Like what, like what he was a shape about.
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Like he, no, he, he was an A, he was a palad.
02:28
I'm not talking about like, how long did you date him for, for
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two years?
02:36
Two years and you slept next to a man who sleeps like this all
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the time?
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Ok.
02:40
First of all, at some point in the relationship, I have to ask
02:43
for ID.
02:43
Did you ever look at his ID?
02:44
My body is shaking because I feel like I'm not supposed to be
02:46
talking like the galactic federation was like, what are you
02:48
doing?
02:49
Federation?
02:51
Let's move on.
02:52
I do believe in them.
02:54
I don't know.
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Yeah.
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Acting has gotten so much better.
02:57
I believe you.
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I'm using the podcast as the practice of my act.
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This is, no, I'm serious.
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I'm not joking.
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Ask my family, ask anybody.
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I don't know, I don't know about.
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And your whole family thought like there was like a sketchy
03:07
not sketchy aliens aren't sketchy.
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He better than he was incredible.
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He was an amazing human being.
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Oh my God.
03:14
We're the worst humans.
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What do you think?
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If there was a dating app for aliens?
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I might actually sign up because I'm sick of humans.
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I don't want to look, look, I don't look, you know, I'm going
03:26
through a lot of the podcast but I don't think I'm ready to date
03:28
an alien.
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They probably have different rules.
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They probably don't, different culture, different culture
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They probably don't like, I'm loud.
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They don't make, it's all telepathic.
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They don't wait a minute.
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Hold on.
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You guys, wait, they look for me.
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I'm like, how self cer is that the aliens stopped the United
03:43
States out of all the countries.
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They came here first.
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That's weird.
03:47
That is a good point.
03:48
Ok.
03:48
Well, with everything going on on the planet, do you feel like
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do you have a purpose here?
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The alien on purpose?
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Do you have a purpose?
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What's going on?
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What's your purpose?
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Ivana?
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I'm nosy.
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My purpose, my purpose.
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I feel as though I am here to better young lives through sports
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art and education.
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Look at it.
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She got my goal but it didn't come out of nowhere.
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It was, it was kind of like an epiphany throughout my career
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and my life.
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I've been able to build and rebuild basketball courts all
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over the world in low income communities.
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And I've had the opportunity to like, see the impact that just
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a small amount of service can do on a community and especially
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kids.
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I think kids are the ones that need the most love and the most
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guidance and so being able to go to these different countries
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and see how much just painting a court and bringing basketballs
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and uniforms to these 30 kids can enhance their, their lives
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Imagine what you can do when you have support and you know,
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the means to actually make a big impact and like, actually
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enhance communities one at a time, even though, I mean, we
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need all hands on deck.
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You know, like the world is never going to be at peace any time
04:54
in our lifetime anytime soon we were be.
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But before that, I think that you don't know the power of changing
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somebody's life.
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Like it's not about changing the world.
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It's about changing one person's world and that one person
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can change the next person.
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It's like a ripple effect through life.
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So like don't ever underestimate the power that you have to
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make this world a better place.
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You know what I mean?
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So I think that my purpose is to use my passions, which is sports
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and art education and do what I can with that just in my little
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community and then from there, whoever you can be mad from
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that will lead the way I love that.
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And Dan, you're the food goddess.
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So I'm assuming that there's some kind of food in your purpose
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0 100%.
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When I think of my purpose, it comes back to nurturing, it comes
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back to being maternal even though I'm not a mom yet.
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Um Yeah, I love to just cook for people.
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I just love to feed people whether it's like feed them with
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love, feed them with food, you know, so metaphorically feeding
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them and literally feeding them because who taught you to
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cook or how, how long have you been doing that since I was a little
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kid.
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My mom, my mom worked pretty much every day.
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So when she came home from work, she'd be, she'd also cook every
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day.
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Um So she wanted to spend time with my sister and I, so it was
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we were always in the kitchen with her.
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So she'd have us, like, chopping the Sofrito or cutting olives
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Um, so I was always in the kitchen with her and, yeah, I just
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started cooking, I think when I was like 10.
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Um, so what's your go to plate?
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Like, if there was like, if you, if people were like, show us
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you got, what would you cook yesterday?
06:24
Yeah, for sure.
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Because it's just like home.
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It's the most homey meal and then you make it with Plato Maduros
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and now a and it's just so flavorful and it's also, you make
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it in one pot.
06:38
So you're ready to get married, by the way I got you.
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Are you, are you, I can help you find, I mean, your partner,
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your partner.
06:54
So then, so then when did this, you started cooking?
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I mean, I know you're a host and you've been in the game for a
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long time.
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So, when did you kind of like direct your attention to just
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cooking?
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And now if nobody knows she has her own restaurant in New Jersey
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that's been getting a lot of accolades and a lot of like, you
07:11
know, recognition.
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So when did that shift?
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So I decided when I was 24 I wanted to be a TV host.
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It just, I had this epiphany, right?
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So I started doing, thanks Pumpkin.
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Um And then I started doing it.
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I got an agent short after and she was like, listen, you need
07:25
a niche because nowadays, um there's very few Ryan Seacrest
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of the world.
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They're just like, I'm a host that hosts the show.
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It's like, I'm the HD TV guy or the guy, fiery food guy.
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So I immediately knew it was going to be food.
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Um And then I'm very much like I hit the ground running.
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You told me that?
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Ok, what do I gotta do?
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So I did like a food blog and immediately started changing
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my socials to food and food oriented things.
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Six months later, my dad approached me and was like, I want
07:50
to open a Cuban restaurant.
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Um I wanna borrow money from you and I was like, I thought about
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it for a second.
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I was like, oh, I'll give you the money.
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I was like, but I wanna be the co-owner.
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Um Well, for many reasons, one, there's a lot of reasons, right
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One, it was like any opportunity to make, to make my parents'
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dreams come true.
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I have to do two.
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I had the foresight.
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I was like, this is what's gonna enable me to really be a voice
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in the food space.
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It's not just like, I love food.
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It's like now I own a restaurant.
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Um, and getting, getting the recognition and people actually
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validating it.
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You know, that you could say you're an actress but nothing
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to show for it.
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People are like, yeah, she's an actress and that's the thing
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too, you know, as a female, as a minority, I've always had to
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kind of go above and beyond to prove myself.
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And I've been vividly aware of that.
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So I knew that I was like, OK, you can't tell me nothing, right
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I own, I opened a restaurant and then, yeah, lastly, I just
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had the foresight and I knew this was gonna propel me to do different
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kind of food shows.
