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Situationships vs. Relationships with Anjelah Johnson and Melissa Marty

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Comedian Anjelah Johnson gets real about motherhood while Melissa Marty explains her decision to hold off on having kids. Plus the ladies on the ins and outs of situationships.
Show transcript
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I don't wanna be in a relationship where I don't feel myself
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and for me to feel like myself, I have to be secure.
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A would you get back with a partner that cheated on you once
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you lose that trust, what are you supposed to do if the relationship
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is the right relationship?
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I don't think that it's work.
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How are you balancing motherhood with, with work?
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I wanna stay home with her and just be home and be a mom.
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But who can afford that?
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You know, my biggest, biggest, biggest dream is to be a mom
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is to be like at home.
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I have never had that feeling.
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I told my husband once I was like, I'm just gonna tell your mom
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at one point that maybe, maybe I just can't have kids.
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Friends will come and go, guys will come and go.
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But I only look at myself in the mirror and I have to wake up to
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her and I have to go to bed to her.
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So she's the person.
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What's up guys?
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We're back with another episode of Girl.
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Let me tell you and we are back with our host, guest host Chelsea
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Rendon girl.
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Bring back.
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We loved your energy.
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We brought you back.
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Of course, I love it.
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I'm here all the time whenever you need me.
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I, I suck at winking.
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I'm sorry, my best friend, like she does the cutest little
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wink.
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She does a whole little like, yeah, my winks always look like
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and I can't, I look weird.
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Well, we just wanna say thank you for being back here.
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Honestly, let's just all wink like the camera, I think.
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Yeah.
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To the camera versus to each other because we'll be able to
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say I'll start, I'll start.
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Oh my God.
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All right.
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Here we go.
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OK.
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00 a little, that's like a little does it.
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That's what I'm saying.
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That's the point.
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OK.
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OK.
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I'm gonna try to channel my inner Monica.
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OK.
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Wait.
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Oh Why is it that I could do it as my friend?
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But I can't do it as me an actress.
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Oh dude, that's why, that's why.
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All right guys, we're gonna get into what's in your feed.
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This is something that we've been seeing.
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These are topics that we constantly see on social media or
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on our feed right now.
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The big one being the new Kim Kardashian skims bra that has
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the, the nipple in it.
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You guys know what I'm talking about it.
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It has gone completely for those of you guys who don't know
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Kim Kardashian released this bra on her skins.
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This video went viral and it's a bra that you can see.
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Basically they had, she had like fake nipples on there.
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So they're not yours but they peek through the bra.
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Um just before we get into the Pros and cons right now, what
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are you guys initial thoughts when you guys initial thoughts
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I saw and I was honestly, I was confused.
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I was like, wait, what?
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Because my mom, she has always been like, if, if I'm not wearing
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a bra, she's like to it to gracie and I'm like, I'm going to mom
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I should I wear the shirt or not, but she's always like to,
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to gracie to cover your nipples.
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So I was just confused.
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I didn't have any opinion yet.
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But then one of my friends said it to me, it was like, thank God
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I can't wait to try it because she doesn't have, oh she has nipples
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but she didn't have like she doesn't have like nipples like
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that like that like, so she's never cold.
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So it just not, not, you know, I don't know.
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So, you know, I I thought it was like, what did you like?
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What did you think for you?
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Did you think initially?
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Oh This is something that I'm actually down to buy or I thought
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like I don't need it because I ha I have it already kind of thing
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I'm like, I'm sorry, but like my nipples are my nipples.
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I don't need the world to see it.
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Like I won't get naked for TV yet.
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So like, why am I gonna wear a shirt that looks fake nipple?
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Like I'm saying like, like having a body double.
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No, it's not.
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You.
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II I completely agree with you 100% off that.
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I was like, I would never wear this.
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Like I would never buy it.
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I understand the sentiment and there is a pro to this.
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So like the big pro that a lot of people are pretty much arguing
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online is that it's first off meant for Shock Factor.
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A lot of what celebrities do is for Shock Factor.
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It is what it is.
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There's the sex appeal aspect of it and it's helpful for those
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that maybe have suffered from breast cancer or maybe mastectomies
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or things of that nature.
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It's a beautiful thing I think.
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Yeah, that's, that, that completely makes sense again.
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Like I haven't experienced that.
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So I don't know if, if, if there was an insert where somebody
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is like, if they wanted to have a bra that here, if you want this
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insert, then it's supporting that community.
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But like the fact that you just have it out there.
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Like I'm sorry, especially because it's Kim K you just want
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attention.
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She wants to be talked about this is what we're, we're talking
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about her.
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You know what I mean?
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Like she, she stays being talked about that is her job.
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Her job is to keep us talking about her Kris Jenner is amazing
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I, I really like the family but they are amazing business people
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and look what are we doing?
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We're talking about it.
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But is it something that I think the majority of the US E USA
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women or, or even around the world are gonna look at and be like
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I want that, I don't think that the majority, I think this
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is when you talk about around the world it's different because
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in Europe it's very different.
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You know what I mean?
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Like, you don't think about like old school TV.
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Like you would see girls with their nipples out.
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You know what I now, like young girls, like they don't wear
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bra, like, they don't, like, they don't have to, they don't
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need to.
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It's like, why for what?
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It's been a trend?
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I prefer models for young girls.
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Like it just so there's a difference being a, is for support
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people like I have boots and it hurts if they are not supported
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Right?
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But now people make it fashion and like, I'm all about freedom
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People have the choice to show it or not but don't make it, like
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just because you wanna be, you know what I mean?
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Yeah.
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I mean, it's not for me, I don't think it's gonna be for a lot
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of girls but it might be for some girls.
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I didn't even know that was like, I know it's a thing but I didn't
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know it was a thing to the point of where they're gonna release
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a product.
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Like, but maybe that's what she's trying to do because she
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does.
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She, she always, she's always on top of, she's always on top
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of shit and she's always, yeah, I probably won't jump on that
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bandwagon.
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OK?
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Another thing that's been taking over social media, which
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I don't know why I'm doing the intro for this particular.
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OK?
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I will thank you.
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I am disgusted by this.
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So I will let you know, apparently there is a big boom right
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now for period facials, which is literally getting the blood
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that comes out of your body for women and people with, you know
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this stuff and putting it on your face and apparently it's
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like really good and packed with nutrients and it makes your
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skin glow.
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And I think this is mainly like influencers are saying this
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you know what I mean?
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Because dermatologists are actually saying that there's
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no proven benefits and it can actually be unsafe because the
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red blood cells are like pro uh inflammatory.
