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Natasha Graziano and Salina EsTitties

Girl, Let Me Tell You
Mega motivator Natasha Graziano explains how to attract what you want and Drag Race alum Salina EsTitties leads an unforgettable game of Eloteria.
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The one, the only Natasha Graziano.
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She is a best selling author and influence and thought leader
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with over 15 million social media followers.
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Someone go through a negative thought pattern in their mind
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You have to help them to let go of what they know to grow.
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He said, she said, my mum, do you want to carry on living their
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story?
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My mum told me this.
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So now I can't do this.
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You're living in the past and they're stealing from your future
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How can I be proud of who I am?
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If I'm not proud to be Latino asking my mom like, hey, what was
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it like for you to come over here and to hear that I was like,
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oh shoot coming over here.
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The only one who survived her group of 13 people who were trying
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to get over here like my mom's a bad bitch.
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You know what a bad bitch.
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What's up?
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What's up?
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We're back with another amazing episode of girl.
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Let me tell you, I'm here with my beautiful co-host, Jessi
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and Glory.
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Finally, you guys, you guys love you our asses off this year
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It's been a journey.
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You guys I feel like I know you more than maybe some other people
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in my life.
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Honestly.
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Intimate.
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Well, the thing is, is when you're in a work environment with
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someone and I know people can really, you really kind of get
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to know someone.
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It's almost like a relationship because you see them under
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pressure, you see them in like weird situations.
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Like we were all, I wanna give a pat in the back because I'm the
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worst at team work.
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But I really showed up.
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I think you did a really good job because you keep saying you
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you did.
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But I think you showed up like 99.999% of the time.
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If I were to rewind time, they put us on a couch together on our
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first audition and we had no idea who each other were with each
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other.
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Jessica.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I didn't know either of you but now I do and I'm just so grateful
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for like the experience to be the three different girls from
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three different worlds coming together and making magic
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happen.
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And it just goes to show that like unconditional love exists
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If you can just like go with the flow, you know what I mean?
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OK.
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So I have a question for you guys.
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What was the toughest lesson you guys learned this year?
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Oh My God, the whole year.
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Not even like on this show.
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Just like in general, toughest lesson you guys learned this
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year.
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Completely candid.
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Oh my God.
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It's, you know what for me, I, I don't know, this is a lot because
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you know, I'm gonna reflect like in my apartment.
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But I think working on the narrative that I tell myself, I think
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sometimes that I'll create a story line and then it'll come
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out and it's not like the most positive.
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So like working on the script of like, what is, this is my script
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So like there throughout the year, there were moments that
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I was like, oh my God, like what if this person have my, my best
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interest in mind or like, what if this venue doesn't wanna
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work with me?
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And I was kinda like creating these negative stories instead
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of like, maybe not taking things so personal.
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Yeah, like maybe like, yeah, like I'm not taking things so
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personal to me.
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Obviously, the strike really sucked.
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But I, I mean, we all had to all go through it.
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But I think the biggest thing for me was like, there were so
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many moments where I dishonored my intuition that I dishonored
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myself in like my relationship in certain situations where
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like I knew I shouldn't be doing this or I didn't wanna do it
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I knew it was wrong but I like went with it because I was trying
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to prove a point or like, you know, stick with the situation
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even though maybe it's supposed to be done.
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You know what I mean, so like dishonoring it, but I don't regret
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it because I knew because I, I like, went from like a bird's
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eye view and I know that like, the, the outcome will be greater
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if I stay in it.
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It was kind of like, you know, sacrificing, but at the same
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time being confident of the outcome, but I felt so many moments
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I'm like, what am I doing?
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Like, I know I this is not right.
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You know what I mean?
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I think um when it comes to friendships and relationships
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I've, I feel like I finally have found like an easier way to
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I guess, like, really clean cut people off when I need to.
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I, I had like one instance in particular this year where there
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was a girl that I met and I thought she was great and I welcomed
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her into my life.
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I mean, quickly into my life, like quickly into my personal
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life.
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I would open up to her about all these things, you know, soon
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come to find she was, you know, just completely sabotaging
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me behind the scenes and that those moments really hurt you
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in your life and they like really, honestly, they messed with
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me this year.
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And I think what I the tough lesson I've learned is, yeah, I
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think there's a lot of great people in the world, but you need
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to just be so careful about who you're really letting into
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your life.
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Like that like, don't be so quick to be like, you look like a
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great person.
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I think I had read somewhere.
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It's like positive projecting, you're like projecting that
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you know, you're not gonna go into somebody's life and try
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to mess with or have bad intentions.
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So you think the whole world is like that?
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Not all the time.
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What are sketchy people?
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What's something that you're proud of?
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I'm proud that I did my first like kind of series regular show
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on Hulu.
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And it came out even though during the strike, I was proud of
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that accomplishment like that.
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Like the growth of the Ivana warriors.
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Love you the warrior.
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Yeah, Ivana warriors, they love you.
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Everyone, everyone that I talk to my God.
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Like I remember I brought you to a comedy show and they're like
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is she the girl Hulu was like, yeah.
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Yeah, they're like, oh, where's the girl?
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Where's Ruby?
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I was like Ivana.
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Yeah, I mean, I think sometimes you don't see yourself outside
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of like your window.
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But like everyone was like, oh my God, it's, I mean, there were
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a lot of people that were like watching, what's your proudest
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moment?
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You know, I usually do career thing, but this year I'm proud
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of getting on a plane over and over.
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I would, I would and, you know, I've been working on it and,
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you know, we went, we did the hypnotism.
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Um But I'm really proud of myself for overcoming that fear
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because I don't think people understand how scary it is to
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like, I just, it wasn't something I'm really afraid of and
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like getting on here and coming out here and, like leaving
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my nieces.
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It was really hard for me.
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I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna cry.
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I told myself I was gonna cry.
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Turn off the camera.
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But yeah, I'm just proud of myself for pushing myself out of
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my comfort zone.
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Don't cry.
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It's just been really hard this year.
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But I'm not crying.
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I'm not crying.
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Not Yeah, I just like being on a plane is really scary.
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And I'm just proud of myself for like, yeah, like pushing myself
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to come out here and, and be scared and I'm, but I'm good.
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That's what I'm proud of.
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I know.
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Oh my God, thank you.
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Your whole life just changed the whole thing.
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Oh my God, your whole life is changing as we speak, but I'm as
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we speak.
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I'm going through it.
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Jessica, your turn.
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Don't be looking at me.
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No, I just love the vulnerability and I love that you're vulnerable
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makes everybody here wanna be more vulnerable.
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But the other thing I wanna say is this podcast because to be
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honest, you guys, we're living in a talking about this podcast
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has been literally life saving as well.
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It's been, here's the thing like this day and age to come on
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a camera and like to be so open about so many different topics
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that can be controversial.