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And yeah, and I also just knew like to have a restaurant with
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my dad.
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It's now two generations that are, you know, two heads are
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better than 12 generations.
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So, I mean, so we have a young entrepreneur in our hands right
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now.
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And did you, did you know anything about opening?
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Not, not an entrepreneur means someone who starts a business
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with knowing there's a high risk of loss.
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That's what it is.
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You had no idea and your dad didn't eat between me and my dad
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we had officially zero of restaurant.
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Where do you think about everything that goes into it?
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Like just down to the location, the vibe, the colors.
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What kind of like logo where you're getting your food from
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I've never obviously opened a restaurant.
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So subjectively insane.
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Where did you start?
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How many years we're about to make?
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Eight years?
09:43
That's amazing.
09:45
Oh, my good.
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OK.
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So let me start.
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Right.
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So because my dad, somebody came up to him because they had
09:52
a failed restaurant in that location.
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Now, this is why I say it was objectively a bad idea.
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Opening a restaurant is one of the high, most high risk industries
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in the world.
10:00
It's I believe it's 50% open close in the first year.
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Like the numbers are insane.
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That particular location there was always restaurants in
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and out.
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It just wasn't a good location.
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Um to reiterate my dad and I had zero experience in the restaurant
10:13
industry.
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I worked one day at one and then I left because I had an anxiety
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attack.
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Um I know.
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No, it's, it's, I'm telling you it's like insane.
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Also, my dad didn't notorious, didn't like notoriously have
10:25
a good track record with businesses.
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Hence why he was trying to borrow money.
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Uh Re um no, I'm kidding.
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What's a sign?
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September 25th.
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He's a zero A Libra, whichever you guys say that he's a, he's
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a Libra.
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But yeah.
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So anyway, long story short, which is impossible.
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Because you're going to still get the long story.
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He had that location already.
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And I initially, it was only a certain amount of money I gave
10:50
him that and then he just poured everything into that business
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man.
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Like I'd never seen the side of my dad that was amazing at decorating
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Like if you go to my restaurant, he killed it.
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Can I ask a transparent?
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You can ask what can you give us a range of what that amount was
11:08
So I I don't give a shit.
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I initially gave him, I want to say it was just like $15,000
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to start the business.
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Well, he already had the location.
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You own the location.
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No, no, no, no, you rent it.
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Um So that's yeah, that's how it started.
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It was just figuring things out.
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I mean, you mentioned the logo.
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I designed the logo.
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Shout out to my high school um Photoshop teacher Miss Wilkinson
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because let me tell you I have gotten so much worth from her
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class.
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I designed the logo.
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I designed the menu, you know what it is.
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It's so hard for me to sometimes take credit for being like
11:43
ballsy and doing.
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My grandparents came from Cuba with $0 with zero knowledge
11:49
of the language and made shit happen.
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You've done so many in a couple different things and I think
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in each of those lanes, you were fulfilling some sort of purpose
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my purpose for a long time was making my parents proud and
12:01
making my parents happy.
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But I need to fill my cup and I need to be the happiest because
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that's what's going to allow me to be the best version of myself
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I know, I know I jump around because I'm a Gemini but I didn't
12:15
get to hear your purpose after that.
12:17
Ok.
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Wait, it's funny because I know you guys asked us this off screen
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or off camera.
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You're like, ok, we're going to talk about our purpose.
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And I sat there and I thought, and I thought, and I thought I'm
12:25
like, oh my God, what am I going to say?
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Is it that I want to be a mom one day?
12:27
Is it that I want to inspire the world?
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And then I was like freaking out about it because I was like
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what am I going to say?
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And then I realized sometimes you're just figuring it out
12:36
as you go.
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And that's OK.
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And I think I am right there where I am like, I don't want to feel
12:42
so much pressure on putting myself in this one thing of like
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this is my purpose.
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It's like I've had different purposes along the path and I've
12:50
fulfilled some of those as my mind changes, my, my, my desires
12:55
change, my purpose changes.
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So I think for me, like my purpose is I figure it out as I go.
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If I feel like I can make an impact in that particular project
13:03
in that friendship and, you know, that situation, I'll do
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it.
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Um, and if I don't, then I won't get, I won't involve myself
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So that's kind of where I am because I do feel pressure sometimes
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I'm like, oh, my God, what is my purpose?
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I think your purpose is something that you will continue to
13:17
fulfill as life goes on.
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You know, it, the more you learn, the more experiences, the
13:22
more like knowledge you have, you're able to even better make
13:26
it, make a difference and know what you, who you are.
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How are you going to know your purpose if you don't even know
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who you are and we do what you like what you Yeah, because you're
13:33
like, everybody's fulfilling their purpose.
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They're opening up a business here doing that.
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And sometimes I'm like, oh my gosh, like what, what's my next
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thing?
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Like, what am I doing?
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It's like, look around, smell the roses, you know, enjoy where
13:45
we're each at.
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And the better thing is like, what's your passion?
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Like?
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What do you love?
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Because then from there that's where you can really figure
13:51
out some sort of purpose.
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Like how you cooking because yeah, I think everybody here
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has multiple purposes.
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I know yours isn't just food.
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Like you're a first off, you're a comedian as well.
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She does so many things.
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Talk about why are you making that phase?
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You're like, uh, because you are, you've done stand up.
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Have you?
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It's fun.
14:08
I love it.
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You stand up.
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You've done so many incredible different things and I think
14:12
in each of those lanes you were fulfilling some sort of purpose
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for sure.
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But, you know, it's funny how we were talking about your purpose
14:18
changing when my purpose for a long time was making my parents
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proud and making my parents happy.
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That's what you were doing it for.
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Yeah.
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And, and for the record, that's a beautiful, humble thing
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But last year taught me that.
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No, no, no.
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It's 100% about me.
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And that's not egocentric, but it's, I need to fill my cup and
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I need to be the happiest because that's what's going to allow
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me to be the best version of myself.
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Um But ironically, in opening my restaurant, I kind of killed
14:49
two birds with one stone.
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But yeah, I think it's beautiful that our purposes are malleable
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because that's what we're supposed to be.
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We're supposed to flow.
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I feel like being on this.
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I think I talk about it a lot like being on this podcast.
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I always had a vision of what I wanted my career.
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And then I started doing this podcast.
