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Let’s Go to the Gyno Together

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Jessica and Glorelys are joined by Dr. Erica Montes to talk all things vagina! We're diving into the ins and outs of tampons.
Show transcript
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Literally on brand for me.
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These are the ones that I use every day when I'm on stage.
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So Jessica, let's read the instructions.
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Let's do this together, let's do it together and then you can
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meet us.
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Please let us know.
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Yeah.
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What's up?
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It's your girl.
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What's up, Jessica here?
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And it's another episode of girl.
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Let me tell you.
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Let's go.
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So Jessica, they got me out here glammed up in Hollywood.
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I feel like I'm changing.
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I see that.
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I see that girl, I see the sunglasses Hollywood change you
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I'm wearing.
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I remember I used to wear black all the time I saw you switched
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it up today.
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I don't know.
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L A just makes me happy.
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I just feel good.
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I feel like you're definitely glowing.
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Stop, stop, stop.
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Also, I did want to point out we don't have our girl Ivana right
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now because she's doing big things in Hollywood as well.
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She's everybody up for Ivana.
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She's going to be in a movie.
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I'm excited.
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Yeah.
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Hopefully we can go to the red carpet I'm down.
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Yeah, because she said she was going to invite us as plus ones
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because she said something about girlfriends sticking together
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forever.
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She said that.
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Yeah, that's what I heard in the, in the friends episode.
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I'm excited for that also.
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We're making it big time over here on the pod because we have
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our first sponsor, man, Jessica Clap, clap, really loud,
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laugh with sound effects, all that stuff.
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I'm excited to get really into talking about some intimate
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things in this episode.
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I know honestly, probably the most vulnerable I'll ever be
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like on the internet because it is, it is vulnerable.
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But I think it's also something that's important to talk about
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because especially when we were younger and we didn't have
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the internet to like go on there and Google certain things
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and you're so uncomfortable and unsure of yourself.
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It, it's tough.
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I I would like to hear something like that.
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I'm going to talk about everything on the internet.
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So maybe I should have a talk about my friends, everybody.
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So it's going to be great.
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It's great.
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But speaking of which, how have you been, girl?
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How's your comedy?
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I know you're taking Hollywood by store over here.
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Comedy has been going really well, really developing my set
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more and more.
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I feel like moving to L A has really helped me see the world a
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little bit.
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I feel like when you live in one area you just see that area bubble
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So like, I'm like, oh New York, New York is the greatest city
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in the world.
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And I come over here and I'm like, oh my God, I have so much more
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to learn.
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I'm learning about my Latini on this podcast.
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So that's been really helpful to my art.
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So, yeah.
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What about you?
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I heard you were in Texas in your favorite place.
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Would you ever, would you ever get a Texas ID?
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Because I'm thinking like, am I going to switch my New York
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State ID for California or is that something I haven't even
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thought about.
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I feel like I feel like I'm committing, I'm betraying my people
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but I feel like you're so bicoastal.
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I don't even think you'd have to do that.
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Like if I moved to Texas, I feel like I'd be like super maybe
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I mean, would you do it?
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I don't know if I would move to, I don't know, it just depends
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on so much, but I did go to Texas.
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I was somebody's plus one for a wedding.
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Let's go.
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We need to have, we, we have wedding bells effects.
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I don't know.
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I like I went to two weddings in two weeks.
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Yeah.
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And let me tell you, it's definitely made me feel love weddings
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Were they open bar open?
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Oh yeah.
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Did you meet anybody?
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Did you?
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Um well, I went as someone's date.
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Yeah, and he was awesome.
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Full super.
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Did you open the door for you every single time he's approved
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every single time?
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Did you get his sign?
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I think he's a tourist to tourists are really good people.
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They could be a little stubborn.
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Ok.
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So, what's the negative signs to me dating a tourist?
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I know.
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Honestly, I don't know if this episode is for that.
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Yeah.
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Tourist people are just really stubborn.
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Ok.
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There, are there any tourists in here?
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Raise your hand if you're a tourist?
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Are you stubborn?
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Absolutely.
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But they have really good taste in food and lifestyle.