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It can be, you know, people might have their opinion or not
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agree with you or attack you or pass judgment on you without
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really knowing you very scary.
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But also like having three Latinas on this show run by so many
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Latina women and men out here.
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Like, it's something that I've never, I wish, I wish the audience
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could feel the support and the love and just, I've never been
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in a working environment like this, I feel safe and I feel prepared
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and just ready to go and like, no matter where I land, I know
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I'm gonna be caught like with somebody and someone.
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So like, it's also nice to know that this exists.
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You know, that's something I'm so proud of to be able to say
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that we got to experience this, you know, what are some things
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may I know it's doing the positive.
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But I know for me like maybe like a small thing that I'm not super
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proud of, you know, you're not proud of it.
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I could be a diva.
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And I'm trying to ask myself, I think something I'm working
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on is the fine line of like, hey, this is my standard versus
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like adaptability.
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So I think that's, I guess maybe that makes me a diva but like
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have you ever been a diva?
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Maybe not in the workplace but like any where?
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Yeah, I've been a diva.
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I think I'm only a deal with, with my mom, with your mom.
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Yeah, like that's the only time this is because I'm like mom
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where is help me with my hair, like help me.
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I am like help me do this.
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Like, you know, I expect her because she's always there for
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me.
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But like other than that I try to keep it, she folds the panties
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I try to keep it.
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Yeah, she, she has the maleta all packed.
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Did you, have you ever been a diva?
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Um, in like in a work setting?
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Uh I don't think so.
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Maybe, maybe she's Colombian.
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What is a diva?
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And when can you be a diva?
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So I could not get in trouble.
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You never know what is, I think divas are just confident in
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what they want and aren't afraid to say it and aren't afraid
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to say it.
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But when someone sometimes expresses that can come off as
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aggressive, well, then we're aggressive but I, I'm sorry
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it's ok for me to be a diva. OK, thank you.
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I got the green player.
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People earn the right.
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I feel like that, you know, Hollywood has this, you know, the
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people like J Lo J Lo is a diva.
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Diva.
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Nicky might have to be to get to that level, right?
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To like be, you know, a diva is that I think you have to earn it
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or it sounds like there's levels to diva.
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I know like with divas like we were talking about in Hollywood
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you need to operate at a certain level, which is actually
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why I'm really, really excited about our guest that's gonna
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be coming on and literally right now, Natasha Graziano, she
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is like, she's gonna bring all the energy when I say this girl
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operates at a million and it's for a reason you guys are gonna
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find out, don't wanna miss it, trust me.
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And then we have another Diva Salina who's gonna help us, you
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know?
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Right.
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Did I say it?
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Right?
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No, I got my kitties out for her.
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You know, we all do.
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We all do.
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I knew there was a, there was some sort of influence we're exploring
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really owning our diva selves in different forms.
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So I'm excited.
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We'll be right back.
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What you're doing is you're copying and pasting the same dude
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in a different outfit every time because you're saying universe
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I don't mind being treated like this.
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Let's do it again.
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All right, you guys, we're back and we are so ready to introduce
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the one.
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The only Natasha Graziano.
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Are they incredible?
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All right, girl, I need to do this intro because you have done
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so many incredible things.
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Natasha is a best selling author and influential thought
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leader with over 15 million social media followers, is dedicated
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to transforming lives through neuroscience and ancient
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wisdom from over homelessness as a single mama featured in
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top tier publications such as The New York Times and Forbes
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Natasha's expertise has garnered over 1 billion OK.
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Billion with the million views and inspired positive transformation
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Whoa.
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That's mouthful.
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She's real love you.
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I love, oh my God, I love you.
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First of all, Bling Bling.
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Bling Bling, I heard so many things in that paragraph.
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Home.
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First of all homeless, second of all, like billion views.
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How did, where did wait, tell us about your story to begin with
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for a long story.
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But like the very 18 year old you 18 year old me, she's like,
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got a big dream.
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She lives in the UK.
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She was a farm girl.
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I grew up in a, like a farm.
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Cows were my best friends.
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Like she knew my name is.
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You do.
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Yes, babe, I loved it but I was wearing high heels in the farm
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So I was like, yo, I wanna do something with my life but I didn't
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know what.
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So anyway, I didn't go into TV, in the UK and start to grow my
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name.
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All of a sudden on the other side of that, I find myself in a downward
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spiral.
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I suddenly find myself getting depressed, getting lonely
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getting weak.
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This is before I got married and had my kid and I was like, oh
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my God, where am I going?
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And all of a sudden, I'm a webcam girl who is finding herself
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doing way too many drugs and I'm caught in this web of going
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downwards after I fast forward I get married.
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I have my child.
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And then suddenly I have this breakthrough.
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I'm at a really low point.
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I've just overcome an illness, still trying to overcome it
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after I have my son.
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And I'm like, I can't go back to the drugs.
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I can't go back to where I was.
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And then in that moment I decided to commit to something different
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I decided I am not gonna stay in this rut, but it was only because
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of the voice I was hearing of Denzel Washington.
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I know I was listening to speech, I was listening to Denzel
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Washington on youtube to his motivation speech saying this
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is just temporary, you're gonna overcome this, you're gonna
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get out of this plane is just temporary.
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And I realized maybe this is just temporary.
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Maybe what I'm going through is not forever.
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Maybe it's just now and maybe I can do something different
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in my life.
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So then I realized how about I start writing a story about myself
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a new story.
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So I decided to write a story being the main character in my
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movie.
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And I started writing about myself in the past tense.
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I started writing a new dream about myself.
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She's gonna get out of here.
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She's gonna make some money.
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She's gonna move to America, she's gonna be, use her voice
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and become somebody and that's how it all began.
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Oh That's amazing.
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I am my God.
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Oh my God.
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When was, when was like your first moment that you like that
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you had a 1st, 1st speech or your first video that like went
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viral.
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How did this work?
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You, you wrote the script and then what was the next step?
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So the next step was I reached out, I had an Instagram following
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already.
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So I reached out to somebody who was in a self development space
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because I knew I wanted to get into coach and get into motivational
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speaking because I had this message come to, I'm going to be
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a motivational speaker.
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Bear in mind at the time, I had an overactive thyroid.
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I was on heart medication and medication trying to get myself
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better.
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So I was like, what do you mean?
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I'm gonna be a motivational speaker.
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Like I can barely look after my son, let alone help somebody
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else.
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But I knew I wanted to be a role model for him and somebody else
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in the world.
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So I started doing a podcast which wasn't a podcast at the time
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It was just a Zoom show that I stuck on my Instagram.
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Somebody said yes and it went viral because that one person
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said yes.
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The next person said yes.
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And all of a sudden now I have people like will I am Jar Rule Steve
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Aoki, massive stars on my show.
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I started going on stages.