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I'm like, I really enjoy getting to know other people and I
15:07
really enjoy a lot of what this podcast is for me and why I love
15:11
being on here is because in my stand up, I explore a lot of relationship
15:15
things and I want to, I want to help women get in the right relationship
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even though maybe I should help myself first.
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You're like, I can take my own advice.
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But for a long time I've been, don't play like that.
15:27
I've been in a lot of bad relationships.
15:29
A lot of bad friendships, sometimes my own fault.
15:31
We talked about that.
15:32
I think earlier, a lot of abusive relationships that I've
15:35
overcome.
15:35
And I'm like, I want, when I first started learning about stand
15:38
up, I learned in my early twenties, I was like, wow, this person
15:41
is saying everything I have on my mind.
15:43
So I want to be that person for other women where I'm like, you
15:46
don't, you don't, you have to be like me.
15:48
I make a lot of mistakes but I don't want you to be in an abusive
15:50
relationship.
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And that's for me where I want to serve women in that way.
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And even men, men are also sometimes in an abusive relationship
15:58
So I want to, I want to help people be better at being in healthier
16:02
spaces.
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And you know what else?
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I think you're so good at honestly is that you put yourself
16:07
out there of flaws and all and you own it.
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And then that makes other people look at you and be like, oh
16:11
my God, like, OK, I'm not that crazy or like, you know, people
16:14
really relate to that.
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I think that's so beautiful because it's not easy putting
16:17
yourself in the cross fire.
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I've always been ok with being self deprecating.
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I learned that word when I was working in a restaurant one time
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And this lady was like, oh my God, you're self deprecating
16:24
I'm like, bitch, what does that mean?
16:25
And it was like, I was like, oh yeah, I always put myself in the
16:28
fire.
16:29
What I wanted to say not to be all super sensitive.
16:31
But I think that you've taught me how to be more kinder.
16:33
Like I know that you talk a lot about God.
16:35
And I'm like, even when we, I just started doing this project
16:38
I was like, yo, maybe it has inspired me to explore my relationship
16:41
with God.
16:42
So I think that you have something there, Jessica where it's
16:44
like you have helped me.
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I'm like, I see the way that you live your life and you're blogging
16:48
everything.
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And I'm like, I want to explore that part of me of how can I be
16:52
a little more kinder to myself and to other people.
16:55
I'm not saying that I'm like this horrible person, but I can
16:58
be a little bit more like, you know, kind.
17:02
Yeah.
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So I was just saying, you taught me, I think that we're all teaching
17:05
each other things.
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That's the thing.
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Yeah, for sure.
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And um for you and I wanted to ask you this because I know you
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come from a hosting background.
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I'm also a host and I know we've been in the hosting circuit
17:14
for a while.
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Like sometimes, like in the past, there would be times where
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she would hear an opportunity and throw it my way or vice versa
17:21
It, you have to support at the end of the day.
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You as like somebody in the industry, when would you like,
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how would you decipher whether an opportunity was for you
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Whether that was like, whether the environment is right?
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Because you want to make sure that people are right.
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We were even talking about this in the green room.
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You're like, you guys are lucky.
17:35
You guys all genuinely get along because it could be horrible
17:38
getting on a podcast with like people, you genuinely don't
17:41
even like, like or you know, it's just bad energy.
17:45
Yeah.
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No, that's a good question.
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Um I really just in tune with my gut and I know that sounds like
17:51
cliche, but it's really true.
17:52
I think all of our knowledge lives in our body.
17:55
Um And I just trust myself, you know, because the second I hear
18:00
something or I walk into a space and I'm like, this doesn't
18:03
feel like it aligns and sometimes it's hard, sometimes it's
18:06
hard saying no to things because maybe it'll pay pretty well
18:10
But if something doesn't feel right in my body, I'm like, yeah
18:14
also just saying no is one of the most powerful things you
18:17
can do.
18:18
Have you said no to really, really big opportunities because
18:20
it just, yeah, I've said no to things and I'm like, ah, this
18:24
doesn't feel fully on brand for me or how, how, how do you know
18:29
how to trust yourself in these arguments?
18:30
Like, how did you learn to trust yourself?
18:32
Like anything else?
18:33
It's life or nothing but patterns and repetition, right?
18:35
So, if you are faced with a small decision to make and you confidently
18:41
make it and you're like, oh, that's all good.
18:43
And you keep doing that and you keep doing that, we're just
18:45
patterns.
18:45
That's all we are humans.
18:46
We're not that complicated when we.
18:49
So because I've trusted myself in the past, I know that it's
18:52
going to work also.
18:52
I just fully know that everything is always going to work in
18:55
my favor.
18:55
I'm completely um like I can, I can't be negative.
19:00
Like I just know life is rigged my favorite, but it's so crazy
19:03
because saying no to that decision allowed me to like book
19:07
something dope that would have been on that same day.
19:09
Like, yeah, I run a lot of shows, right?
19:12
So I do a lot of live comedy shows and a lot of the times when you
19:14
do a show, people like put you in a brand and like they know you
19:17
for that.
19:18
So when you walk away, they're like all up in your business
19:19
Like why did you walk away from this?
19:21
And I remember walking away from a project earlier last year
19:23
I was like, yo was I dumb for that and, and you know, you have
19:26
multiple goals at once and one of my goals was to be to go viral
19:30
not because of like vanity stuff, but like, I feel like it
19:32
means stuff to other people.
19:33
So I walked away and I was like, damn, I fucked up my entire career
19:36
And the next day I went viral for being Rihanna and I was like
19:39
OK, well, maybe there's another opportunity, like what
19:42
I'm trying to say when one door shuts, that's such a vanity
19:46
thing.
19:46
But when one door closes, there's always another opportunity
19:49
somewhere else.
19:50
And I feel like it was God saying, girl, you don't need to attach
19:53
yourself to this brand because you have your own stuff going
19:55
on.
19:56
So I don't know, I just had a lot of things in comedy where I was
19:59
like, yo, did I just ruin my career by like, did I burn this bridge
20:02
and like these careers that we have hosting acting doing stand
20:06
up?
20:07
They're very much relationship based.
20:08
So like if you rub somebody the wrong way, you're like, damn
20:11
I messed up.
20:11
But I'm like, well, it's not for you is not for you.
20:13
And I'm like, you don't have to be for everybody.
20:15
You don't have to do everything.
20:16
And like you said, just trust the fact that you've got this
20:19
far.
20:20
So you're gonna whatever got you this far.
20:22
Just know that there's more to come.
20:23
Plus, you know, you're doing this thing that we do all the time
20:26
They're like, did I ruin it?