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So I, oh, I love his lifestyle.
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Yeah, I love just the cowboy lifestyle.
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You know, I know that make sure that we keep the recurring cowboy
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shoe running in every episode.
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Um, but yeah, I'm excited to welcome our guests today.
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I personally, if I could, I wish I had someone like this in my
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life every single day so I could text them and blow up their
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phone every time I get a question.
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So today we have an OBG A mama of three Dr Erica Montes in the
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house makes some noise and I am excited.
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Not only is she, you know, she's a doctor, she's a Latina.
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I think it's so dope to see someone in that position, but I'm
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excited to bombard her with all of my questions about the V
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word.
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Today, we're going to be talking about vagina vagina, let's
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say like 10 times vagina, vagina, vagina, vagina, vagina
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So everyone can feel because I feel comfortable with my vagina
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and I, everyone to feel comfortable with their vaginas as
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well.
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I love that.
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It's all about being comfortable out here because let's be
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honest, it's not always the most comfortable thing all the
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time because we grew up with that.
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Like, I don't want to say shame, but just like, oh, are you going
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to talk about it with your mom?
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So we're excited to have her on and yeah, we have tons of questions
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So let's get into that.
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It's going to be a great day.
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Anything else we want to say?
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I think we captured everything, right.
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We miss Ivana another, another we're going to put up this um
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this is sparkling water on behalf of Ivana, I think on behalf
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of vaginas and vagina and Ivana, which rhymes Ivanna Vagina
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Is that so she's still part of the episode.
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I has been vaginas.
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Here we go.
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I just saying, look, I am a comedian.
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I notice everything.
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Um So yeah, do we wanna bring on our guests?
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Let's bring her on out.
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Do we wanna do we wanna to like drop a beat?
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I don't have no beats.
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Let's go.
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Hey, hey, I'm so we're so upbeat.
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All right guys.
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So like we said, we're gonna be talking about everything vaginas
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every type of question you guys had with Doctor Erica when
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we come back.
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I'm excited but I know hi.
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So we're here with Dr Erica Montes.
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Thank you for being here today.
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I'm so excited to have you, Jessica.
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Sorry, we are so excited to have you.
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I'm a Gemini.
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I make everything by myself, but we're working on that.
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So, first question we're going to start.
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I took a P BIO but I didn't do so well, but it was still a P bio.
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What does OBGYN stand for?
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So, OBGYN stands for Obstetrician and gynecology.
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So, we obstetricians are ones that deliver babies and gynecologists
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are people that look at vaginas all day.
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So you do both.
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Yeah, I, well, I used to do both but now I'm just now I'm just
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a gynecologist.
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It's so interesting.
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Like I just want to know just to get a little bit of like your
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background and why you got so passionate about this obviously
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to do anything in the medical field, you have to be passionate
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you know, how much like like studying you need to do my brother's
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a doctor and it's crazy.
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The dedication.
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Why vaginas on your end?
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Why were you like, this is my passion.
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This is what I want to do.
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Yeah.
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You know, um I actually was able to shadow uh OBGYN when I was
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in high school and I just really liked that interaction.
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I really was interested in the conditions that he was treating
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and that he was managing and it was awesome to bring a new world
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world into the a new baby into the world.
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So I kind of just went with it and it did kind of fit my personality
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was your first time.
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Did you see the baby?
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Like did you see that process?
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Yeah.
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So he let me, so he let me deliver the place.
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I couldn't touch the baby, but I delivered the place and um
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and then kind of as things evolved, I just knew that that that
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was my calling and, and being a Latina, there's not many Latina
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OBGYN in the world.
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So I thought, hey, why not, why not do it?
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And just kind of represent, I want to ask one question before
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because we're going to bombard you.
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I have a lot of questions.
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I always have questions on my guy.
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I know I've been going to her forever and I still have new questions
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and I know Jessica has questions.
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I just want to know.
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Are you the first doctor in your family?
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OK.
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Do we need to drop some?
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I love that.
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OK.
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So I have a question for you though.
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I'm nervous.