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It may make skin worse.
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But like, I feel like that's the problem with social media
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Like I remember during the pandemic, everybody started drinking
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bleach because that was supposedly on the phone, you know
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what I mean?
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So like the pods or whatever and like that was gonna help you
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So it's like this is something that like if enough people talk
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about it and say that it's good, people will do it even if it's
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not good.
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I mean, I have a theory that, you know, there's no, there's
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pr P pr P is vampire facial where they take the blood out and
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then the doctor takes the plasma in the machine in it, on your
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face.
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This is the, the 399 version of it, you know, like maybe you
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don't need what I'm trying to specify is there is a different
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thing from the blood going in your body which is gonna actually
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do something inside.
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You know what I mean?
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Like you have to inject or ingest and then it does its job.
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You can't just wipe shit on your skin.
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It's not gonna do anything.
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So like this is a free 99 thing, but there's a big difference
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between it getting injected to actually being able to activate
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the things versus just like put it on top.
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I would like filters in Instagram.
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It's all fake.
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I would just like serious scientific studies on like before
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I need the before and after.
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Yeah, I mean, I am never gonna just jump on a trend just because
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the whole entire world is doing it.
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Let me just do this, it so to me and again, like, sorry if y'all
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watching this and you do this, but it just sounds so like I personally
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like my body can't handle it.
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Like I would literally die and and then also pr P is regular
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blood, not period blood.
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But like, technically, if you have a partner that goes down
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on you while you're on your period, then it's a period facial
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So, like I would ask people that do that, like, have they seen
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a difference?
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You know what I mean?
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Because, like, I don't do that or I don't, I don't agree with
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that thing, but some people might, some people like period
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sex a lot, you know what I mean?
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So maybe they like period oral sex, which could be the reason
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why this came about in the first place.
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I'm honestly we gotta wrap it up after that.
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Yeah, we'll wrap it up.
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Ok?
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Look if you guys have done it, leave a comment below.
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I would love to know what kind of specifically because I facial
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facial Chelsea is talking about just comment about that or
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just like in general, wait, is this happening in dermatologists
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Like is this happening professionally or are women just doing
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it in their bathroom house?
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Ok.
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I know I just said some crazy shit.
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And so if you are into this crazy conversation, keep with us
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because we have a fun episode right now.
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We're gonna have Angela Johnson Reyes.
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Yes, the queen herself and Melissa Marty.
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And then we're talking situations.
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What is that?
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I don't know.
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I've never done it.
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So just stick with us, stick with us baby girl.
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I'm ready.
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Bring it on baby, bring it on.
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Ok, guys.
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There is a glamour hot take that we need to talk about is getting
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back with your ex settling.
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That's layered.
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I know like what if you get back with your ex that you were really
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in love with and he wasn't ready and you broke up and then you
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get back with him and that if it was like 10 years later or five
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years later, it's a different thing.
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But if you broke up and then get back together in a month, then
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it's a little bit messy because you haven't dealt with everything
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Did he take accountability?
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Did he not like that gets involved?
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So, if it's quickly it's settling in my mind.
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Yeah.
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If you're getting back with them right away, a lot of the times
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when you break up with somebody, I think that loneliness sets
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in, you start really forgetting about maybe the pain they're
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causing you on the daily.
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You know, all the bad things where maybe they're just not being
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loyal or giving you the love and attention or speaking in your
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love language or at least putting in that effort and then you
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get lonely and you're like, well, I'm in bed, I'm alone.
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I'm sad.
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Let me just reach back out because it's familiar because it's
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something that you're comfortable with.
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And then that's kind of when, I don't know, I've been in that
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cycle where you're on and off for so long.
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So I've been, I've stayed in relationships I think way longer
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than I should have because it is that comfort of going back
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to someone, even though I know they are not good at, it's hard
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to attack.
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But you were mentioning how, like you learn to love yourself
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and to choose yourself from one of your past relationships
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Yeah.
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Well, I think one of the biggest things is the relationship
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ended for a reason.
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Right.
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And when you get lonely you forget that reason.
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But, like, one of the things where my friends say I'm kind of
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a robot because in my last relationship I was done and I was
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done.
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And the thing for me was I realized that the person I was in love
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with didn't exist anymore.
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So, like, there was nothing to miss, there was nothing to be
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like, if we get back together it's still gonna be there.
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It was like, no, this, this person was putting on a mask playing
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a character.
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Exactly.
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Like he was playing a character.
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So then once I realized, oh, that wasn't him.
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He didn't exist.
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Then I don't miss him anymore.
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But I miss that idea sometimes though I'm like, but it's not
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real.
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It's not real.
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That means you need to find a hobby.
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Ok.
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Would you, would you get back to the partner that cheated on
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you?
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I don't think I could.
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You've never done that, like, in high school?
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I think I, once you lose that trust, what are you supposed to
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do.
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Like, now I can't trust you to be alone if I'm going out of town
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like, the, every relationship to me is all based on trust
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Exactly.
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Like, once you break the trust and if you do it at the beginning
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like, it's a rat for me and I don't want, I'm not a person that
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I'm not that kind of girl that wants to be looking, wants to
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be knowing.
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But like, if you give me a reason, then you're creating uh uh
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uh unstable foundation for me for the rest of the time.
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But again, he's now making you feel uncomfortable and you
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don't feel comfortable in your relationship, you don't feel
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safe and your partner is supposed to make you feel safe.
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I feel like if you are gonna bring, if you are gonna get back
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with somebody that's hurt you, you have to make the decision
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to, if you're truly gonna try it, don't bring it up all the time
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I mean, you have to fully let it go or move on because if it's
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something that's gonna keep lingering and you're gonna bring
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it up at argument, you're gonna keep bringing in.
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I used to, it's gonna, it's gonna be no, I told that to my friend
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that got cheated on.
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Like she finally told me after like six months or a year after
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it happened and they were still together and I was like, but
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if you're staying, you can't make him pay for it every day because
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you're making the choice now to stay.
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You're so you're putting yourself in that position.
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Now, if you're unhappy with it and you wanna punish him, then
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really quickly is like, if you wanna cheat and just don't be
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in a relationship, like you, you're choosing to be with me
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we're choosing to be in this relationship, right?
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So if you wanna cheat, then don't be in this relationship,
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go do your thing and then come back if you really wanna be in
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a relationship and that's where it gets messy because now
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it's like situationships and then like dating and casually
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dating and what exactly does that mean?
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And I think situations are that where, like you think you're
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committed but that person and doesn't think they're committed
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and they're doing their own thing.
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Like, you know what I mean?