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I remember the very first time I went on stage and I remember
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standing on my coffee table at home in London and I was standing
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on it in my high heels that I was going to wear on the stage on
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the day and I was holding a hairbrush and I was rehearsing it
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to my son and my partner at the time and I was like, I'm gonna
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do this and I, I just started doing it and I started just preaching
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life into the sofa into him.
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And I realized that I'm gonna do this for someone else.
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This is bigger than me now.
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And little by little, you know, all of a sudden you go from doing
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that was my first stage back after COVID 3000 people to now
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I'm headlining in July to 70,000 people.
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Oh, yeah.
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So you had to really garner those skills or do you think that
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was something in you, you already had that you didn't even
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know you had, being able to connect with that many people?
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I feel like it was innate.
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Like I always had a voice channel.
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Yeah.
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Like I was always the person who would get up at the fashion
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show host, the shows.
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I was always someone who wanted to use my voice, but it was about
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using my voice in a way to help people.
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And people say, wow, you have a way like you go up, you go down
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you go loud, you go quiet, you just use your voice in a way.
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But I think that's just innate within me, I now have clients
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I coach how to do it because I know now I watch myself.
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Oh, that's what I do.
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But I don't know.
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You coach them how to speak or do you coach them in other ways
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I can like, if they have negative thoughts, what is something
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that you do during that coaching or tell them during the coaching
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that has helped?
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If someone's going through a negative thought pattern in
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their mind, you have to retrain them to let go of the familiar
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past and step into a new version of them.
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You have to help them to let go of what they know to grow.
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You have to help them to say that was who I was, but who do I want
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to be?
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So I would make them write down all their negative thoughts
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and then start working on some new thought training processes
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to basically use their voice through writing it down in the
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past tense about what they want the same way I manifested my
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life.
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How do you approach somebody who's coming from a really negative
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space that you're coaching?
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So I allowed them to talk about it, but I don't really need to
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hear the details.
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That's what therapy's for.
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I do therapy, three years and 15 minutes.
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So you'll come to me, it's just the feeling I need to know.
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He said, she said, my mum, do you want to carry on living their
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story?
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My mum told me this.
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So now I can't do this.
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You're living in the past and they're stealing from your future
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Pause.
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What are you feeling?
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I don't know.
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I'm feeling unworthy.
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Great.
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Let's start there.
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You're feeling unworthy.
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It doesn't matter what has happened.
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It's about getting rid of that feeling of unworthiness and
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building you up to feel worthy.
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So all the, the details and the bits in between, that's why
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I can speak to an audience of so many people and it reach everybody
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because I don't need to go into the details of what you went
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through and he went through.
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That's their story.
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The over lining thing is everybody, everybody you're talking
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to has their own, their own things happening in their life
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But what you're speaking on is so general like anybody could
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take what you're saying and really implement it in your life
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Well, it's like with love, right?
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People come to me like I keep attracting douche bags.
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Well, honey, what are you playing?
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Sorry, you let's do this.
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OK?
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I, I feel like I keep needy men like me that just need to be saved
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and it's like I wanna be saved.
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I just, I'm always helping men and I just, I'm tired of being
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like, you're tired of character developing them.
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I'm tired of character developing and like being in a like
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a like situation is back to back like, OK, so that is because
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what you're doing is you're copying and pasting the same dude
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in a different outfit every time because you're saying universe
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I don't mind being treated like this.
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Let's do it again.
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So you got to say I am not doing this anymore.
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I don't want to be treated like this anymore.
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I want a different vibe.
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Now you write your list of 100 things you want in your partner
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10 things they look like.
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Oh girl, it's so fun.
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10 things they look like 10 things you'll do together.
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10 things that you will feel together.
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You told me in the green room and I said I had a boyfriend.
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You were like, oh, I can get you down the aisle with him soon
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I was like, wait, how, how do you do that?
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So that's one of my fortes.
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I've had three marriages and four people engaged to this day
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right now.
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I have helped that many people get married.
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I love, love.
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How do I do it when you're with somebody?
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And you've been with them for a few years.
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First of all, you're on the back end, you're on the back end
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Now, if you are with somebody for that long and they haven't
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put a ring on your fingers because again, you've allowed that
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behavior, baby, I got engaged after like five days and married
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after three months, the first time, same vibe.
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You do not have to wait to make them do it.
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You tell them what's up, you sit them down, you k sweetie, cook
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them a beautiful dinner.
18:50
And you say, OK, we're talking.
18:52
So now you've had the most amazing five days together, 10 days
18:54
together, three weeks together.
18:55
Hey, let's say three months together and whatever the time
18:58
is for you and it feels good.
18:59
Do you really want to be with this person?
19:01
If the answer is yes, you and say to them.
19:03
So I wanna see if you're serious about this.
19:06
I can be with whoever I want as you can.
19:09
I've chosen you, you've chosen me.
19:10
Do you wanna commit to this?
19:11
They say yay or nay.
19:13
If they say yeah, you're in a good place, you say, OK, so I need
19:16
you to stand up and I need you to say if you wanna commit to this
19:20
because if you don't then sit the fuck down.
19:22
So the man behind you can stand up and that's it.
19:27
And everybody in the back leg is like everyone, you're feeling
19:30
it, we're getting, I need you to stand up because if you don't
19:35
then sit the fuck down and stand up and come back and you have
19:40
to go in with that confidence the time you're like, oh you know
19:44
I just, you know, maybe I'm gonna lose them if I behave like
19:49
that.
19:49
What if he like he feels like he's forced into it and he doesn't
19:52
he's not forced.
19:52
You've been an amazing person.
19:54
You've done all the things you do for them.
19:55
What's their love language?
19:56
If it's food and do food, if it's snacks of service and feelings
20:00
you've already played into it, you're perfect.
20:02
Then if they don't stand up, you walk away temporarily.
20:06
Do not be scared.
20:07
Do not be scared that they are gonna disappear.
20:09
You walk away and say, you know what?
20:10
I had an amazing time with you and I'm gonna bounce when you're
20:14
ready to stand down.
20:16
You let me know you walk away.
20:17
Do not answer his calls for one week.
20:19
Honey, he's buying a ring.
20:20
He's coming to your house.
20:21
Well, he's already, he's already there.
20:24
I literally when I date somebody, if they do not, if I don't
20:28
feel like you're gonna step up.
20:30
Oh sweetie, I'm like shame.
20:32
Don't worry about it.
20:33
Three weeks later, I'm already publicizing somebody else
20:36
who's bigger than you.
20:38
Who's more famous than you.
20:39
Who's kinder than you?
20:41
Who's what, what, how is she?
20:43
Well, of course I am.
20:45
What do you mean?
20:45
I mean?
20:46
Of course you were lined up behind you.
20:47
Like what you thought you were number one?
20:49
No, honey, if you wanna be number 123, stand up.
20:53
That's it.
20:54
You just, you wait, wait, do you wanna know the crazy?