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I want to know like, OK, because I feel like every girl goes
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through this kind of situation the first time that you ever
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looked at yourself down there, I mean, truly looked at yourself
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down there, right?
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You're like, OK, wait a minute.
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I'm a little bit curious right now.
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So I'm gonna be honest, you know, I'm always honest.
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I feel like there have been moments where I look, but now that
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I'm in my thirties, I'm like, I look regularly like I have a
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Yeah, I'm like, you know what, let me just see what's happening
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Like I should know what my vagina looks like.
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Right.
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But so I took a mirror, I have like a separate mirror where I
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just kind of like after I take a shower, I just kind of like see
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every time.
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Yeah, I just want to see what's happening because I'm a hypochondriac
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So I want to make sure that like, I think it's important that
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you're really in tune with your body, like, with every part
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of my body.
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I'm like, hey, this, this is what I normally see because I guess
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I don't know what normal is, right?
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We can talk about that later.
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But I'm like, yeah, this is what I feel comfortable.
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So if something ever goes wrong, I'm like, this is exactly
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what I'm going to tell my daughter.
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I have like a whole not dedicated.
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This came up, this came up.
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What is this?
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What is like, I'm annoying.
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I love that.
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Yeah.
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What about, you know, you're normal then?
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You don't know what's abnormal.
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Right.
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Right.
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So I'm like, but I do look at it.
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I'm like, I'm happy that I'm talking to you because I'm like
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I want to know what is it?
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Like?
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It's supposed to be like a, like I want to talk about all that
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today because, you know, I just feel like it looks like a you
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or whatever.
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I'm just like, I overthink everything but I want to.
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When did you see your vagina for the first time?
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Well, ok.
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Well, obviously, like our whole lives.
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But really, really look at it.
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Oh, my God.
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I don't even remember, but I do remember watching a show.
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I think it might have been sex in the city in high school.
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And I remember they were like, you need to look at it.
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You haven't looked at it.
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I remember they had the whole conversation and I was like,
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I haven't really sat there and looked at it.
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It's almost like you feel the first time I did it, I felt so weird
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I was like, am I doing this?
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Like, is this weird?
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I'm doing this but you know, yeah, probably like high school
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if I had to guess, I feel like at this point I'm like, this is
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just part of growing up.
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Like I don't want to go to the doctor and be like, I want to be
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able to be like, hey, I know my body and I want you to let me know
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like, are we on the same page about it?
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I feel like it's like a journey, you know, loving yourself
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is internal, but it's also like physical and that's up to you
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how you decide to do that.
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But it's time to bombard Dr Erica Montes with all the also like
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I just want to say if I was a doctor, I would have it on my license
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plate and I would have a whole necklace.
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Like I'm just obnoxious.
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Do you want to put like a little vagina that might, maybe you
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can make me one, you know, let's get on one of the store and make
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one.
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You say you like to build things.
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Well, I try to build this.
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We can give our guests gifts.
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We will make you a, I would appreciate that.
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Like maybe like buy it.
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But do you like in your office?
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Do you have like Vagit like pictures of vagina?
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I just, no, I mean, I mean, yes, that we have posters and we have
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like a model where I show patients like, you know, this is,
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this is the uterus, the ovaries, the vagina, the cervix.
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Um and then of course we have our mirrors there too.
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It's not a vagina mirror what we call.
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But I think, yeah, I think we should too.
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I think we're gonna have to get any vagina thing.
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Yeah, I think so.
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Yeah.
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So we might have to think about that.
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But yeah, we do have mirrors that are readily available so
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we can show patients kind of what's happening.
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I have a question.
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Do you?
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Because I feel like um sometimes we get embarrassed about
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asking these questions, like, should we be embarrassed about
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not sometimes knowing what the lobby?
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I didn't even know I'm saying it, right?
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The the like can you tell like it's three parts, right?
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Is it three parts?
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So see I'm learning too and I'm in my thirties.
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So a lot of, a lot of, you know, people get the vulva and the labia
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confused because they actually are different, different
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an anatomical area.
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So the is, is something more like the mons, which is the area
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that has the hair or not.
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And then there's the labia majora, the labia menorah and the
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clitoris.