20:27
Oh, my God.
20:28
Was it the worst all the time?
20:29
We all our brain?
20:30
And that's because our brains protecting us, our brain is
20:32
like, let's make sure that, oh my God, it's the worst thing
20:35
whenever has it been as bad or worse than what you imagined
20:40
Never.
20:40
You're always like, oh, actually that wasn't.
20:44
So that's what fear is.
20:45
It's like our brain protecting us.
20:46
It's our brain being like, well, let's imagine the worst possible
20:49
scenario.
20:50
So we're prepared for it and it's literally never as bad.
20:54
So it's like, why don't you skip that step because you're just
20:56
lowering your vibration and feeling like a poop.
21:00
I was lowering my, I was like, oh my God, I messed up.
21:03
But speaking of vibrations, do you feel like entrepreneurship
21:06
is very spiritual?
21:07
Because I feel like it is like, it's, I guess we all are on a different
21:11
path.
21:12
But for me, I'm like, every choice that I make in my career.
21:14
Like, I know that I remember the last episode.
21:16
You're like, what are you doing with your laptop?
21:17
Would comedy not work?
21:19
I know that you mentioned like very, you know, I've never really
21:23
been on vacation without my laptop.
21:25
So what are you doing on your laptop?
21:26
You're a comedian.
21:27
First of all, there's a lot of admin motherfuckers always
21:30
want to play, I remember you, you, somebody was like, you're
21:36
doing work and I'm like, you and I don't, I'm trying to stay
21:42
in my zone right here.
21:44
I didn't say the whole time she's writing her comedy.
21:48
All I'm saying is that stand up is real.
21:51
There's a lot, there's a lot I consider, even though I'm an
21:55
artist, I still consider the business side of stand up, which
21:57
is like, you know, getting paid and booking a relationship
22:00
with the clubs and all these things.
22:02
And there's a lot of, and I just feel like it's a spiritual thing
22:04
for me where it's like the path that I'm on is very like there's
22:08
something bigger than me working.
22:09
Does that make sense?
22:11
It's like you, what are some things that you think entrepreneurs
22:17
the mindset that they have to have in order to have a successful
22:20
business?
22:20
Well, OK, let's bring it back to 2015, right?
22:23
Because that's how it started.
22:26
Not that you do have to be crazy, but you do have to just be like
22:30
no, I'm gonna win.
22:32
Um And that's something that I knew going in and again, we had
22:35
literally everything going against us.
22:37
What's crazy is right before we opened, I remember I walked
22:40
outside of the restaurant and right next door was like a little
22:42
beauty shop and one of this, this Viejito, this old dude was
22:46
sweeping up and he's like, listen, I gotta be honest with you
22:50
I've seen restaurants open and closed restaurants don't
22:52
last more than 34 months here.
22:54
He's like, I don't want to be negative, but I just want to let
22:56
you know that and I was like, I just want to let you know that
23:00
we're going to make it years.
23:02
I was like, a matter of fact, you want to be, will be here after
23:05
a year.
23:05
He still owes me $500.
23:09
I mean, listen, I don't think he meant it in a bad way.
23:12
I really look out for it.
23:14
Yeah, because honestly it was the truth.
23:16
But I'm like, you don't know who he's talking to.
23:18
I hate when people put their limitations on you.
23:20
And I think that could be a business thing or your own artist
23:24
is like, oh, that never happens.
23:25
I used to get that a lot when I first started stand up.
23:27
I'm like me and my, me and my God, we're good and I think you just
23:32
have to really believe in yourself so much so that anything
23:35
that anybody says just falls off of you.
23:38
I was an actress, I'm investing in myself.
23:41
I mean, I don't know what the future holds.
23:45
I just know in my heart that whatever my dream is gonna come
23:48
true because I'm not gonna give up and it's gonna happen.
23:50
I mean, I was living in my parents' house two year like a year
23:54
ago just sitting there doing my auditions every single day
23:57
My mom, my dad would be like, what happened today?
23:59
I'm like, it's coming, dad, it's, I'm gonna get this one every
24:01
time I made an audition, go on into the bed.
24:03
Like mom and dad, like, they would help me run lines and then
24:06
all of a sudden I was like, don't worry, guys can, can uh that
24:08
can I borrow some money to take acting classes?
24:10
She's like, of course, I like, I'm an investment that trust
24:11
me one day, I'm gonna get it back.
24:12
He's like, I know, I know he's always supported me.
24:15
I've had to, I, I owed them so much money for helping me get this
24:17
far and I finally moved out and I finally have my own spot and
24:20
I'm finally growing.
24:21
But you have to really believe yourself and take a risk on yourself
24:25
because that's the only way you could learn.
24:26
And if you fail, you fail, you fall, you fall.
24:28
But that's when you actually learn how to build yourself up
24:31
And I wish I know that not to bring him back to boys, but I wish
24:34
I had that same mindset with a guy.
24:37
Like if he's not super excited about being with me, it's a no
24:40
same thing that I know.
24:42
I'm not saying.
24:42
You're saying, I wish your words powerful.
24:45
I will.
24:46
I don't even believe in the word failure.
24:47
Like I don't, I don't really think it because to me, a failure
24:50
would mean that whatever you wanted to do, didn't come to fruition
24:53
and you didn't learn anything from it.
24:55
I've learned from every single facet of my life.
24:58
So what it, you know what I'm saying?
25:00
But for example, failure.
25:02
When you, when you're younger and you think like a ticket is
25:05
the end of the world, an accident is the end of the world.
25:07
You don't know better.
25:09
I got fired.
25:10
Ok?
25:10
When I was, when I was 17, I worked for Red Bull and one morning
25:14
I didn't wake up and it was like the, my first job, I was so excited
25:18
I love sports.
25:18
I love Red Bull.
25:19
I was gonna go and I, my phone, I lost my phone.
25:22
Like I was out the night I lost my phone and I didn't wake up and
25:25
I didn't make it to work.
25:26
But I walked there like 3 p.m. I was like, I'm so sorry.
25:28
I, I and they were like, um go home.
25:31
We'll, we'll, we'll, we'll give you a call later.
25:33
And I was like, ok, my heart broke a little bit.
25:34
I was like, ok, I'll be fine.
25:35
I'll go tomorrow.
25:36
It's not a big deal.
25:36
They call me.
25:37
They're like, it's no call, no show.
25:40
No, no, no, no, I never even knew that existed.
25:44
I'm like, what is no call, no show.