20:57
I need to take a break because it was like I need not take a break
21:00
I need some, wait, the craziest part about hearing this right
21:03
now is there, there was a guy that I was, you know, kind of talking
21:06
to and like it was very casual.
21:07
He'd hit me up, we'd send memes here and there and then finally
21:09
I sent him a message recently and I'm like, look, this is what
21:11
I'm looking for.
21:12
I'm not looking to play around kind of similar, not as like
21:16
that, but I, the fuck off say that.
21:20
I said a voice note.
21:22
Dad, I'm like, you not, you're, you're not in this state but
21:26
I'm like sending you a voice note, sit down from like wherever
21:29
you at.
21:29
No.
21:30
Um But I kind of sent him a similar upfront thing.
21:34
Oh my God.
21:35
He is like having these like in, you know, real life conversations
21:40
with me about what your, you know what my future looks like
21:42
So when you're saying this, I'm like, she's right like it is
21:45
so true.
21:46
When you let a man just kind of dilly dally, they will do that
21:49
They've been with me for years.
21:52
But that's because you're saying to them it's OK.
21:54
So what you do is the final part, you write what you change your
21:57
words about yourself.
21:58
You're saying I'm a pushover no boo from now on, I'm empowered
22:01
I'm amazing and love is attracted to me.
22:04
I am a magnet to love.
22:05
That's your new mantra.
22:06
Every day, every day, every day, every day.
22:10
Look in the mirror, look in the mirror, I'm magnet.
22:11
I'm a magnet.
22:13
I'm a magnet to love.
22:15
If you're watching this right now.
22:16
Tag that yourself or this shows I'm a magnet to love.
22:20
Tag me Natasha Graziano.
22:22
Tag the show and boom, I'll repost my face.
22:24
We need a lot of people saying I'm a magnet to love.
22:28
II, I always love coming forward.
22:32
Natasha.
22:32
It's time to get into our Calladitas No More.
22:34
No more segment where we talk about things that we're often
22:37
hushed about.
22:38
We're gonna get into it a little bit deeper.
22:44
Have you ever felt an overwhelming call to embark on a new journey
22:48
How did this moment shape your path forward?
22:50
Well, my whole career was like an overwhelming cool, you know
22:53
who was I, I was a webcam girl like I had no experience in motivational
22:57
speaking.
22:57
But what I did have was a story.
22:59
What I did have was a story that needed to be shared with the
23:02
world to save somebody.
23:04
The reason I do what I do is because I saved a life last week,
23:07
two weeks before I saved somebody's daughter because of my
23:10
work.
23:11
So that is a calling from within.
23:13
Everybody has a calling.
23:14
Every single person watching here right now has a calling
23:18
Everyone has something within them.
23:20
And that feeling to go out and do it is you have to follow and
23:23
if you don't, you'll just suppress your purpose.
23:27
And if you suppress your purpose, you die inside and I've been
23:29
there.
23:30
Oh my God.
23:32
I've been thinking about sometimes I think about my purpose
23:34
might be too big.
23:35
Is that like, I never, never too big.
23:38
I was, I was on the, I wanna work with you on this.
23:40
I feel like I've been getting all the one on one counseling
23:43
and I'm like on the plane.
23:44
I was like, OK, I have this vision.
23:45
Like, is it crazy?
23:47
Like I'm like, maybe I'm doing too much.
23:49
Like, am I gonna get a brain aneurysm by overthinking?
23:52
And I don't know, but I have this calling like I ha I have to do
23:55
this.
23:56
If nobody else does it, I like it won't get done if I don't do
23:58
it.
23:58
If nobody does it for you, that's how it works, right?
24:01
Nobody is gonna do it for you.
24:02
So you have to do it for yourself when you feel the desire to
24:06
do it, go, when you feel the urge to do something go, you know
24:10
those inspiration moments when you're like, oh my God, I
24:12
need to call this person and then something really good comes
24:15
of it that's called intuition.
24:17
Tap into that more whenever you feel inspired, it's called
24:21
inspired action.
24:22
Take it, take the, take the action, how has the industry treated
24:28
you differently than men that advocate for themselves?
24:32
So the industry is run by men that I'm in, in particular.
24:38
So yes.
24:39
So you're kind of like a special ordeal, the fact that you're
24:42
a female in my field.
24:45
However, sometimes it's like until you come out with a voice
24:49
like mine.
24:49
It's like, oh, she just be like the rest.
24:51
So you'll look down upon almost until you prove yourself until
24:56
you go so much bigger than most of the men in that field.
24:59
And then you come up there and you're like, I'm doing this for
25:02
the females.
25:03
There should be way more like when people say to me, who's your
25:05
idol, who is the person that you look up to in your field?
25:08
I'm like, what?
25:10
Well, I'm the combination.
25:11
If Oprah and Kim Kardashian had a threesome with Tony Robbins
25:14
I'm the love child.
25:15
Like I don't know anybody above me.
25:18
I'm paving the way for the females who are younger than me.
25:20
No one older than me, right?
25:23
So everybody's like, I'm paving that the pot, you know, I go
25:26
out there and I do a completely different thing.
25:28
Oh my gosh, that's incredible.
25:30
Ok, we're gonna go into the next one.
25:32
All right.
25:33
When have you felt powerless in your career?
25:36
We're gonna go ahead and get back into that after the break
25:38
I'm super excited to hear this.
25:39
Obviously, you're super powered, but we're all human and
25:41
I'm sure you've gone through those roller coaster of emotions
25:44
So we're gonna be answering that when we get back.
25:46
A lot of people are gonna be like, oh, it's so emotional bitch
25:49
please.
25:50
If you do not fit into my life the way that I am in a high elevated
25:55
place, move on OK, girl.
25:58
So when have you felt powerless in your career?
26:01
Has that happened at any point?
26:04
Yeah, I think I felt powerless a few times.
26:08
Not just once.
26:09
I felt powerless in terms of, I have to wait or had to wait for
26:14
people to take me seriously as a woman coming up for the first
26:18
time going on big stages, you know, a lot of it's out of your
26:22
control until you turn the tables around.
26:25
I say what is in my control?
26:27
And that's when I created a podcast.
26:28
That's when I created my own life, my own stages.
26:31
If somebody does, doesn't open a door for you, go and open your
26:35
own.
26:36
Hey, man, I, I'm literally battling this as we speak because
26:39
I just stand up.
26:40
So I just feel like a lot of what you're saying is resonating
26:42
with me where like, I wasn't taking it seriously or like men
26:45
were being really like berating and like, I wasn't getting
26:47
books.
26:48
I was like, I'm gonna start my own shit.
26:49
So I was just kind of, I think you're saying that is kind of like
26:52
affirming like, just do your own stuff.
26:54
Yes, absolutely.
26:56
Just go out there and make the way for yourself.
26:59
Nobody's gonna do it for you.
27:01
What does success look like to you and then reverse engineer
27:05
it if success to you is being out there in the world nailing
27:08
it in your career in a certain way.