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So like, what's the definition, I guess for you guys, what's
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a situationship?
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I think a situationship is that you guys are dating, you're
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hooking up but you haven't had the conversation of being exclusive
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So like, you can't really tell me like, you can't ask me what
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I'm doing on a daily, daily basis or if I go on another date,
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you have no right to tell me that I can't do it because you're
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ok with.
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We haven't.
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No, but I can, but I am not, I'm not allowed to ask him if he went
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on a date yesterday or nothing.
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I that's his business because we haven't solidified that
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we're exclusive.
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Do you guys feel like the reason why there's so many relationships
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like modern now right now?
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Because there's so many people that just don't wanna commit
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is because social media I think has given us this illusion
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of options of OK, the grass is greener somewhere else.
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I think, I don't know, this could be controversial but a lot
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of women I feel like get a lot of attention online so do men.
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It's so easy to access other people that sometimes you feel
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like, you know what?
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I don't wanna work through these issues.
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I don't actually wanna stick it out long term.
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Part of it.
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I think goes into social media, we need instant gratification
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we need that instant reaction and if we don't get it then we
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think there's a problem and we don't wanna work through it
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when like that wasn't the norm before.
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And a commitment.
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Exactly.
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And a commitment is, is tough.
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Like, it's a commitment.
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Like you have to be ready for, to work together and to be there
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for each other.
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Like I, I said that with the, my boyfriend that I was dating
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I'm like, do you really wanna be boyfriend and girlfriend
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It's a commitment when you can be and do what you want.
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We don't have to be serious.
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You made a good point on another episode where it's like they
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say relationships is work and it's because both of you have
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to put in the work.
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So, so the point is if you're in a situation and you know what
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you wanna get things cleared up, just be honest and speak your
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truth and be like, I don't say I, I want more or I want less.
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So this bothered me because there's nothing worse than like
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having a lump in your throat and not speaking your truth.
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All right, what is the situation ship to you guys?
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We're gonna be answering that.
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Plus, talking to the Latina queen of comedy, Angela Johnson
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re so don't go anywhere.
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We'll be right back.
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How are you balancing motherhood with, with work?
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I wanna stay home with her and just be home and be a mom.
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But who can afford that?
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You know, and there are women who can and God bless you, but
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a lot of women can and they gotta get back out to work.
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We have a very special guest joining us on Zoom today.
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The hilarious Angela Johnson.
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Reyes.
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Angela Johnson.
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Rey is known for her iconic character on Mad TV has garnered
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a massive following of over 75 million viewers through six
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successful comedy specials, including the recent say I won't
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I'm approaching the age where I'm gonna start getting my
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clothes the same place I get my groceries say I won't, you will
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catch me at Costco.
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Yes.
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Her book, do I think I am?
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Stories of Cholla Wishes and Caviar dreams was released last
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year and she's set to star in prime videos, holiday comedy
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Candy Cane Lane alongside Eddie Murphy and Tracy Ellis Ross
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Angela.
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And her husband welcomed their first child Rosalie in June
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And when not touring, they divide their time between Los Angeles
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and Nashville with their dog Banzo.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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What a mouthful.
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That's so much to say.
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I apologize.
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It's ok.
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We need to give you that.
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Tell them the recipe that I just made last night on Instagram
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Like tell them all the things I'm doing.
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I know we had to do it for you.
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We're so excited that you're here.
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You're obviously iconic.
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We grew up on so many of the incredible comedy skits that you'd
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put out.
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I mean, I'm pretty sure we all did, right?
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We all in my head.
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You're my best friend.
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Like we met a few times, but in my head, you're my best friend
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I'm right now and just like we grew up with you, we also see that
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you've grown up, you're in a completely new chapter.
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I feel like of your life.
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I wanna kind of talk about what that transition's been like
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you know, into motherhood and everything.
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Also being in the industry, being a career woman.
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How has that been for you?
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Especially because you said you didn't want kids for so long
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Right.
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That's right.
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Right.
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The transition.
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So many transitions happening.
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Like even right now hearing you guys say, I grew up with you
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and I'm like, wait a minute, we're not the same age.
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Hold on.
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Like, you know what I mean?
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Like in terms of getting into being older, transitioning
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and being a mom, put them together, an old mom.
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It's just a whole bunch of stuff.
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No, you, you've been wild.
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It's been um very, I didn't know what to expect in this motherhood
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journey.
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So I'm just kind of taking it one day at a time and then every
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day calling my mom and asking what did you do for this?
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How did you do this?
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So going into that, do you feel like you are kind of your mom
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now?
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Like you thought your mom was a certain type of way or you thought
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your mom was crazy?
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And then you're like, oh my God, I'm my mom now.
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Like, do you feel that I feel like my mom was more relaxed than
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I am?
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I think I'm more stressed out.
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My mom had four kids.
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She raised them by herself, but she had all her four kids by
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the time she was 30 I'm having my first kid at 41.
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You know what I mean?
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Like we're definitely different.
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She was more chill like doing all by herself and like my sister
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and I, we would go cruising like when we were 1415 years old
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and coming home like midnight one in the morning.
18:43
And I don't know how she did that and did not like, like sleep
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at night.
18:48
How do you even do that?
18:49
Because I'm stressed out if my daughter has like a stuffy nose
18:52
I'm like, oh my God, what do I do?
18:54
Well, I think it also depends what, what kid are you out of the
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four?
18:57
Like, where do you rank?
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I'm in the middle, in the middle.
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But they always say that the first baby is when, I don't know
19:04
I'm not a mom yet, but they say that's like the baby that you're
19:06
the most scared about.
19:07
Like you're scared of like picking them up, putting him down
19:09
and you're really paranoid and then as time goes and you have
19:12
more Children or if you decide to have more Children, then
19:14
it gets a little bit more relaxed.
19:15
Like you're like dirt, it's fine.
19:17
They need the bacteria, just pick it up off the floor.
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Exactly.
19:21
That's what it is.
19:22
Like, germs, MEMS, like just live your life.
19:25
And my mom was the youngest of eight Children.
19:28
So she was the kid that was just like, go live your life.
19:31
And so I think that kind of played a part in how she parent it
19:35
as well.
19:35
I wanna know is you're obviously on social media.
19:38
Um and people tend to insert their opinions sometimes about
19:42
all aspects of life.
19:43
I'm sure motherhood is so intense, so aggressive.
19:45
So many strangers sometimes feel the need to maybe comment
19:48
on parenting styles or they think they know better.
19:50
How are you maneuvering that?
19:52
Are you getting a lot of that?