25:45
Like at my first job I was shocked and my dad and my mom were like
25:48
what happened?
25:49
I was like, I just didn't wake up.
25:50
They're like, but then the next week I got my first interview
25:54
as an intern for Fox sports through a random serendipitous
25:58
thing.
25:59
And that opened my eyes to the corporate role of Fox.
26:03
And that's, and I worked there for 78 years.
26:05
So it's like when I thought I was in the worst place in my life
26:08
I would have never had the opportunity to interview as an
26:09
intern and never be where I am today.
26:11
So never give like, don't worry about the little mishaps because
26:15
sometimes it's what leads you to your and you knew for the fox
26:19
thing.
26:19
Oh, I have my phone.
26:20
I have to.
26:21
Oh, yeah, I was, I was like, mom, wake me up, dad, wake me up like
26:25
I, I even the birds wake me up because I'm not missing this.
26:28
So you become more responsive, you become so much more responsible
26:30
This doesn't have to do with career.
26:32
But I, I don't know if you, you probably don't know, but I, I'm
26:36
like, I was building out a van so I could like travel the country
26:38
and I got broken into it twice before it was built before it
26:42
was built.
26:43
And that and this was before I was going to hit the road, hit
26:46
the country and travel in it and actually live out of this tiny
26:49
home on wheels type deal.
26:51
So those two very traumatic situations where I'm getting
26:55
like two times, one week, everything stolen like crazy people
26:59
going in of my van.
27:01
I feel like that was God preparing me for if you're seriously
27:04
so set on traveling the country in a tiny home on wheels in this
27:07
van or whatever, you need to double triple, check the locks
27:11
every single time, add extra protection.
27:13
It's a crazy world out there.
27:14
There's a crazy men, women with really bad intentions.
27:17
I know you live in this bubble and you think nobody's going
27:19
to hurt you Jess.
27:20
But no, there's a lot of evil out there.
27:22
So I think again, like every mishap, not even just in the entrepreneur
27:25
space.
27:26
I think every mishap just in life is preparing you for something
27:30
even relationships.
27:31
It's like, OK, that's a red flag.
27:32
I'm going to avoid that next time.
27:33
Can I tell you what are my red flags in business if I have an idea
27:36
for something?
27:37
And I say, let's say, oh my God, we should do this and the person
27:39
hesitates.
27:40
It's a no, the answer should be like, yes, I know that sounds
27:44
really bad.
27:44
But the way people respond just lets you know that person is
27:47
not ready and I wish I know that not to bring him back to boys
27:50
But I wish I had that same mindset with a guy.
27:53
Like if he's not super excited about being with me, it's a no
27:57
same thing that I know I'm not saying you're saying.
27:59
I wish your words are so powerful I will remember how we asked
28:04
before about our purpose and you were saying that people give
28:07
limiting beliefs.
28:08
I think my purpose is the adverse of that, which is I want to
28:12
infect people with my like, like you can throw the hell you
28:17
want.
28:17
Don't argue with me.
28:18
Like I feel like that's my purpose.
28:20
I know I'm changing my answer for the test today.
28:24
No, that's because as you started with your business, did
28:29
you take any classes or read any books that we're going to enhance
28:32
your knowledge on?
28:33
Well, let's take you guys to when the business starts.
28:36
Because no, no, no, just because we are, you know, 7.5 years
28:40
later and now I can say it's successful.
28:43
But when it first started, oh my God.
28:45
First of all, the first month that it opened, I lost £10 and
28:48
that's not great for me.
28:51
It was because my anxiety was debilitating because it was
28:56
real and I wasn't just opening a, a restaurant.
29:00
I was opening it with my dad.
29:01
So the steaks are like, yeah, sure.
29:03
Like my money.
29:03
What I invested.
29:04
But it's like, oh my God, if this doesn't work, then my dad has
29:07
failed again.
29:10
So, no, I didn't take classes.
29:11
We just thugged it out.
29:13
Um Yeah.
29:15
No, but and for the record, the first couple of years were really
29:18
really, really hard.
29:19
You have Google and like, how do you do accounting?
29:21
How do you do you know, what are the things that you've learned
29:26
it?
29:26
You're just doing it.
29:27
What are the things, some of the nuggets that you could give
29:30
that equal successful business that, you know, you should
29:33
have prepared or that you should do while you're in it.
29:36
Well, for me and this is just how I approach life.
29:39
Right.
29:39
Because even though I'm like a TV host and all those things
29:41
that's still business.
29:42
So, one thing that was really important for me was to uh save
29:45
a certain amount of money.
29:46
You know, I don't come from uh my, our, our background growing
29:49
up, we money was not, was not great.
29:51
So I knew growing up I'm never gonna deal with financial stress
29:56
right?
29:56
So I always kept my credit good.
29:58
I always kept, I always saved a certain amount of money.
30:00
So that's good because it enables you to have less stress.
30:03
You know, did somebody teach you how to budget like that?
30:06
Oh, hell, no.
30:08
Trial and error.
30:09
What?
30:10
No.
30:11
In fact, one of the worst memories of my life was I tried to open
30:15
a United Credit card.
30:17
It must have been 20.
30:18
I'm going to say 2016 because I was like, yeah, I want to get
30:22
points with all the money I spend.
30:24
And I'm like, I know my credit is popping.
30:25
Like why wouldn't it be popping?
30:27
It wouldn't be bopping because um I forgot that I had opened
30:33
a Home Depot credit card for my dad and he took out, he, like
30:37
he maxed it out both cards.
30:40
So that was really hard because I was like, my biggest fear
30:42
growing up was bad.
30:43
Credit your credit for that because, you know, I think it was
30:47
only like, $6000 but it only, you got to talk like that on purpose
30:52
because that's like, you know what I mean?
30:54
You gotta be like, well, it's only a million dollars.
30:57
Um but yeah, you live and you learn, it's like, oh I learned
31:02
that I grabbed his credit card and I was like, I will no longer
31:06
just help you financially.
31:07
I had to really learn that because it was a boundary.
31:10
That was the lack of that boundary was really affecting my
31:13
mental health.
31:15
You're like, I'm cutting this credit card.
31:17
Yeah.
31:17
00 literally I was like, I don't care.
31:19
I paid it off.
31:20
Literally I paid off the full $6000.
31:22
I know balling out of control.
31:24
No, because I was like, no, because I was like, first of all
31:26
I was like, I just, I'm like, I'll never have bad credit.