27:11
OK.
27:11
Great.
27:11
So that's where you want to get to script about it.
27:14
Write about it in the past tense as though it's already happened
27:17
and then work backwards, work backwards, work backwards
27:20
OK.
27:20
I'm gonna do this.
27:21
If I do this.
27:22
If I go to this place, if I meet with these people, if I connect
27:25
with this community success, feels like this.
27:28
What did I do right before that.
27:30
A notepad, I literally a thing But I was doing this on the plane
27:35
I was like, this is the end result.
27:37
I don't wanna tell anybody because it's like really big.
27:39
But II I saw this end result.
27:40
I'm like, OK, this is what I'm doing now.
27:42
I'm trying to fill in those gaps, bridge the gap between the
27:45
life you're living now to where you wanna get to, you just bridge
27:48
it.
27:48
How can I bridge the gap?
27:50
It could be in love, it could be in life, it could be in career
27:53
it could be in family, everything you can do it for everything
27:56
You just script it every single, it's like going to the gym
27:59
the science behind it.
28:00
I did a whole ted talk on this.
28:02
You go to the gym once.
28:03
Well, you think you're going to come out with that dream body
28:05
after one time that you have to, you came to this third master
28:13
for five hours, you have to go again and again and again, like
28:18
scripting, you've got to write about it every single day until
28:21
you get there until you start to see wins.
28:23
But remember, don't shun the small wins when you have a small
28:27
win, don't shun it, don't it?
28:29
When you have a win, which is small, don't shun it when you have
28:33
some salute it in gratitude.
28:36
Look at it and celebrate it when I win.
28:38
Small.
28:38
I win big because that just shows me.
28:40
It works.
28:41
Thank you.
28:41
Universe.
28:42
That's confirmation.
28:43
I'm getting closer to my goals.
28:46
Oh my gosh.
28:48
OK.
28:48
Is there such thing as selfish scripting?
28:51
Oh That's interesting.
28:52
That's a really interesting question.
28:53
No, your script about yourself.
28:55
But there is such thing as doing it only for you where it doesn't
28:59
benefit somebody else.
29:00
You'll find it either easy come, easy go.
29:03
I really want this car, you'll manifest it and all of a sudden
29:04
it's out of your life when you script for the greater good.
29:09
When I script that I want to reach a billion people in my lifetime
29:12
everything that I want in between that is for other people
29:17
The houses and the cars I have are an ad lib are a bonus to my lifestyle
29:22
The material things are a bonus.
29:24
That's not what I'm scripting about.
29:26
Do what you love so much that you get paid for it, do what you
29:29
do so good that you make money from it and all the things you
29:32
buy a benefit.
29:33
But when you write down, I wanna earn $10 million a year, even
29:35
just 100,000 a year, right?
29:38
For yourself of I wanna be able to give to charity like I built
29:41
my first school in Guatemala, which is my dream and I'm building
29:45
my second this year, it was a dream to be able to do that.
29:49
I already give back with my work, but to be able to make money
29:52
so I can give back like that and build a whole school for 600
29:55
kids.
29:56
So that's why when I script I'm doing it, I wanna also like piggy
30:00
back on.
30:01
You know, I think this is great that we're having this conversation
30:04
at the end of the year.
30:05
When the New Year's upon us.
30:06
How can we get prepared to be motivated to have a great successful
30:11
2024?
30:13
What are you doing?
30:16
This is the time when everyone says I'm gonna go chill.
30:20
I'm gonna go sit down, relax and next year we'll meet next year
30:23
I'll start my project sweetie.
30:25
My year it starts 14 months long.
30:28
It starts in November.
30:30
The crazy number is 75% of people quit their New Year resolutions
30:33
That's the recent data by February the first.
30:37
That's why there's no point in doing it.
30:38
So you start them as goals, you script it.
30:40
This is what I want to do and then I write it in the past tense
30:42
and I stick them on post it notes all around my house.
30:45
That's so interesting.
30:46
I keep thinking to myself like, oh, it's like, it's a strategy
30:48
I'm like, scaling his business, but I, I didn't realize I was
30:50
scripting my life.
30:51
I'm like, everything that I do is like, so like, I already have
30:54
like, what I want to be doing all the post it all over your house
30:57
to remind you.
30:58
Yes.
30:58
And then my goals and I'm gonna go towards them.
31:01
And I was like, wow, I have a lot of goals for 24.
31:03
I look at, is there such thing as too many goals or no?
31:06
I, I think you can go off course you can sidestep.
31:09
So the thing you don't want to do right now is that we come to
31:11
the end of the year, start writing goals.
31:12
Like I wanna open a cake store and I wanna go and be a pianist
31:16
and I wanna learn three languages.
31:18
That's OK.
31:18
The languages part because that's like an ad lib.
31:20
But, and I also want to start a business in coaching.
31:22
Ok, sweetie, that's a lot of different things.
31:25
You're gonna sidestep, become amazing at one thing and then
31:28
go on to the next.
31:29
So that's you don't want to sidestep.
31:31
But goals in the same field are fine or similar fields, mutual
31:35
feel.
31:36
Does it hurt to lose people because they don't fit into your
31:39
life?
31:39
Script?
31:40
Has that ever happened many times?
31:42
And no, I'm sorry, like I'm cut throat with it.
31:44
A lot of people are gonna be like, oh it's so emotional bitch
31:47
please.
31:48
If you do not fit into my life, the way that I am in a high elevated
31:53
place, move on.
31:54
I do not have any friends from school, apart from one Nats Getty
31:57
who's a really famous transgender icon, married to Gigi Gorgeous
32:01
who's also a really famous transgender icon.
32:04
And that's it.
32:06
I don't know anybody I went to school with because they treated
32:10
me in a certain way and they are not the same that I want to be
32:14
around today.
32:15
So I decided to redesign my life.
32:17
I make new friends along the way.
32:19
As I go, I have friends from the industry who I've stayed in
32:21
touch with now for five years.
32:23
But some people I have got friends for 15 years.
32:25
I'm like, well done.
32:26
Yeah, I'm like, well done.
32:27
You know what?
32:27
That's amazing because that means you grew together.
32:29
But if you do not have people that are amazing to you, sweetie
32:32
cut them out, it doesn't mean I'm saying fuck you.
32:35
But it means saying I emotionally cut the cord between me and
32:40
you like the umbilical cord and I just move on.
32:44
Can I have a question?
32:45
That might be a little bit like vanity metrics.
32:47
Do you think that the people you follow?
32:48
Like, let's say you feel that way about someone that makes
32:51
you feel that way?
32:51
Do you think it's wrong to unfollow somebody that doesn't
32:54
fit your script.
32:55
So it's funny when IIII I come, I come across it all the time
32:59
and I, I look at people and I'm like, should I unfollow you?
33:03
Like, I don't vibe with you and, or I don't know why I'm still
33:06
following you and you're somebody who was once my friend.