19:54
So, luckily I, I do get some, but for the most part it's people
20:00
saying like, hey, we tried this and I love that kind of information
20:04
when they come at you.
20:05
It's like you should be doing this.
20:06
That's when I'm like, skip, skip.
20:08
You know what I mean?
20:09
And then I have this one fan, she'll like every day unsolicited
20:13
Give me advice.
20:14
Here's your daily Tuesday advice.
20:15
And I'm like, oh, I didn't ask for it, but ok, here it comes and
20:18
then like, she'll, like, send me messages and sometimes I
20:20
don't even read them.
20:21
She's like, girl, I don't got time for this today and every
20:23
now and then I'll read it and be like, oh, that was actually
20:25
pretty good.
20:25
Should I go back and read the ones you sent me from?
20:27
Actually worked?
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Yeah.
20:30
And how are you balancing motherhood with, with work?
20:33
It's hard.
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Um, it's hard and here's the thing.
20:37
It's like, I, I wanna stay home with her and just be home and
20:41
be a mom.
20:42
But I have to go out on the road and travel and do my shows so that
20:46
I can afford to be home on the days when I get to be home.
20:49
You know what I mean?
20:50
So, it's like, it's part of me wanting to still be creative
20:55
and be out there.
20:55
But then a big part of me wanting to just be home and be a mom.
20:58
And I've heard that from so many of my friends and family members
21:01
that are just like, I wish I could just be a stay at home mom but
21:04
who can afford that, you know, and there are women who can and
21:08
God bless you, you know, more power to you, but a lot of women
21:11
can't and they gotta get back out to work.
21:13
My um I was asking my mom even just today, I'm like, how long
21:16
did you breastfeed me?
21:17
She's like only six weeks because I had to go back to work.
21:19
All my kids only got to breastfeed for six weeks because I had
21:21
to go back to work.
21:22
And like that is, that's tough, you know, and I'm grateful
21:26
that I get to like fly away, do a show and fly right back and,
21:30
and get back in time to, you know, only miss one day of my daughter
21:35
but it's hard.
21:36
Well, Angela, we got something called the rapid fire questions
21:39
that people comment and they ask questions and we wanna, we
21:43
wanna ask you some quick questions.
21:44
You have a little time to answer.
21:46
We're gonna answer the first one.
21:50
What animal would you describe your husband as maybe like
21:54
a giraffe?
21:54
Like, what's something that always bumps into you?
21:56
And you're like, did you not see me right here?
21:58
You really tall giraffe?
22:00
I mean, he's tall but I'm just trying to think of something
22:02
that's just like that just bumps you and you just keep, they're
22:05
like, oh, I didn't see you there.
22:06
I just keep going about their life.
22:07
Like I feel like a giraffe, feels like lanky and like hits you
22:10
Ok.
22:10
Perfect.
22:11
A giraffe.
22:11
What's a phrase you feel like you say way too much?
22:15
I hate you.
22:16
And I mean, it in the most loving way because that's what I say
22:20
when somebody says something or does something really funny
22:24
My response is I hate you and it's like it's negative but I mean
22:29
I don't mean it negative.
22:30
I mean, it like, it depends on the way you say it.
22:32
Right.
22:33
Right.
22:33
So we, we understand that.
22:34
OK, one word to describe your new comedy special.
22:37
Hilarious.
22:38
I like this one.
22:39
Who's your favorite comedian?
22:42
Uh Nate Barge?
22:45
Well, Angela, you're so incredible.
22:47
Thank you for taking the time to talk to us all the way from Nashville
22:49
I believe is where you're at right now.
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Nashville, Tennessee.
22:52
Uh where can everybody find your comedy special?
22:54
So everybody could tune in.
22:55
You said youtube.
22:56
So go to youtube.
22:57
Look up Angela Johnson.
22:59
Reyes say I won't.
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And it's streaming right now and share it with all your friends
23:04
and family and just laugh and have a good time.
23:07
Thank you, girl.
23:10
Hi, ladies.
23:11
You have money for the rest of your day.
23:13
It is me first, me, second, me third and then everything else
23:20
again.
23:21
It's like it's the person you have to look at in the mirror as
23:24
long as I, I do what she wants and I'm honest and true to her,
23:27
everything else is gonna fall in line guys and we are back and
23:33
we are ready to welcome our next guest, Melissa Marty.
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Bye.
23:43
Come on.
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OK.
23:46
Wait, I have to do the official intro.
23:48
I have to do the official intro.
23:49
Born in Puerto Rico.
23:51
Melissa Marty is one of the most beautiful faces of Hispanic
23:53
television and certainly has one of the most noblest and most
23:56
charismatic hearts, a versatile actress, dancer and singer
24:00
She represented her hometown of God.
24:03
I was damn it.
24:05
I said it wrong.
24:06
I knew I was gonna come outside and if I, and if I say something
24:12
my grandmother is gonna kill me because she's gonna say you're
24:14
from Maia, which I was born in Mayaguez.
24:17
But I grew up in Caguas.
24:18
I feel more that's your home.
24:20
And as you can tell I know her.
24:23
Oh, thank you guys.
24:26
It's so fun to be here.
24:27
I'm so excited to have you here.
24:29
I feel like you have a lot to say she was like, I have opinion
24:33
OK.
24:33
Now I want to ask like, what was the tea because you walked over
24:36
here like I have to say I was listening to y'all talk about relationships
24:43
and situations and that word situation is for me.
24:46
But I have been in a relationship for 19 years.
24:50
Um, yes, you like five years old?
24:57
Um, no, we started in college.
24:58
Uh, we knew each other since high school.
25:00
We were very good friends.
25:02
I actually hooked him up with his first girlfriend.
25:04
So we were like really good friends and living so that we did
25:08
5.5 years long distance.
25:10
So I can sit here and say that I have been through anything and
25:14
everything that's probably meant to break people apart and
25:17
we've surpassed it.
25:18
And there is nothing more beautiful in total honesty.
25:23
There's nothing more beautiful than being able to sit with
25:26
a person and have that longevity because there is so much and
25:32
I, and I get chills talking about it.
25:33
There is so much more intimacy and so much more grounded and
25:38
so much more security because II, I heard you at one point you
25:41
said like, oh, there's, it doesn't make you safe.
25:44
Did you have a few of those things before 1000%?
25:46
We, we broke up at one point, we broke up at one point because
25:51
we had been doing long distance for a long time and I didn't
25:54
see the end in near and I was over the distance and I didn't wanna
25:59
get on another flight and I didn't wanna have to say goodbye
26:02
again.