31:28
I'm telling you like kids grew up being scared of monsters
31:31
I was scared of bad credit as a kid.
31:34
It was a real thing.
31:36
Yeah.
31:36
Oh no, that was because that's one of my biggest traumas is
31:40
a lack of money and the instability that comes from that.
31:43
I know the stress that that causes So I knew, I knew as a kid.
31:46
No, never going to deal with that.
31:48
So, what are you doing to maintain your?
31:50
I'm really good with budgets.
31:54
I'm cheap.
31:55
No.
31:56
Are you like an excel sheet type of girl?
31:57
Not really.
31:59
It's more i, the one really good advice I got from my ex boyfriend
32:04
was to live below your means and I did that for a really long
32:06
time.
32:07
What does that mean?
32:08
Exactly.
32:08
So, so he told me this, we must have, we must have been like 19
32:13
or 20.
32:14
He said live below your means.
32:16
So if you make $10,000 a month in your head, you make $7000 a
32:20
month.
32:20
You always live poor, poor than you do.
32:24
So, yeah, what are some money tips?
32:25
Because like, ok, like, let's say you get, let's say Ivana
32:28
books a great movie and she gets paid $30,000.
32:33
How much of that should go into savings and how much of that
32:35
Well, here's the thing.
32:35
It all depends on where you are too in your life.
32:38
Right.
32:38
So, for the first, sorry, it's, it's just, it's a nuanced answer
32:43
because in my twenties living below my means, that's what
32:46
it was for me.
32:47
I saved hella money.
32:48
But now that I'm in my thirties, I'm like, I've worked hard
32:52
I've built these foundations now.
32:54
It's time for me to spend more money and treat myself responsible
33:00
But because I'm now leaning into the feminine energy more
33:03
before I was more my masculine energy like the hustle mode
33:06
But now I'm like, no, now it's time that the universe is going
33:09
to talk about.
33:10
OK.
33:10
OK.
33:10
I want to know what made the shift between more in your masculine
33:15
because I relate to this a lot.
33:16
In my twenties.
33:17
I was so in my masculine energy, I was like career, career work
33:22
work.
33:22
I don't, you know, I don't, I don't want a man.
33:24
I think a lot of that was like the narrative that was around
33:27
me now, I'm like me, me, me, I'm more on my like feminine side
33:31
for sure.
33:32
And I think that I think a lot of females are feeling that way
33:34
now, but I've been seeing a lot, at least with my own friends
33:37
I'm like, well because it's not sustainable to just be one
33:39
right?
33:40
So I think, yeah, so last year, I have a word for how to explain
33:45
it.
33:45
Every year has a word started happening in like 2019.
33:48
My word of last year was balance because I realized my balance
33:52
wasn't off, it was off and when my balance is off, I don't feel
33:56
good.
33:56
And I was like, oh, I need to balance out this masculine and
34:00
feminine energy because I am innately very feminine.
34:03
A lot of my masculinity comes from being raised on the east
34:06
coast, being raised in a neighborhood where you have to protect
34:08
yourself.
34:09
You know, all of these things.
34:11
So yeah, it was just like, how do I reach this balance?
34:14
That's going to make me feel the best with how I'm living my
34:18
life because I was like, ok, you save them.
34:20
I'm like, no, it doesn't make sense.
34:22
Do you feel like when you're in your entrepreneur vibe and
34:25
you're like working at the restaurant or you're answering
34:28
emails from people trying to book you?
34:29
Are you more on your masculine or do you feel like you can still
34:31
kind of stay on your feminine energy doing that?
34:33
Definitely with restaurant stuff.
34:35
I switch a lot more to masculine, especially because it is
34:39
with my family.
34:40
And here's a thing about working with family is those dynamics
34:44
that are already established within the family flow into
34:48
that business.
34:49
Um So I have had to do a lot of healing so that I like really ground
34:55
myself before I enter the restaurant or before I talk to my
34:58
dad because I immediately want to revert back to old Dadiani
35:02
That's like I'm controlling everything.
35:04
I'm doing all these things and now I'm just like, no, that's
35:07
not who we are anymore.
35:09
So like, I feel bad that I can't give you like, I can't give you
35:12
a practical response in terms of if you make $30,000 because
35:15
I don't like telling people exactly what to do because it depends
35:19
on where and how much you ever saved already.
35:21
Like how much you have invested in as I know it's such a nuanced
35:23
answer because for some people, 50,000 is enough.
35:27
For some people, 5000 is enough.
35:29
You know, and for some people, what makes you feel safe is different
35:34
Like the best advice you could give anybody is spend as much
35:38
time with yourself.
35:39
That's the, those parts of yourself that you love, the parts
35:43
of yourself that you hate.
35:45
Because then you, then when you have that love with all parts
35:49
of yourself, that's when you'll really know what you want
35:53
to do and how you want to live your life and you're going to want
35:55
to protect yourself.
35:57
You know, I have a question about masculine, feminine energy
36:00
I feel like one of the things that I struggle with a lot as a woman
36:03
in business is negotiating and I feel like sometimes I think
36:07
I'm doing a good job.
36:08
But then I feel like, oh my God, what if I got played?
36:10
Have you ever felt like it can be from the restaurant or the
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hosting side where maybe you felt like you didn't negotiate
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because you were scared or something.
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This is an amazing question because we notoriously specifically
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as women and a lot of times as minorities, we, we always, not
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always, we will often lowball ourselves.
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And it's really because we're like, oh, well, I should just
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be grateful I have this job.
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And my God, if I ask for this much money, they're gonna give
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it to someone else.
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We do that a lot.
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Right.
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So my tricks for that is, first of all, I immediately got an
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agent because I was like, I don't want to deal with this for
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a long time.
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I was my own agent and I'm like, I hate this, I hate having to
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be the one that's like this is my.
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Yeah, that's so hard.
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And it's like we should advocate for ourselves, but I don't
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want to.
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No, I really don't want to.
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So getting an agent definitely rectifies that.
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Um But really the, what I was saying before in terms of being
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like, I didn't negotiate well enough or I could have asked
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for more.
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That's like a lack mindset, meaning like, well, if they ask
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for too much, they're going, they're going to want someone
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else.
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That energy sucks.
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That, do you know that time in your life when they're like,
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well, what's your rate?
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And you're, you're still in the early phases of how you feel
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about yourself and what you've been offering, even though
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you know that your experience and you've done the work and
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you put the mo the, the work and you still like what I, what I
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what's my worth?