33:09
No, unfollow.
33:11
Every time I debate it, I unfollow and then they'll maybe come
33:15
to me and say, oh, hey, you unfollow me.
33:16
I'm like, sweetie.
33:17
Wow.
33:18
We spoke in 2018 but you still give a shit.
33:22
Then why did you not say, how are you?
33:25
Oh, congratulations on giving birth to your son.
33:28
I don't have time for it.
33:29
Oh boo, you should be around me more the energy.
33:32
You cannot play at a 10 out of and do what I do on the level to millions
33:36
of people.
33:37
If you do not stay in this zone to stay in this zone, you can't
33:42
have people around you who are bringing you down.
33:45
Do you ever have like lee room for people?
33:47
Because human are so humans are like onions like we have any
33:50
h and you know, our friends are going through their own issues
33:53
and problems and a lot of them are as mentally tough.
33:55
Like, do you ever have any, I guess space in leeway to like,
33:59
be patient with them or are you just like, yeah, if somebody
34:03
is going through something, then I'll be like, you know, do
34:05
you want to talk about it and then I give them that moment.
34:09
But the thing is I have time for you.
34:11
I'm there for you.
34:11
I text my friends all the time, my people and I'm like anything
34:14
I can do for you, let me know anything I want to promote your
34:17
product to my followers.
34:18
You want me to come hang with you and your kids, whatever it
34:21
is, whatever I can do to add value to your life.
34:24
But if somebody comes to me over and over and over, I'm having
34:28
such a bad day.
34:30
I'm so depressed, I'm going through this, I'm going through
34:32
that.
34:33
You know what?
34:33
We've all got things we're going through.
34:36
And so at that point, you have to just decide, are they adding
34:39
value to their life and your life or they blowing out your candle
34:44
I am beyond inspired.
34:47
I feel like I could fly and we have to wrap it up.
34:52
But thank you so much Natasha for like these like 10 minutes
34:55
or 20 minutes.
34:56
I don't even know.
34:57
I wish it was 1000 minutes because I feel like I would like,
35:02
you know, like so motivated and it's so like can, can you shout
35:07
out your soul?
35:07
So people can see where to find you for sure.
35:09
So you find me on every platform just under my name Natasha
35:13
Graziano.
35:14
I'm everywhere you'll be able to follow it, come and see this
35:17
kind of content every day, you know, just wake up and just go
35:20
boo put the notifications on seal.
35:22
Like I was gonna say that I'm doing every second of the day.
35:25
Not, I'm gonna be hours and hours on the talk.
35:29
I think I'm ready for an inspired cocktail.
35:32
I had to, it's time to join it at the side bar after the break
35:36
I know for me when I was 21 I didn't know what to do, but partying
35:39
was cute, drinking and doing a little bit of this and that was
35:42
cute.
35:42
And I found Crystal Meth and in the gay community it's very
35:45
popular in the queer community.
35:47
And then it just kinda got out of hand.
35:50
Natasha's stuff was incredible.
35:53
You guys.
35:55
And I'm ready to change my life.
35:58
I'm getting upset right now, but we have more guests.
36:00
We have another guest on the show.
36:02
I'm really excited for a second guest.
36:04
It's the moment we've all been waiting for.
36:06
She's a cholita plus size ghetto superstar known most recently
36:10
for her appearance on Rupaul's drag race season 15 World of
36:14
Wonder vh1.
36:15
Her original drag shows Loteria and Shark bait Sundays
36:19
have received tremendous acclaim.
36:21
The former being voted the best drag show of 2022 in Los Angeles
36:25
Blade.
36:25
Her 11 years of sobriety and extensive experiences in the
36:28
industry have led her to unapologetically share every little
36:31
piece of herself with an audience.
36:33
She can, I need you to give a warm Welcome to Salina Estitties, start.
36:35
Clapping are clapping are clapping.
36:44
Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, yes, my queen, the queen Lass of life
36:55
Oh, you're the, you're the queen.
36:56
We're really excited to have you here.
36:58
I'm very, very interested and well immersed as a, as a spectator
37:03
in the, in the drag community and in the vogue community, I
37:07
know they're not the same thing, but like I'm a fan, I'm a fan
37:09
of everything and I do comedy, I do stand up.
37:12
So when I first started a lot of the drag community gave me a
37:14
lot of opportunities to host shows.
37:16
One of my biggest things, one of my biggest paid gigs to date
37:19
has been at a drag show.
37:21
So I'm in New York in New York.
37:24
Yeah, I move to L A so I'm gonna fuck it up over here.
37:27
The New York drag scene is delicious.
37:29
Do you feel like you have the community on the west coast of
37:31
this kind of, it's a little bit different here.
37:33
So I love the drag community in New York because it's so theatrical
37:37
and I have a B fa musical theater.
37:38
So from where and the, the American Musical and Dramatic Academy
37:44
So that's where I kind of got my roots in performing, you know
37:48
so I would love New York.
37:49
I always wanted to go to Broadway.
37:50
I don't have my driver's license because I always wanted to
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go to New York.
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You don't need my sister, everything.
37:57
Makes sense.
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I'm wondering um how do you even get into drag?
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Oh my God.
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I'm really curious to hold this story.
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Yes.
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So I, you know, gotta be, I moved out here when I was 17.
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I grew up in the Bay Area, right?
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Castro with my gay uncles because my parents were always working
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because they had me real young.
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So I was with my gay uncles in the clubs, gay, gay, gay, gay
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gay.
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So I always homosexual period.
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Like how did you know, I feel like she was always a little sparkle
38:23
in her eye.
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You know what I mean?
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Honey, Salina was tired of me.
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OK?
38:27
I think she died in like fuck up.
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Don't be bored.
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You know what I mean?
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Can you, do you sing some of the Salina songs when you perform
38:39
I want to but I want to do it justice, you know.
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So like I get very nervous especially because my name is Salina
38:44
I named myself after her.
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So how did it happen?
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How did you become a Well, so I was like, I got my B fa musical
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theater and I was auditioning.
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I was trying to be like a male dancer and all the like in Hollywood
38:54
No, like ma like v like, you know, not to say aren't but it's
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different.
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Professional.
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Yeah.
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Professional c choreography.
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All that.
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But the first thing they ask you when you walk into an audition
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is take off your shirt and honey, I got chi chi, I got that.
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That's why I'm a, well, these ones are not that they're not
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that real, but like, I got a little bit of that than me.
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Like, listen, I got mad.
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She, she's always, since I was little, I was Gordito.
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You know what I mean?
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So I always struggle with that.
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So, like, let me own that and call my name S Titties.
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Um, so I got into drag because a friend of mine was doing drag
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and I was choreographing for her, making her mixes and like
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helping her costumes.
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And one night she was in competition and she lost, she didn't
39:37
get first place.
39:37
So I said, you did not do anything.