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Um and then, but then the vagina is just the internal canal
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OK.
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So that's kind of the difference because some people say call
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everything down there.
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The vagina encompass that literally what I was doing up this
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episode, the outside is the vulva and the inside is the vagina
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It's that easy.
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And I have a question.
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OK.
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So I'm asking this for my younger self because you know, starting
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your period is obviously something that is, it can be like
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very vulnerable, especially like I'm just going to be honest
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like being a Latina, like it's not something that I would
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talk to my mom about.
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I don't know about you if your mom ever prepared you for that
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I knew it was coming, right?
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Because they did teach it to you in school.
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But when it happens, you're like, oh my God, like what do I use
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Am I using a pad, a tampon?
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Like what would be the best option for me?
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So I guess my question is like, what, what are the like normal
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ages that girls typically start their period.
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Like, for instance, like when did you start your period?
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I started my period at 12, at 12 and I was really lucky to get
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my period with my mom in the vicinity.
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So I was in my favorite retail store.
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Um, and I was actually trying on clothes and I'm like, I think
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I got my period and I guess I was like, like you said, like, in
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my younger, I was like, excited because you know, when you're
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young, like you're excited, I was excited because I knew that
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it meant something to people.
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I don't know.
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Again, I was younger but I was just like, oh my God, like this
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is it, this is what we were talking about.
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So I told my mom, yeah, you said you couldn't, everybody's
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different.
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So I was just excited.
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I was like, yo mom, I think I got it and I was excited to like,
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tell her, I think we could talk about like the process.
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Like after that, like, you know what my family taught me about
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like, you know what to use or what not to use.
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My aunt was really like the most like, I feel more comfortable
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talking to my aunt.
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Like, yo, like, I don't know what I'm doing and she taught me
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how to take care of yourself.
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After your aunt did your mom, I, I, you know, we talk about this
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It was a really hard, I mean, I mean, I have a lot of, a lot of patients
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who, who are Latinas who say, you know, we never talked about
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it.
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It was always hush, hush.
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I mean, like, for me, for example, I, I've got mine, I think
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I got my period when I was probably like 11 or 12 also and I thought
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like, something bad happened to me because I didn't, I had
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no idea because my mom never talked to me about it either.
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But I think the times are changing and like people are throwing
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like period parties now on things I heard of those party.
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I'm talking to my, I would not want a period party.
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Would you like 12 or 13?
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I would not, I'd be like, lock me in my room, nobody's at 30.
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Um If there's a situation where I got my period, I will be having
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a party, I'm 30.
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I, I, I'm celebrating today.
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So normal.
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Like, I mean, I have some, I've heard as young as eight, some
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some kids are getting it as young as eight.
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And then yeah, up to about 15 is a little later, but maybe average
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is like 12 to about 14 is kind of that range.
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And then I remember like when I had first gotten mine, it wasn't
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even like I was anywhere.
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I was just came home from school and then I just noticed I was
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like, ok, there's like a stain and I was like, no, what now,
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what am I supposed to do.
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I was not happy.
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I was not like this is the start of something new.
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I was like, why is this happening?
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Was like once I closer out the house, I just wanted to get out
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of my house.
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So, you know, and I love that we started this journey and I feel
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like we're becoming closer and closer and we're getting real
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close on this episode.
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So I want to know when was the first time you used a tampon?
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OK.
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That's a good question because I always was because I didn't
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come to my mom.
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I didn't really tell her was so like in a sense, ashamed, I just
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went, I just knew where my mom's pads were and I was like, I think
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this is, it's gonna go here and I'm gonna put this here.
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I was a little scared because I could see why like it seems like
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it would be intimidating to use a tampon.
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So I just use pads for a while until I was like, you know what
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I'm over it, I'm over the pads.
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I know it still works for a lot of um people, but for me in general
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I'm just like the tampon always worked best for me.
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I wanna say probably around like 17, I was an athlete as well
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I was like a very intense soccer.
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So I always found that especially when I was doing soccer tournaments
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like a tampon would work.
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So much better for me.