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Should I ask for a little, should I ask for too much?
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And that's it.
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That was a really hard time for me, like your daily rate with
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your daily rate.
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And I asked everybody, well, what's my daily rate?
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Yeah.
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And then, and then say, what's your daily rate in my head?
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I, I would think this amount but I would never, who knows that
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they would accept it.
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But you have to ask for what you think you're worth.
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And it's crazy because even if you look at it from things from
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social media or even like a makeup artist are like, well, you're
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only working for an hour.
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Why are you charging that much or it's only a post?
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Well, it's taken me 10 years to get to build this community
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10 years of just posting, working, putting myself out there
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But you know, dealing with online bullying like 10 years of
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this, that's what you're paying for is like a genuine community
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that you're going to be, you know, posting your brand to or
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even just something like a makeup artist or somebody that
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does nails.
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Well, it only takes this long while charging that much.
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Well, it's taken me 1012 years of working experience for me
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to do that in that amount of time, one hour, you know, you're
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paying for the experience.
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And I think that's sometimes what we don't remember is like
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no.
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And as a host, it's like you're not paying for just me hosting
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for an hour.
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You're paying for like literally the 10, however long amount
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of time you've been in that business of experience and being
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able to think on your feet or whatever preparation you do before
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getting on set.
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You're studying as an actress.
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I mean, for an audition, I'm doing my hair.
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I'm buying an outfit.
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I'm studying three days before the audition.
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I'm hiring somebody to do my self tape to read with me.
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I'm driving an hour to the Valley.
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This is like $300 on audition that lasts two minutes.
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If not one that you never hear back from.
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So it's like people, it's a lot more than just what you see.
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There's so much history, even food and like a, like a plate
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of food.
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It's like you're paying for the rent, electricity, the supplies
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the labor, the cleaning of all the plates.
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Like you don't even think about that.
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I don't think about that when I go into a restaurant, man, that's
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such a, I hate when people are like, I can't believe how expensive
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this is.
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I'm like, have you not noticed how groceries have gone up?
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Do you think that restaurants are not?
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That's a big thing with me because we've had to obviously raise
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our prices in the past couple of years.
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Not more than once because obviously inflation and people
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have the audacity to complain.
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I'm like, first of all, you got to cook at your house.
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Why don't you cook?
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That's always an option.
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That's always an option.
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Look at me going into my masculine.
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It's right there.
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He's right there.
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If you could go back in time when your dad first moved here before
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he embarked on his business.
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What would you tell your dad's younger self?
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Give him all of the words of affirmation that he didn't get
40:10
as a kid.
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So I would just fill him with so much love and confidence and
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just be like regardless, you are here on this planet to thrive
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and you're going to thrive.
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One thing I would commend you.
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I cannot work with my mom.
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She is worse than experience credit report.
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She will be in my inbox, do this, do this, do this.
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She's so annoying like I just can't but I really appreciate
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I appreciate that you're able to put the family trauma.
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I think that's really beautiful to start a business with your
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parent.
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I would be the kind of daughter that would give my mom money
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and let her do.
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Just leave me.
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I just can't my mom and sometimes even friends like there will
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be times when you have a vision for something and you're like
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I want to bring this person with me and they're slowing you
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down and you have to let them know like yo, like I got into a big
40:57
ass fight.
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Sorry, can I say that?
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I'm sorry, I'll be cursing.
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I I have this residual fight with one of my friends because
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we started a comedy show together and for me, I'm very big on
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Roy.
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Maybe the Roy is not that what is Roy?
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Oh Return on investment.
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You guys know that first of all, I thought you said why I was
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like, no, why should be in the seo of this title?
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But Roy is a return on investment is the amount of energy money
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Is that coming back to me in some shape or form for me?
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Because I'm still in my very young infancy stage of comedy
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I'm like, what's important is that, are we selling tickets
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Do did I get to build a new set?
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You know, all of these things that matter to me.
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So we were throwing these shows and people were not coming
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I have other shows but for that show, people were not coming
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out.
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And I'm like, yo, like, I love working with you.
41:42
I think that you're a great friend but no one's coming to the
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show.
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I'm not gonna keep putting my time to produce a show that nobody's
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coming to.
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So we just have to let it go and she did not take that.
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Well, she's like, you always cancel all these projects that
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we have.
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I'm like, I love you, but there is no income coming in for this
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project.
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So God canceled this, not me, you know, like it's not even about
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eating in the beginning when you're starting off.
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It's about like I have to, for me it's really important to build
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shows.
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I'm building shows for my community.
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So the show that I have with my best friend, Sasha Maurice Nando
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it's a legacy show.
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I want people to always have something to come to while I'm
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all over the world.
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And I'm like this show, I want to work with you, but we're just
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not getting along.
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You don't get it when I don't feel like some people are a little
42:26
bit more emotional in business than others.
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And when I don't feel good, nobody could tell me what to do.
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And that's, I know that I have poor teamwork skills, but that's
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just me.
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I think that's really great.
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And I think that go into picking the right team.
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I was gonna say you're not supposed to picking the right marketing
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team, picking the right creative picking right CFO like whatever
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it is, like not everyone's for you.
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No.
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But at the same time, they're experts in their field and you
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need to trust that and you, you are in your field and they're
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doing their thing, you can't do everything, but you could
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choose the people that you think are gonna be really successful
43:05
in their jobs to make your business better.
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I think that's a big entrepreneur thing to have.
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I, oh yeah, I'm guessing.
43:10
But I had to learn that because again, my dynamic with my family
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was me being the grandma on the c you need to recognize people's
43:20
strengths and weaknesses, but we are amazing.
43:26
And before we ask, I have one more question for you because
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there are some amazing he a that we want to highlight.
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But before we do, I do want to ask if you could go back in time
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when your dad first moved here before he embarked on his business
43:36
journey and all the ups and downs of it.
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What would you tell your dad's younger self?
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That's an amazing question because I feel like I'm faced with
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my dad's inner child a lot.
43:47
I would give him all of the words of affirmation that he didn't
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get as a kid.
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Um Yeah, so I would just fill him with so much love and confidence
43:58
and just be like, just know that regardless you are here on
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this planet to thrive and you're going to thrive here, girl
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I love that.
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I really do that here, dad, man making it happen now.
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So many ups and downs child tribulations as an immigrant.
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That's what it's about.
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No excuses.
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Get out their work, fail.
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There's no such thing as failure to your family.
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You guys get back up every time you learn those lessons.
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So you never give a freaking damn.