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I said girl, let me do this sometimes if, if people don't be
39:42
taking, you gotta get in the, in the ring, you gotta let your
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but you want, so you win and I want competitions and I got in
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the gigs and I, I started making money and I'm performing,
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I'm dancing.
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I'm doing all.
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I look gorgeous.
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So you started a show award winning, by the way, I love to play
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on the words all of that.
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So talk to us about why you created that show up.
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Yeah.
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So with my drag, I've been out here for, I've been doing drag
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now for like 10 years almost and, and developing like who my
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drag persona is and discovering who I am just growing up.
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You know, and I, I, like y'all mentioned, I'm sober, just celebrated
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12 years.
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So it's a lot of self development and growth that you do on yourself
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So as I grow, as a person, my art grows with me and my art is a representation
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of who I am, right?
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So I, I was always very ashamed to be Latino, to be honest, you
40:32
know, growing up, I just didn't understand how I can succeed
40:35
in this world.
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When what I saw on TV was gossip girl, you know, White, you know
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White Rich.
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That's not my story.
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It's not my parents' story.
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So I used very ashamed and like, um I would go to pride.
40:47
Have y'all ever been to a pride before?
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I haven't been to pride, but I've been to West Hollywood.
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I was drunk like a few weeks ago.
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It is so much fun.
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It every day in West Hollywood, you know, so with pride and
40:58
like being a drag queen in the gig and I have to speak on it.
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I have to be like, oh, I'm so proud to be gay.
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I'm so proud to be gay.
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And then as the years went on, I was like, how can I be proud of
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who I am if I'm not proud to be Latino?
41:08
You know what I mean?
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I think I went through a similar thing where it's like, I, I'm
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in, I'm a stand up.
41:13
I'm like, I really, I can't explore all facets of my art if I
41:15
don't really go and dig deeper into this part of myself.
41:19
And so what I had to do was work on that shame and how that, what
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that looked like kind of was asking my mom like, hey, what was
41:25
it like for you to come over here?
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You know, which I never did.
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And I got to ask her before she passed away in January from cancer
41:32
So I've been dealing with that all year.
41:34
It's been really like hard.
41:36
But um you know, everything now is like for her, which is really
41:39
cool and for my dad and my sister.
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So um asking her those questions and to hear that I was like
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oh, shoot, my mom's got a story at 1617 years old coming over
41:49
here.
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The only one who survived her group of 13 people who are trying
41:52
to get over here, like my mom's a bad bitch.
41:54
You know what I mean?
41:55
I'm like, this is, this is where I'm coming from and for me to
41:59
create a life for myself that my mom came out here to create
42:02
for herself and her family.
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It's all connected and it's like, makes me so proud of my mom
42:07
and everything, you know what I mean?
42:09
So something I really wanna ask about because especially
42:12
now in this society, so many people are turning to a lot of like
42:15
unhealthy habits.
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I know I've done it in the past where that's like drinking or
42:19
whatever it might be.
42:20
Um What, what was it for you that sparked you to go down your
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sobriety path.
42:25
I think everyone's having a hard time, especially right now
42:27
with the state of the world and no one can afford rent.
42:30
Like it's hard out in the street, you know.
42:32
So, um, I know for me when I was 21 1920 21 years old, I could not
42:38
I didn't know how to live life.
42:39
I went to musical theater school.
42:39
I'm tapped dance, singing, singing.
42:41
I don't know how to pay taxes.
42:42
I don't know how to like pay my bills.
42:43
So I didn't know what to do, but partying was cute, drinking
42:46
and doing a little bit of this and that was cute.
42:48
And then it just kinda got out of hand for me and I found Crystal
42:52
meth and in the gay community it's very popular in the queer
42:55
community.
42:56
And, you know, they, they like to do K and G and depending on
42:59
the vibe.
42:59
So I got all into that to the point where I, I was like homeless
43:02
for two months and how yes, I had all my stuff in a bed bath and
43:06
beyond shopping cart.
43:07
It was like on the street, I found a drug dealer to go stay on
43:12
his couch.
43:12
But I had all my my cart on the side of the alley like it gets crazy
43:17
you know, 12 years ago.
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12 years ago.
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So I got 21 years old.
43:20
I found, you know, my sober community which is, like, really
43:23
helped me grow.
43:25
How did you find that?
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Um, this guy I met and did, was like, doing drugs with, he was
43:31
like, oh, no, I did drugs.
43:32
I, I was, I was gonna celebrate my 30 days today and I was like
43:35
we celebrate what?
43:36
Who?
43:38
Yeah.
43:38
So I was like, oh, there's a whole programs and communities
43:42
of sober people who help each other stay sober.
43:44
And that's kind of what I found and it's helped me like stay
43:46
So you chose to do that.
43:48
Well, yeah, life was bad.
43:49
You got to a point where you like this is for me.
43:52
Yes.
43:53
And you know, being so young, I didn't have career, the, the
43:55
boyfriend, the house that I have nothing to lose.
43:58
I hid it from them completely.
43:59
I had no idea.
44:00
They had no clue.
44:01
So I got sober and then I told my dad and he was like, what if you
44:04
were still communicating with people that you're going through
44:08
You know, I'm really proud of you and I'm so proud of you and
44:12
grateful that you're sharing that story with us.
44:14
Yeah, I will say like you have, you have like the energy that
44:16
you bring.
44:17
No, nobody knew or a lot of people don't know what you're really
44:20
going through.
44:20
Everything you've gone through blows my mind like being homeless
44:23
and you know, all the, all the, you know, the addiction prior
44:25
It's incredible to see the light that you have now.
44:28
So thank you for inspiring us and telling us about that.
44:30
So, girl, I heard you had a new game that you're getting ready
44:33
to roll out.
44:34
Can we play?
44:35
Ok.
44:35
Look.
44:36
So I created this show before drag race but now that I've been
44:38
on drag race, I, you know, ok.
44:41
Yeah, I can boost my, my situation.
44:43
I'm gonna create a whole new version.
44:44
But I wanna, I wanna introduce you guys to Lotteria.
44:46
Do you guys wanna play games?
44:48
Cornisha?
44:49
Cornisha?
44:50
Come in, honey.
44:51
Yes.
44:53
Not Cornisha, not we got.
45:00
Oh my good.
45:01
Why is Cornisha kind of oh my God, we know about listen.
45:09
So y'all played Loteria before.
45:12
Y'all know lot never played before.
45:14
This is what happens sometimes I played Dominican Bingo but
45:20
IIII I, so, but it's good.
45:22
So let me teach you.
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So um you know, when I created my show, I was like, what, where
45:26
does Lotar come from?
45:27
Researched it?
45:28
So in Mexico they created Lotar to teach their Children about
45:30
their culture.
45:31
So that's why a lot of the images are like El No.