26:02
And I had met another guy that I had met another guy and I got
26:08
so to say, I, I don't, I don't think I was confused because I
26:12
did break up and I did end up dating this other person and he
26:15
dated some other people too.
26:17
But it was always very clear to me that it was, it was always
26:20
a comparison, right?
26:21
So I was always comparing this guy to how my now husband Nelson
26:25
made me feel and I would always say like Nelson would never
26:28
do this.
26:28
Nelson would never speak to me like that Nelson would never
26:30
da da da, you know, and, and that, that goes to show you but allowing
26:35
yourself, I feel like I, I don't remember if it was you or you
26:38
Chelsea.
26:38
Somebody said that now people don't wanna go through the problems
26:42
And the work I've been asked is, is being in a relationship
26:46
work if the relationship is the right relationship, I don't
26:50
think that it's work.
26:51
The work comes from you trying to keep it fresh, you trying
26:56
to keep it new, you trying to keep yourself and your partner
26:59
engaged to keep on dating type of situation, you know, like
27:04
not getting complacent and bored for like just you have to
27:08
like keep dating each other.
27:09
You have to, you have to make it fun and you have to make a new
27:12
And that's where the work is tough conversations.
27:16
You allow the person space, you allow the person space and
27:20
and the one thing that I have learned for myself in my relationship
27:23
my husband and I are very, very different human beings.
27:26
I'm a Leo.
27:27
I'm very, very passion, very, like, outspoken and he's an
27:32
Aquarius.
27:33
He's very chill.
27:34
He doesn't like, he's like, doesn't, you know, he's like Aquarius
27:37
is like January, right?
27:38
February, he's February 6.
27:40
My boyfriend is, yeah.
27:42
So it's like they, they match very well with feisty characteristics
27:47
of, of their partner just because they're, they're, they're
27:51
easy going, you know, not to say that they're easy people though
27:54
He's too chill.
27:57
But tell me if not, like, when he has an opinion, like he will
28:00
get it across 100% 100% he's just, I think they're smart.
28:04
I think that's right.
28:05
They don't, they don't, they don't overstress the little
28:08
stuff, you know, and that's, that's really good.
28:10
You do what you wanna do.
28:13
They, they do it.
28:13
Yeah.
28:14
So I was gonna, I was saying that like my, my husband and I are
28:16
two very different people and the beauty about it is like we
28:20
will approach a situation in two completely different ways
28:24
and he allows me to be me and I allow him to be, to be him.
28:29
I don't try to change him.
28:30
I don't try to control him.
28:32
He doesn't try to control me.
28:33
He will tell me his opinion and he will call me out on, on my things
28:36
Like when he thinks like, hey, you, maybe you should see this
28:40
this other way or maybe you shouldn't have done this perspective
28:44
and allowing for, for that to exist in a relationship is very
28:47
important without taking it personal, without feeling like
28:50
the person is attacking you and knowing that they come from
28:52
love.
28:53
Yeah.
28:53
It's being able to be an adult and have accountability is being
28:57
able to hear a different perspective, you know.
29:00
And I think that a lot of people growing up we had to be so defensive
29:02
or so protective that, like, we're, we're not used to that
29:06
And it's like, no, it's my way.
29:07
Oh, you don't agree with me then it's a problem.
29:09
We don't think the same.
29:10
Exactly when it's actually not the problem that actually
29:13
creates a space for growth and for, like, you know, you coming
29:18
together and, and, and truth, truth of the matter is you're
29:20
never gonna see things the same way because you're totally
29:22
different human beings with different backgrounds, with
29:25
different things that affect your opinions.
29:27
And that's ok.
29:28
Yeah.
29:28
What do you have to say to women that have maybe been in long
29:30
term relationships that want that next step?
29:32
Because I know you guys had taken, we took a year, like a year
29:35
and a half, we broke up.
29:37
Ok.
29:37
But you guys were dating before you guys got married, like
29:39
10 years, wasn't it?
29:40
Wow.
29:41
Ok.
29:41
So, personally, for you, why do you think was it because you
29:43
were in your career?
29:43
We are too much.
29:44
Like, what for you?
29:45
Because, you know, a lot of times people say if they don't marry
29:47
you within this amount of time, then it's not real.
29:49
Obviously your your case.
29:50
That that wasn't the case in, in my situation particularly
29:54
he, it was funny because when I went for Sara Latina, his mom
29:58
actually told him he's like, oh, she's leaving for the show
30:01
You know, I was living in Puerto Rico.
30:02
I was going to Miami and he's like, oh, I don't wanna put a ring
30:05
on it.
30:05
And I remember sitting down with him and telling him now it's
30:09
not the time to ask me to marry you because I'm not gonna say
30:12
yes and you want me to say yes, like this isn't the time I've
30:15
always known where I want to go in life.
30:18
And, and I have always known that the person that I have to be
30:23
accountable with is the girl that I see in the mirror every
30:25
day.
30:26
Not anybody else, friends will come and go, guys will come
30:30
and go.
30:31
We love more than one person in this lifetime.
30:34
But I only look at myself in the mirror and I have to wake up to
30:37
her and I have to go to bed to her.
30:38
So she's the person that I know.
30:41
I'm like, I bless you all this talk.
30:44
Honestly, the perfect segue into our segment called Callas
30:47
No more.
30:53
OK?
30:56
What is one piece of bad life advice someone has given you?
31:01
I would say, hey, I actually saw this earlier um my mom gave
31:05
me advice to move in with my boyfriend when we had only been
31:09
together for like six months.
31:10
And her reasoning was to save money on rent.
31:13
And I'm like, why would you tell me to move in with someone within
31:16
six months to save rent?
31:18
When at the time I was making six figures, I could have done
31:20
that shit by myself.
31:21
So why are you giving me that advice?
31:22
And I still have this fight with her to this day and she's like
31:25
well, but I just wanted you to save money.
31:27
I was like, I was paying 75% of every anyway mother.
31:30
Um So that for me is bad advice.
31:33
I think everybody's gotten really bad advice.
31:34
There was one guy in particular, like in my early twenties
31:36
that was absolutely perfect.
31:39
And, and I honestly to this day, I, you know, I still think about
31:43
he was kind of like the one that got away in a, in a sense and I
31:45
had all my homegirls telling me it's too young, like you still
31:49
need to explore your options.
31:51
And yes, I'm all for in your twenties.
31:53
Like I get it, it, you know, do your thing.
31:55
But I also think if you find someone that really aligns with
31:59
you morally family values, he's, you know, gonna be there
32:02
Like you said, there's something so beautiful about having
32:04
somebody long term with you.