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So I wanna say like 17, it took me a little while for me to like
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do it, you know, I like, definitely in college when I tried
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it, I think I was intimidated at first by the instructions
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and like, I, I feel like I probably tried it in high school and
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I was like, ok, I'm gonna try again when I, because you also
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have to feel really comfortable with your body, right?
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So I guess I just wasn't really comfortable with my body at
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the time.
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And I think when I got to college, I was like, I wanna do something
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that's a little for me was a little bit more efficient.
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So I just started, I was like, I'm going to dedicate a day and
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I'm gonna try it as many times as possible.
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I'll put my leg on the toilet, I'm gonna get this tampon up there
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and then ever since, no, I'm just saying because you never
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know, I think like we're talking about, you know, feeling
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uncomfortable with the vagina and like sometimes like, you're
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putting something up there.
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So I'm like, OK, I need to know that this is like, OK, I'm covered
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Is it safe because of the myth that you hear about it?
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I'm sure you girls to you all the time with like questions about
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hey, like, this is something that I heard you lose your virginity
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if you put, does that mean like I'm a virgin.
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So I know that's what my mom would tell me.
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She's like the mom, you know, a lot of moms say like, can't wear
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tampons because then you won't be a virgin anymore.
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Of course.
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But I think that's part of our culture and those misconceptions
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But of course not.
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I mean you that it's not, it has nothing to do with, with you
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being a virgin or not.
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So no, that's true.
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Layers to like, it's not like, again, you have to think about
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your family dynamic, you know, your culture and we're all
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Latinos, but we all have like sometimes a little bit varying
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cultures like in New York, it was very much like girl, you figure
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that shit on your own.
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But yeah, I am a mother.
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I did the whole thing by myself.
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I was like, I'm going to figure that out.
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What do you do when I guess when your period comes around?
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Like, do you have any routine or like like for me, I'm like,
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this is my moment to take a break from the world.
17:30
I know at first I used to just be like kind of like brush it off
17:34
like OK, I have my period but I was like in a lot of pain and I was
17:37
like, I'm just going to go to work but I'm like, no, like I deserve
17:40
a day to myself and I'm going to take that day and this day is
17:43
for me to like, really?
17:45
What about all the days where you can't self care?
17:47
Like, let's say today, like, for instance, and you're like
17:49
cramping like crazy because that's happened to me.
17:51
I mean, like I said, I was an athlete my whole life and then apart
17:53
from that I do hosting and I've had times where I'm like, on
17:57
camera, on set, standing in a skirt in a dress and it's like
18:01
oh my goodness, like, I'm about to start my period.
18:04
Mind you, I don't have a regular period and I know that's like
18:06
another discussion.
18:07
I, and I don't know if this is normal.
18:09
I actually wanted to ask you this question.
18:12
I get my period probably once every three months.
18:15
Ok.
18:15
And I'll get it for like two or three days and then sometimes
18:18
I'll feel like no cramps and then other days the are so unbearable
18:21
I can't even like stand up straight, but it's like, literally
18:24
once every like three months.
18:25
And I don't know when, I don't know how so I can plan like that
18:30
That's when you work in show business.
18:32
It is not, it is not the easiest thing to navigate.
18:35
Let me tell you.
18:36
Yeah.
18:36
You know, I think, I think it's important to realize that periods
18:39
the average time frame to come is probably going to be like
18:43
every 21 to 35 days.
18:46
So your periods are like a little bit more concern.
18:49
And yeah, I mean, I would probably check you for a couple of
18:52
like, just some hormone issues, just kind of make sure.
18:55
Oh, my God, we're not, nothing crazy but, you know, just something
18:58
to, to evaluate and then, like, typical length is like, you
19:01
know, 3 to 3 to 7 days is pretty average and then, um, flow wise
19:06
you know, anything where you're not changing more than 1
19:09
to 2 tampons and hours is say an hour.
19:13
Oh, no, maybe twice a day.
19:15
That's fine.
19:16
Yeah, that's.
19:17
So if you're, if you're changing 1 to 2 times an hour, like one
19:21
every 1 to 2 hours, that's not a day.
19:23
But if you're like, you know, like maybe 3 to 5 a day is fine.