45:34
Uh you know, like I, so I was like, how can I bring this to gay
45:37
spaces and queer spaces and teach about culture as I know it
45:41
So II I threw in some of my own in there like we have las unas OK
45:47
You see.
45:48
All right.
45:49
Oh, you don't have it on your book.
45:50
They have it on baby hairs.
45:53
I created my whole own version and listen.
45:56
Basically it's Bingo, honey, I'm gonna call a card and you're
45:58
going with your um popcorn kernels, you're gonna place it
46:01
you eat the prop.
46:04
I was eating, I thought it was like, oh my God.
46:09
So I'm gonna call out a card and then you're just gonna place
46:11
it and you're gonna get four in a row is where we're gonna play
46:13
If you get a line first, what do you have to yell?
46:15
Just, just four in a?
46:18
You can do it.
46:19
You can go up and down any four.
46:21
If you win, you gotta yell out a lot and I have to hear you, honey
46:25
you can't, you can't be like playing for a low prize.
46:31
I'm competitive.
46:31
Yeah.
46:32
Can I, can I actually sing my theme song for you, bitch.
46:36
Ok?
46:38
Is the song, ok, ready, honey?
46:43
Get ready for the game.
46:43
Now, are you ready to play now?
46:45
Get ready, get ready, get ready, get ready, get ready, get
46:48
ready for the game.
46:49
Now, everybody got your cards right?
46:51
Who's ready to win tonight?
46:53
You get a prize and you get a prize and you might lose.
46:56
But it's all right.
46:57
Hey.
47:00
Right.
47:03
And Selina, I'm willing, I don't get ready to play, honey.
47:06
All right, I want the competition out here we go.
47:08
Started out with Ed Soldado, the soldier, honey, he just came
47:13
back from, he's ready to see his wife.
47:15
My wife is about to lay it down on.
47:17
Daddy.
47:18
La Campana is the bell, the bell.
47:21
La Campana.
47:21
You can ring my.
47:25
Yeah.
47:25
All right.
47:26
La Dama is the lady.
47:28
The pretty lady.
47:28
La Dama.
47:30
Ok.
47:31
Who's close?
47:33
Ok, so you use this late at night when you got, you don't have
47:35
your man next to you la mano, la mano, honey.
47:39
Yes, la mano.
47:41
A drag queen's favorite treat.
47:43
El Dolar the dollar, honey.
47:44
Yes.
47:46
$10.
47:46
All right.
47:47
Um In the straight world you give them to strippers but we're
47:50
basically strippers with wigs on.
47:51
Anyway.
47:52
El diablito.
47:53
El Diablito.
47:54
Your ex boyfriend has diablito la Estrella the star uh uh over
47:59
close.
48:00
La Garza the Heron.
48:02
I don't know what the hell a heron is but that's what it is.
48:04
We got a bad boy.
48:05
OK.
48:06
We have El Valle.
48:08
Oh daddy is coming to save the damsel, honey.
48:10
We have La bota.
48:12
Yes.
48:13
La Botha we're getting there.
48:15
We have la Bandera the flag.
48:17
I wanna win Escalera.
48:19
You climb the ladder, honey.
48:21
Oh my God.
48:21
We have one right here and we have La Luna, honey.
48:29
Ok, Rudolph the red Nosed Reindeer.
48:32
How to OK, sorry, sorry.
48:36
Oh El Mundo is the world the man.
48:39
Ok.
48:40
OK.
48:40
A grande.
48:42
Ariana Grande.
48:43
Oh my God.
48:45
She is so close.
48:47
Ok.
48:47
Ok.
48:47
Ok.
48:48
Ok.
48:48
Here we go.
48:49
So it didn't work that I'm B of the drum.
48:56
All right.
48:57
So when I shave the next day it feels like El No.
49:05
Oh my God.
49:06
Oh my God.
49:07
OK.
49:08
I had it down.
49:10
I'm a tie.
49:11
I did look.
49:12
Oh my God.
49:13
It's OK.
49:13
Girl, I told you, what do we do with the ties then?
49:16
OK.
49:16
Listen, I usually do a tiebreaker.
49:18
We're gonna do a plazo meter by the audience.
49:20
Yeah.
49:22
Make some noise.
49:23
If you think Jess No is the winner.
49:27
I make no noise.
49:28
If you think I'm not at the winner video tonight, I see you guys
49:37
Oh my God.
49:39
It works for her.
49:41
You would do this.
49:44
It works.
49:45
It works like a can we do a cheers?
49:51
Can we do a cheer and then do we eat?
49:54
Oh You don't like the white stuff?
49:55
OK.
49:55
Cheers.
49:58
Oh my God.
50:01
Dinner and a show.
50:03
Isn't that fun?
50:06
Can you shout out your socials?
50:07
Let us know if we can find you if I can find, I wanna play this
50:10
for real.
50:10
Yes, honey.
50:11
So I'm gonna be revamped this because these are my old versions
50:13
So I create a whole new version that I'm gonna revamp and I'm
50:16
bring the show back bigger and better than ever in January
50:19
of next year.
50:20
So um you can find me on at S Titties.
50:22
That's es Titties, es titties.
50:24
Titties on social media and come follow me.
50:26
Um I also brought presents for you guys.
50:29
You like friends.
50:32
So I got, I just want to say to you really quick like my drag is
50:35
I, I do meet and greets, right?
50:37
I go to around the world and I meet people who come out to the
50:39
club to meet me.
50:40
And I get a lot of Latina like young girls and moms and mothers
50:44
and the come out all together to come see me because they felt
50:46
so represented by me on the show.
50:48
And I always tell them y'all are the prototype.
50:52
Y'all are the blueprint like with you guys are who I'm trying
50:54
to aspire to be as myself, you know.
50:57
So y'all thank you guys so much for being so powerful and have
51:01
being here and sharing your voices and like owning this shit
51:03
and being bad bitches that you are like y'all are what I try
51:07
to exude, you know.
51:08
So um I have a lot of merch and I wanted to give y'all my bandanas
51:12
I brought you.
51:13
So you know, when you know you're at home, you're making dinner
51:16
or something, you wanna tie that up.
51:17
So um it says my name on it.
51:19
But if you look really closely, the paisleys are titties.
51:22
They got little nipples.
51:25
Wait, wait, wait, wait, there are chi chi's everywhere on
51:28
the little squirts.
51:30
Oh I see it.
51:31
Oh my God.
51:33
You can go to S titties.com and buy my merch and support these
51:36
titties, honey.
51:37
So I can buy some elite tonight.
51:39
Thanks.
51:41
Very fun and very corny episode.
51:43
If you know what I mean?
51:44
Cornisha.
51:45
Cornisha.
51:47
I'm Yvonne Rohan, I'm Jessica Flores.
51:49
I'm Glorelys Mora and I'm Salina Estitties baby.
51:53
And this is Girl Let Me Tell You.
52:00
Get up.
52:02
Yeah.
52:03
Right.