32:06
And I think it's lovely.
32:06
I think it's any time I see a couple that's made it through their
32:09
teenage years, into their early adult years, into their late
32:12
adult years.
32:13
I think it's like the most beautiful inspiring thing.
32:16
You don't even hear that happening as much anymore because
32:18
you do change so much.
32:19
But he's that person that I'm like, I wish I had maybe put in
32:21
a little bit more of that effort with him because where is he
32:24
now?
32:25
Um, I, I have no idea.
32:26
I want to break up with, you know, who you are?
32:33
The funny part is I don't think he knows who he is because I never
32:36
really express it to him.
32:36
And I think that's what I regret.
32:38
Will never, never really go, I'd have to go to the other side
32:42
of the country probably today.
32:44
I don't know, I haven't heard from him in forever sometimes
32:47
I feel.
32:48
Um, and this actually ties into some of the bad advice that
32:51
I have gotten.
32:52
Um, w when, when my now husband and I had broken up, like, I,
32:58
I flew cross country overnight to get broken up with because
33:02
he didn't wanna move to L A at that time.
33:04
Long story short, the long, the, the wrong advice that I've
33:07
been given is maybe not listening to your gut or having somebody
33:12
be like, like, I don't think you should do that and in your gut
33:17
you're like, yeah, no, this is what I need to do even if it doesn't
33:20
align with what other people think or like, because again
33:25
I don't care.
33:26
That's, that's your life.
33:27
That's, that's, that's good for you.
33:28
But it's not what I need to do.
33:30
Yeah.
33:30
You're gonna find a guy like him later and, like, had I not gone
33:33
gotten on that plane and gone to go, get my heart broken into
33:37
a million pieces.
33:38
I don't think we would be where we are today.
33:40
Yeah, because it also gave me the the realization of like hold
33:45
up.
33:46
It is me first, me, second, me third and then everything else
33:53
again, it's like it's the person you have to look at in the mirror
33:56
as long as I, I do what she wants and I'm honest and true to her
34:00
everything else is gonna fall in line guys, I'm excited.
34:04
We're gonna get another question real quick.
34:06
Do you think men should have any age limit for when they have
34:09
kids?
34:09
A lot of the times the conversation is about women and I get
34:12
it there is that biological clock aspect of it?
34:16
There just is.
34:17
But with men, you don't really hear that conversation as much
34:20
You hear about who, who are those two famous people?
34:23
I had like kids.
34:24
I wanna say, well, so what about their eighties and Al Pacino
34:27
And like, yeah, De Niro, why is, why are these men having them
34:31
What can you even pick up your child?
34:33
Like because you can't because they can't because they have
34:37
people around them.
34:41
We only know about richer people, you know, that I know someone
34:46
who's Alito had, you know, he had his whole family in Mexico
34:49
and then it was like a young girl.
34:50
But, I mean, he was up there, like, in his seventies, mid seventies
34:54
having babies and think he's not rich, you know, any of that
34:57
You know, I don't, I don't know that, I think it's, hm, mm, it's
35:02
a tricky subject because I feel like yes, they can.
35:05
But also how fair is it to that child?
35:07
That's what I'm saying.
35:08
Yeah.
35:08
Like how fair is it to that child that maybe bring your, bring
35:14
your parents to school for show and tell and you know, that
35:21
there's a, there's a lot that goes into that.
35:24
I do fully think that having a kid is, is something that shouldn't
35:28
ever be taken lightly.
35:30
It's such a huge, huge responsibility, um, on and it should
35:34
be on both people.
35:35
Unfortunately, for the longest time that responsibility
35:39
has been more, more so on the women's shoulders and more so
35:43
now I feel like the guys are stepping up and wanting to be more
35:46
involved and I applaud that not to say that men haven't done
35:50
that because they have.
35:51
But it, it does need to be more of like a 5050.
35:56
And that also relies on us as women allowing them to step up
36:01
and allowing them to, maybe they're not gonna do it the way
36:04
that you would do it as a mommy or maybe they're not, but they
36:07
need to show up however they can and they need to be applauded
36:11
for that.
36:11
And, you know, because, because if every time a guy, and again
36:15
this isn't me just like throwing in the tougher guys, uh,
36:18
uh, um, but if, if every time a guy comes to do that, they're
36:21
like doing it wrong.
36:23
Like of course, they're not gonna wanna do it, of course.
36:26
But back to the conversation about older men having Children
36:29
I think it's not ethical.
36:31
And because again, think of the role that men play in somebody's
36:34
life.
36:34
If they're that much older, do they have any energy?
36:37
Do they play, catch you?
36:39
Yeah, you can do anything with Chucky Cheese and take them
36:43
down the slide.
36:44
Ok.
36:45
How do you deal with parents asking about when you're going
36:48
to give them grand babies?
36:49
Oh my gosh.
36:50
Let me tell you ladies, you don't pick up the phone.
36:57
No, I, you know what this, this is?
37:00
That's mm, that's a tough one for me because again, I've been
37:05
with my husband for 19 years.
37:07
I've known him since we were in high school.
37:09
We've been married now for 10 and we have decided that we are
37:14
potentially not gonna have kids because we, we like our life
37:18
the way it is because we know that it takes a village and our
37:21
village is 3000 miles away in Puerto Rico.
37:24
Um because I am very career oriented because we love having
37:28
our nephews and then just getting them right back and going
37:31
home and like being in silence and all these things.
37:36
I, I think that, that you have to set bou boundaries because
37:41
at the end of the day, there's a, there's a saying in Spanish
37:43
that says, like me know Puerto Rico said, Naab lo la oao que
37:46
la men.
37:49
Like nobody knows what's in the pot except for the one that's
37:51
stirring it.
37:52
Um and that applies, you know, for, for us in our lives.
37:56
Like II, I live in a one bedroom apartment.
38:00
I I don't, I personally me, Melissa, I don't wanna have a child
38:03
in a one bedroom apartment.
38:04
I don't wanna have a child if I can't provide at least the minimum
38:07
what I was provided for which nowadays with inflation like
38:12
all these like I can't afford the house, my parents afforded
38:15
I with the backyard that they gave me.
38:18
Like it's, it's crazy, you know.
38:19
So all these things, that's what I'm saying, like it is such
38:21
it, it requires so much responsibility going into that and
38:25
not to say that I can't change my mind.
38:28
Who knows, who knows?
38:30
You know.
38:30
But like it, it's one of those things like they had to back off
38:35
And at at some point we were like I told my husband at once, I
38:37
was like, I'm just gonna tell your mom at one point that maybe
38:40
maybe I just can't have kids see what she reacts, see how she
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reacts because nobody knows.