19:28
Yeah, I usually use like three when I'm on.
19:31
I have two questions.
19:32
What happens when your period days change?
19:34
Like sometimes they'll come at the 15th and then sometimes
19:35
at the first.
19:36
Why does it change?
19:38
Yeah, I mean, it could, it could, there could be a couple of
19:40
things like sometimes stress, sometimes traveling just
19:44
like time zone changes.
19:46
And then sometimes there could be a little hormone imbalance
19:49
where your period just doesn't, all the hormones don synchronize
19:52
just write that particular cycle and it could just be a little
19:56
bit later.
19:57
And what about sinking?
19:58
Is that like a myth or like we've been hanging out a lot?
20:00
So, are we gonna like have similar, you could, I mean, but no
20:05
I think that, that we tend to see that.
20:08
But I think that happens more like, if you live together, like
20:10
moms and daughters and sisters and things, I think.
20:14
I, that's about it.
20:15
Pretty interesting.
20:16
Anyway.
20:17
Ok.
20:17
Do you want to talk about actually app tampons versus pads
20:21
Because that's like another thing.
20:22
And again, like, I'm really, I'm really excited about this
20:25
episode just because again, like, when I was younger and I
20:26
didn't have like the resources or internet to go on to talk
20:29
about like the differences between using a pad or using a tampon
20:32
I would have loved to see this.
20:33
So girl, I want you, we're going to, we're going to pull, let's
20:37
pull it out.
20:38
When do you, do you have a circus?
20:39
Like for me, when I'm doing my comedy shows, I prefer to use
20:42
a tampon because I feel more like, you know, it's a me thing
20:46
I feel more like everything is in its place and I don't have
20:49
to because people are like you wearing a diaper and people
20:52
are like, they're not even looking, they're right under my
20:54
crotch and I just want to make sure that I'm like for me, I feel
20:58
comfortable and care of.
20:59
Yeah, I couldn't see, but when I go to sleep, sometimes I'll
21:02
use like a pad, you know, just I'm in a rush or whatever, but
21:05
you can't sleep with tampons.
21:07
Right?
21:07
Yeah, for sure.
21:08
So, I mean, usually during the day it's good to try to change
21:10
them every 4 to 6 hours, but overnight, eight hours or so, that's
21:16
safe.
21:17
Have you ever had someone?
21:19
Um, I, once, I think last year I went to my gynecologist and
21:22
I thought that I forgot to take out a tampon and she went up there
21:25
and she was like, you're fine, girl, you're wait, you thought
21:27
you left it, like, because, you know, is it possible that it
21:29
goes all the way up?
21:30
Well, it can go pretty high in the vagina but it's not gonna
21:33
get lost anywhere.
21:34
Ok?
21:35
So you have to make it, make sure cervix will, will prevent
21:38
that.
21:38
I mean, remember our vagina is a hole but it's like a sock.
21:41
So like one side is open and the other end is, it doesn't go all
21:45
the way.
21:46
So it won't end up like, you know, like we got a brief anatomy
21:50
for anyone who didn't do well.
21:51
A P bio.
21:52
Welcome to girl.
21:53
Let me tell you it was a rough time in high school.
21:57
So let's, let's, let's talk.
21:59
Let me, let me see.
21:59
Yeah, I want to talk about the, you want to read the instructions
22:02
Jessica.
22:03
Ok?
22:03
It's so sweet though.
22:04
It says your first time, take a deep breath and relax, take
22:06
a deep breath.
22:10
So I learned how to insert a tampon on my own.
22:12
But now that we have a profession in the building, I kind of
22:14
want to walk through the process and we got the good ones here
22:16
We got the tamp packs pearl literally on brand for me.
22:20
These are the ones that I use every day when I'm on stage.
22:23
So Jessica, let's read through the instructions.
22:25
Let's do this together, let's do it together and then you can
22:27
meet us, let us know.
22:28
Yeah.
22:28
OK.
22:28
Here we go.
22:29
OK.
22:29
So take a deep breath, relax.
22:32
OK.
22:32
So after you wash your hands, of course, you all need to wash
22:34
your hands.