44:29
This conversation kind of makes me think about my dad is an
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entrepreneur.
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He's so mysterious about it sometimes like, oh what do you
44:35
teach us?
44:35
Whatever, but you never know what your parents are actually
44:38
going through day to day and sometimes we got to step outside
44:41
of ourselves.
44:41
So I really appreciate you opening up and sharing that with
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us.
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I want to, we want to shout out some gas of the week.
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So we couldn't do the entrepreneur episode without shouting
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out some amazing hair fas and bosses that are doing their thing
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that we look up to as well.
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I want to shout out Priscilla Ono.
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Priscilla Ono became Rihanna's go to makeup artist.
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You know, I love me some Rihanna.
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And is she your makeup artist?
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I would love to work with Priscilla in the future.
45:10
I would love to be in a fancy campaign manifesting that would
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be good for the brand that would be good.
45:15
So yeah, she's Rihanna's go to makeup artist and Fenty Beauty
45:18
makeup global artist.
45:19
And she followed her passion to get there when she dropped
45:22
out of college at the age of 20 to pursue makeup full time.
45:24
Her Mexican immigrant parents were not pleased and her grandmother
45:27
didn't speak to her for two years until Priscilla appeared
45:30
on these parents were doing the most until they appeared until
45:34
she appeared on television, doing makeup and giving makeup
45:36
advice.
45:37
Today, she's also pursuing her other passions in fashion
45:40
teaming up with plus size fashion brands.
45:42
Ono's story is a testament to listening to that voice inside
45:45
guiding you to follow your passions even when others can't
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see the vision.
45:49
So shout out to Priscilla.
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Her makeup is always on point.
45:53
And then we got Jenny Rodriguez, a stylist who worked her way
45:57
up in the world of celebrity fashion from working at Power
46:00
106 radio station to Styling for E news and becoming Beyonce's
46:04
assistant stylist.
46:06
She says it's important to be patient.
46:08
Enjoy the journey because every thing that you go through
46:10
is meant to happen that way for a reason.
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What's crazy is that when I was working at Bueno sex, I would
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see her there all the time.
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She was always the best vibe.
46:19
It's so cool to see everything that is so many years.
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You really start from someplace.
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Look at or go, you wanna take this one?
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Oh, I'm doing it too.
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How exciting.
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OK.
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This is Desi Perkins.
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She's a Mexican American beauty guru and the founder of desi
46:34
eyewear and skin care from vlogging in early days of youtube
46:37
to developing two namesake beauty brands.
46:39
Dessie has not only been a beauty mogul but also an inspiration
46:43
to women suffering through infertility, which she has openly
46:47
spoken about before finally giving birth to her first child
46:50
at 36.
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OK.
46:52
There we go.
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And this is actually my home girl Daniela Legarda and her sister
46:58
Maria Legarda.
46:59
So they actually founded something called Hermanas at the
47:01
table.
47:02
So they throw these awesome events.
47:04
They've partnered up with Meta.
47:05
I've gone to a couple of the events where they just honestly
47:07
bring really, really dope girls from Los Angeles, Latinas
47:10
you guys need to come out to one of them just to get together
47:13
And again, she just kind of stands for the community.
47:16
She does fashion, she's dope, she does makeup, her content
47:18
is amazing.
47:19
So make sure you guys follow them.
47:21
They're awesome.
47:22
And thank you guys so much for tuning in.
47:24
What did you guys feel like you guys took away from this conversation
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Oh, there's just so much one that I feel like we're all on the
47:31
right path.
47:32
So I love that.
47:33
I love that.
47:33
We all kind of have the same kind of just the way that we approach
47:37
things of everything.
47:38
Let's think of it positively.
47:39
We are going to win versus thinking about what can go wrong
47:42
But from this conversation, I took that I should really, maybe
47:46
I don't know if I will ever go into business with my parents
47:48
But really no, I'm just being bad ass.
47:51
They are a lot.
47:52
But something I talked to my dad about is also like, what are
47:54
we going to do?
47:55
Your legacy?
47:55
How are we going to pass?
47:56
He has a trucking company where he distributes chips like
48:00
certain supermarkets, super dope.
48:01
And I'm like, how are we going to pass that on to someone else
48:03
Don't just give your years of hard work to keep sleeping in
48:06
the family.
48:07
So I want to have a conversation with my dad about that.
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So that's what I took away from this episode.
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It's amazing.
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I think for me honestly, I've uh you know, my parents moved
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here like Mexico, Colombia.
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I want to build wealth, y'all like I need to get better at saving
48:20
at budgeting start a business to where, when I'm asleep, I'm
48:24
making money.
48:24
It's not like I have to be putting in time to get money.
48:27
That's, that can be tough sometimes when you're only making
48:30
money while you're putting in time, why don't you let your
48:32
money work for you?
48:34
So I would love to passive income.
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I don't know, manifesting passive income.
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I think, I think I learned that if you do have this vision or
48:44
an idea or a dream just to go for it.
48:48
Even if you don't know the first thing where to start like you
48:52
like you, you and your parents, if you just keep putting 1 ft
48:56
in front of the other lane breaks down, you learn as you go and
48:58
if you have a passion for it and you never give up, I mean, something's
49:02
gotta give, something's gotta give baby.
49:04
And if you believe in yourself, it'll happen, who's gonna
49:06
tell you no, you create your reality?
49:08
So I think that's what I got out of it.
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Any last words?
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Yeah.
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I mean, I just, I just like you said, love getting to know different
49:16
people and seeing the different journeys that everybody's
49:19
on and just hope that everybody feels really good after this
49:25
and feels inspired and just know you do whatever the hell you
49:29
want, do not listen to the girl.
49:34
Let me tell you, you can do whatever you want.
49:38
You're on this planet because you're meant to thrive like
49:42
I was going to tell my dad's inner child you're here because
49:45
you're meant to thrive.
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Give us your Instagram at Tiani Santana.
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A lot of yummy food is on there.
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So good.
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Oh my God.
49:57
And now that I'm here in L A, I'll be watching her food like you
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go to food, restaurants and I'd be looking for recommendations
50:03
So I really appreciate that.
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I'm going to go eat there.
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The Lord's work over here.
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Follow her for sure.
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Thank you guys so much for tuning in to girl.
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Let me tell you, I'm Jessica Flores.
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I'm go, I'm dai, I'm Ivana Rojas and this is work on that every
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time it'll come.
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That was so sloppy.
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We were like, oh, do that again.