38:45
Nobody knows.
38:46
Right.
38:46
Like, what if that is my situation?
38:48
It's not.
38:49
But what if it works?
38:50
That's the situation of many women and that needs to be respected
38:53
And you, you never know what buttons you're pushing.
38:57
Yeah.
38:57
But you never know what buttons you're pushing, you know,
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on somebody and it, and it can, it can recap.
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And for me it's totally different.
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I never had much my mom, um I think it's also because I started
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acting as a kid.
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So like me and her are both career focused, you know, so like
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for me it was like, don't this and don't, don't, don't, don't
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don't.
39:17
And so I'm like, I've never felt that pressure.
39:19
Yeah, it's tough.
39:20
I don't know.
39:21
On, on my end my mom definitely pressures me a lot and my situation
39:25
is different because that's, I think it would be my biggest
39:27
fulfillment in life.
39:28
I think that's like my biggest dream.
39:29
My biggest, biggest, biggest dream is to be a mom is to be like
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at home.
39:34
Um So when my mom tells me, I do get like, stop like I, I get where
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you're coming from but I think it's on God's time.
39:42
It's not on my time.
39:43
I just haven't found somebody that I feel like has a line with
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me in that way.
39:47
Yeah, I feel, I feel young but my mom makes me feel like it's
39:50
the end of the world.
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My mom had her first baby at 17, by my age, she had four kids,
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you know, by my age she was like blown mom.
39:57
And that's the dream, you know, hopefully one day we'll, you
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know, on God's time.
40:01
But I love that though.
40:02
I love that you have that, that desire and, you know, and I feel
40:06
like that's also something that we as women need to recognize
40:09
in ourselves.
40:10
Like just because society says that oh, by a certain age, you
40:13
should have this or have that society don't pay for bills.
40:16
So like if, if and it's one of those things like I have never
40:19
had that feeling.
40:21
I have never and, and I have friends that, that have and I, I
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even last night, I was sitting in bed with my husband.
40:26
I was like, man, I don't know if maybe I'm missing out on something
40:29
he's like, but you've never had that desire to say no, like
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and I told him I was like, but you're so good with kids.
40:37
He's like, yeah, but I like giving them back and it's, you know
40:40
and it's just, it's just being honest, being honest with
40:44
yourself and not, not um forgo like your desires and what you
40:48
know, to be true for you just because it works for everybody
40:51
just because that's the narrative or that's like what's happening
40:54
Yeah, like you really, I had one friend one time.
40:57
Um Tell me she's like, if you don't really, really want it,
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don't do it.
41:02
Well, ok, after a quick break, we back with track the growth
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But 1st 73% of our viewers on social voted that they are in favor
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of situations.
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They are great.
41:13
Yo, people want their, their, they, they wanna eat it and I
41:17
love cakes.
41:18
So, wow, I can't, I can't.
41:21
But yeah, we'll be back with track the growth after this.
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What are you seeing on your timeline?
41:25
What's your algorithm looking like?
41:26
If it's just bombarded of a lot of women, it does actually affect
41:31
a man day to day.
41:32
And they are saying studies are saying that a lot of the times
41:34
men are now becoming a little bit more numb to how beautiful
41:37
women are because of the sexualization of Instagram of social
41:40
media.
41:41
First of all, I'm gonna just put this out there and try to find
41:44
you guys.
41:44
A man that looks at you more than he looks at his phone.
41:48
Let me just start with that.
41:51
What's up guys?
41:52
We are back before Melissa leaves.
41:54
We're gonna have a little bit of mulled wine.
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Have you guys ever had mulled wine before?
41:58
I got it?
41:59
I have, it's warm and spicy.
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I never had.
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Oh my gosh.
42:11
I already know I'm going to love it.
42:12
Oh, that's strong.
42:13
That's strong.
42:14
Yummy.
42:15
Oh That's really good.
42:17
This is my type of holiday drinker.
42:19
I feel like I feel like I need, you don't love it.
42:23
I feel like I need a fire crackling, fire crackling.
42:29
I, I'm such a sucker for all things holiday and then, and then
42:33
a good holiday movie.
42:34
Wait, what's in it?
42:35
It's wine.
42:37
What kind of wine?
42:38
It's wine, red wine, dry wine.
42:43
Brandy oranges, cinnamon sticks and mold spices.
42:50
I think the Brandy is what I don't like because tm, I, but the
42:54
only time I drank Brandy was at a high school flyer party and
42:59
I had just ate a couple noodles and I don't know how to drink
43:02
brandy.
43:02
So I took a shot of it and I threw up my, you know, I don't think
43:07
there's just a little, I like that.
43:09
You know what I mean?
43:10
Ok.
43:10
So I have a really interesting topic that we were kind of talking
43:13
about when we went into the green room to do our hair and makeup
43:16
and all that stuff.
43:17
This is about being in a relationship with someone or talking
43:20
to a guy.
43:21
The first thing that a lot of women do, I don't wanna say every
43:24
woman but a lot, what a lot of women do is see who the guy is following
43:27
Who are they kind of, what are they?
43:29
I'm not researching him, researching just like who, who he
43:32
is.
43:32
Like, what kind of, what, well, who you're following, that's
43:37
the stuff that you're viewing and allowing into your psyche
43:40
into your mind, into your heart.
43:42
I'm, I'm following all girls and models and things like that
43:46
What would you feel?
43:47
I think we underestimate how much that can affect a person
43:50
You're all men.
43:51
I'm not, I'm not saying just men.
43:53
It's men and women.
43:54
What are you seeing on your timeline?
43:55
What's your algorithm looking like?
43:57
If it's just bombarded of a lot of women all the time, half naked
44:01
half closing, that's what they're looking at all the time
44:04
So we have to also think, I know we all want to be like, no, it
44:06
doesn't matter to me, but I think it does matter and I think
44:09
it does actually affect a man day to day.
44:12
And they are saying studies are saying that a lot of the times
44:14
men are now becoming a little bit or numb to how beautiful women
44:17
are because of the sexualization of Instagram of social media
44:21
Is that something that bothers you guys?
44:23
Well, first of all, I'm gonna just put this out there and try
44:26
to find you guys.
44:27
A man that looks at you more than he looks at his phone.
44:30
Let me just start with that second.
44:32
Like I don't, I social media is such a such an insane world,
44:38
right?
44:39
Um I thankfully and it goes on and my husband's very much into
44:43
video games.