22:35
So get into a comfortable position.
22:37
I feel like that could be whatever you want and be like.
22:39
So we, I used to put my foot on the toilet is that I think that's
22:42
perfect.
22:43
That, that helps to like relax your muscles, your pelvic floor
22:46
muscles.
22:47
Are there any other positions that you could consider lying
22:51
down on your bed?
22:52
But I mean, it just depends on where you're at, what comfort
22:56
level you have.
22:57
OK.
22:58
All right.
22:58
So it's easy from these instructions.
23:00
Insert the applicator, right?
23:02
It's, it's in there, it's in there.
23:04
OK.
23:04
So then push the tampon inside, remove the inner applicator
23:08
at the same time and boom and then this part opens up inside
23:14
So yeah.
23:14
Have you seen those videos where they put like a tampon in like
23:17
a glass of water?
23:18
And it just goes so that the absorbency part of it.
23:21
So when you first put it in, it'll just kind of stay that way
23:23
And then as the blood kind of trickles out of the cervix, then
23:26
that's when it'll kind of get a little thicker.
23:29
And then how do we, I guess the removal, yeah.
23:32
Remove this from the vagina, throw it out.
23:37
Remove that.
23:37
Yeah.
23:37
OK.
23:37
So all it says for that is just literally relax your muscles
23:41
and yeah, and just take it out.
23:43
And then the other thing and I get like, I'm, I'm like I said
23:46
I'm really excited about this episode because I feel like
23:47
a lot of, you know, if you're younger out there and you're watching
23:49
this or even if you're my age and you're like, I've been doing
23:51
it right this whole entire time.
23:52
Right?
23:53
Something that I always wondered is like, what do you, what
23:55
do you girls do after?
23:56
I know, I just, like you said, I think the paper on it just because
23:59
like, I, like, if I'm on a vacation or I'm sharing it sometimes
24:02
like, I'll be on the road and I'll share a room with someone
24:04
I just don't want, I don't want people to know like, oh, I'm
24:07
on my period or I'm my business.
24:08
But are there any other ways, how do you do it?
24:10
I think it's probably best just to, to throw it in the trash
24:13
like, not flush it because you never know as far as like the
24:17
oh, yeah.
24:17
You know how that is for the environment and things.
24:20
So, I think, uh, I think throwing in the trash is perfect.
24:23
Yeah.
24:23
And so for people also trying to figure out, ok, maybe our pads
24:26
for me are tampons for me.
24:27
What would you say would be, uh, the, the benefits of having
24:31
a, a tampon versus a pad?
24:33
Because I know when I was younger, like, I don't know, like
24:36
which one's better for me, you know?
24:38
I think, I think a tampon is great, especially for someone
24:41
who's active or, or someone who's an athlete, like, like you
24:44
were back in the day.
24:45
And I mean, also it's, it, you know, sometimes pads can maybe
24:49
feel kind of bulky or, you know, I think that it just kind of
24:52
gives you more of like a free feeling where you're not, like
24:56
just kind of feeling like something's down there the whole
24:58
time.
24:59
Um, but I think the one of the main things is that we want everyone
25:03
to feel comfortable with it.
25:05
And if you, you know, if you're not sure how to do it, always
25:08
ask like the a mom, a sister and then you can actually even come
25:13
I've actually had patients come to see me in the office to
25:17
help them put one in because maybe to help them to show them
25:21
how I never thought about that.
25:22
Like, asking my guys, I can't believe you didn't know that
25:25
I, I asked her everything, but I was like, you know, what she
25:27
could help me, you could go to OBGYN, you see her once a year
25:31
or some people multiple times, like, like, I need help with
25:33
this.
25:34
Right.
25:35
Yeah.
25:35
And so like, ok, so for instance, if we're talking about like
25:38
pads or, or no tampons, I know there's like different levels
25:41
that you see and I know, like, if you send your boyfriend to
25:43
go get like, tampons or like, which one do we get?
25:45
The, what are the different levels called?
25:46
There's large, medium and small.