44:44
So that's where he spends most of his attention, not so much
44:47
on social media and when he's on social media, we're just sending
44:50
each other like cute puppy videos and shit like that, you know
44:53
Um, but I have, if it were, if it were the case because we were
44:57
talking about it just now and I have found like that his friends
45:01
sent him photos of stuff and like that maybe I don't need him
45:04
to be looking at, but I also be like, oh, who's that?
45:07
000.
45:08
And I'll, I'll look at it too.
45:10
You know, that's what my mom says.
45:11
My mom says that when my dad checks, he, my dad would check the
45:14
young girls his whole life.
45:14
He just, he's just that kind of guy that she started checking
45:17
them out before he even so like she would walk by and she'd be
45:20
like, OK, and they would both do it together.
45:23
And that's the thing.
45:24
Like I, I can, I can very much sit here and I was a strong female
45:29
heterosexual woman.
45:30
Like I like my men, my husband.
45:33
Like I can appreciate a woman's beauty.
45:35
I can look at it but I was, I was like soy and it's great and like
45:41
I am one to sit down with my and, and I, I don't wanna be in a relationship
45:46
where I don't feel like myself and for me to feel like myself
45:50
I have to be secure.
45:51
A f you have to be secure and when they see those things, it's
45:57
one of those things where it's like you have a better hair,
46:00
honey, you just look at whatever you want, but it's, you're
46:03
not gonna find better than me.
46:04
It also, again, you could look all you want.
46:06
You're not gonna do anything and knowing that that that's
46:09
the security of, do you feel like it?
46:10
Do you feel like it?
46:11
And this is just me playing devil's advocate?
46:13
Do you think, do you feel like it could open potential door
46:16
to maybe something happening?
46:17
Let's say you're going through a really tough time and you're
46:19
not securing your relationship and then all of a sudden you're
46:21
like, well, I don't want to deal with this person.
46:23
Let me scroll.
46:24
Let me see.
46:24
Hm.
46:24
Maybe things are better over there and you're bombarded.
46:27
You know, when that's when the commitment comes in, when the
46:31
trust comes in, the honesty comes in.
46:34
I've always thought that when people cheat, when people deviate
46:39
it is because either things have not been said or they haven't
46:43
been listened to because you can be in a relationship, right
46:46
And you can, you can say to your partner, hey, this is happening
46:49
Hey, I'm feeling this and this.
46:51
I'm feeling X and Y I don't, I am not getting this from you.
46:54
And if they don't react to what you're saying, if they don't
46:57
listen, that will cause a void in that relationship, which
47:01
is what then will cause you to go looking for that somewhere
47:05
else again, not to like um, applaud.
47:10
Exactly.
47:10
I am not justifying, but it is an effect of a problem that has
47:17
not been solved adequately addressed.
47:19
Let's track the growth here.
47:22
We have cut outs of our beautiful faces.
47:25
You guys take some, ok, and we're gonna, we're gonna use them
47:30
to vote.
47:32
I'm gonna ask some questions here.
47:33
So these are for you.
47:34
Are you all right?
47:35
You ready to play?
47:36
Yes, let's go.
47:38
Ok.
47:38
Who's the biggest rebel against societal norms?
47:42
Oh, that's a hard one.
47:44
Who, who, who, who, who I, I did me.
47:51
Ok.
47:51
Ok, I'll do for you.
47:52
So you win, I think because I think you saying that, you know
47:57
you don't care about having not that you don't care about
47:59
it but like kids is not a thing.
48:00
You actually, yeah, I would say, yeah, you yourself, you know
48:03
marriage, long distance like being with somebody for 18
48:07
years.
48:07
Like those are all things that I change my vote to.
48:09
Exactly.
48:11
I agree with you.
48:12
I feel like you're living a very carefree, like secure life
48:16
I agree with you.
48:17
So you, I take that back, I put myself up who's the most likely
48:23
to have it all figured out?
48:27
Well, I am the oldest at the table.
48:29
So let me just say that I feel like I know my life and I know what
48:32
you do.
48:33
I think you do.
48:34
And I'm a, I'm a, I'm a, I'm gonna do this because you know what
48:38
we all learn and when you learn, you grow and you just keep evolving
48:42
So, hey, all of y'all I like, yeah, like I'm still trying to
48:48
figure it out but OK, well, I know it's dumb.
48:52
It's sad to see them dumb.
48:54
But we, I just wanna say I learned so much and it's so inspirational
48:58
to have a woman.
48:58
I'm not saying that you're older like that but just more have
49:01
experienced life and is and is like a mentor, you know, to us
49:05
and has and isn't living like the traditional life, but it
49:08
still has like all their ducks in a row and is happy and like
49:11
it just showed an alternative that a lot of people like me and
49:15
Jess come from very traditional Colombian families don't
49:17
get to see very often.
49:18
So thank you for inspiring.
49:20
Yeah.
49:21
Thank you for coming on you so much.
49:24
Like I, the, the thing that like moves me and what has always
49:27
moved me is ever since I wanna start raise, am I?
49:30
Why is to be able to inspire people to like follow their dreams
49:34
and like dare to maybe go outside of what the box?
49:37
Yeah.
49:38
You know, because even a career like this in arts as an actor
49:42
isn't necessarily the first choice for parents when they
49:45
think what they want their kid to be.
49:46
But if it's in your heart, it's something that you need to do
49:49
and trusting your God and all those things like they just lead
49:51
you to it.
49:52
So I always feel like when you wake up and you're doing what
49:54
you need to do, you're happy and everything else kind of falls
49:57
into place.
50:01
Where can we find you?
50:02
Where can people follow you to get information for what's
50:05
next for you?
50:06
Well, I think that the place that maybe I connect the most is
50:10
on Instagram.
50:11
I'm not really, I'm here's where my age comes in.
50:14
You guys.
50:14
Like I'm not really, I'm not on Tik Tok.
50:16
I'm not on like any of the old, I'm on Instagram and that's a
50:20
good thing.
50:20
I'm not to be addicted to scrolling at Mellie Marty is, is my
50:24
tag.
50:25
So go right.
50:28
You guys.
50:28
Well, that's it for this episode of Girl.
50:30
Let me tell you, Melissa.
50:31
Thank you so much, girl, girl, let me tell you and Chelsea thank
50:38
you so much again for being a host on.
50:40
I love it.
50:41
I love it.
50:42
So learned a lot and we will be back very soon for the next episode
50:46
I'm Ivanna, I'm Meli Marti.
50:48
I'm Jessica.
50:49
I am Chelsea Rendon and this is girl, let me tell you I ruined
50:55
it.
50:57
I didn't say girl long enough.