25:49
I think it's, I think it's like light and then um and then the
25:54
max one, it could be like super absorbent or super, but I think
25:59
it's good to kind of see what your flow is like and then you can
26:02
kind of decide like which one you would want to use and maybe
26:05
some people would use like the super ones at the beginning
26:09
of the period and then just kind of trickle down to the light
26:11
one.
26:12
But please don't use a tampon if you're not on your period.
26:15
There's because I think some people may use them, might use
26:19
them like just for some vaginal discharge and things, but
26:22
that's not safe for spotting some people spot.
26:24
Yeah.
26:25
So I mean, I would say just use it when you're on your period
26:28
because then that can increase the risk of shock syndrome
26:31
and you not wear it on your period.
26:33
But I didn't know people use it for other things as well.
26:35
Well, some people, yeah, So we'll try to bust that myth today
26:38
And the other thing I had a question on because summer's coming
26:41
up.
26:41
Can you, like, swim in it?
26:44
Like, I've never actually gone in a pool.
26:46
I've never gone in a pool and I've had an accident where I'm
26:49
like, oh my God, there's like red everywhere ever.
26:51
So, is that a thing?
26:52
I think I remember when I was young, I think I remember when
26:54
I was younger.
26:54
Somebody did tell me when you're on your period.
26:56
Nothing's going to come out.
26:57
Is that true?
26:58
Is that a no?
26:59
I mean, they can still come out but it is safe to wear tampons
27:02
when you're swimming.
27:03
That's totally fine.
27:04
That's I think that's like something don't hate on my family
27:07
but my family.
27:07
So like if you're in water it stops your period.
27:10
I think that I think that because I mean, they also say I'm getting
27:15
in the pool and I, I'm like, I'm getting in the pool like, yeah
27:18
but I don't know.
27:19
But yeah, this has been really helpful.
27:21
I feel like I got sometimes like I feel like I'm healing, I'm
27:23
still healing like my inner child, I'm getting the answers
27:25
that I wanted when I was little.
27:27
Yeah, I feel it's just been like years of just doing it and just
27:32
dealing with it because I didn't go to anybody for this stuff
27:35
when I was younger.
27:35
So I appreciate you.
27:37
Thank you.
27:38
Thank you.
27:38
We don't forget we have to get her a vagina necklace.
27:41
You like, remember we're doing because that's correct.
27:47
Thank you.
27:48
Thank you.
27:49
Get it right.
27:50
I love that.
27:51
Oh my God.
27:52
Ok.
27:52
So we have so many more vagina questions.
27:54
Let us know as a, do you ever feel like your patients are asking
27:58
too many questions?
27:59
Or is that, you know, the more the merrier?
28:01
I mean, honestly, if it goes with what we're talking about
28:04
and it's gonna educate them, the more the merrier it's fine
28:07
because I have, I have more questions on the other side.
28:10
Yeah.
28:10
So, ok, this is something I think every single girl asks themselves
28:15
and it's like, do I look normal down there?
28:16
I know we kind of talked a little bit about, do you look at yourself
28:19
down there?
28:19
Which again, like it's a weird experience at first, but I definitely
28:23
recommend doing it.
28:24
How do you know if you are normal down there or?
28:27
I think also I've learned to, to find that every single woman
28:30
is different like some, what are they called like lower, right
28:35
So there's been there, there has been like a big push on social
28:39
media where they, where they show art of different and like
28:43
the menorah, which are the smaller lips, I think, like they
28:47
said, maybe from respondents, like half of half of um people
28:53
have labia menorahs that hang out.
28:55
So they're like Audis.
28:57
Yeah, about half.
28:58
So I think sometimes when people see their, their vulva, they
29:02
say, oh my God, I don't look normal because these lips are hanging
29:05
out or, or this is, you know, this is too dark or this color or
29:09
not.
29:09
But, I mean, honestly everyone's vulva is unique.
29:13
It's, it's normal, it's beautiful.
29:15
And so we just have to appreciate, you know, how ours looks
29:18
What's something on the outside?
29:20
Obviously, we know like, ok, maybe some are longer than others
29:23
What is something the outside that just by first glance shouldn't
29:27
should not is not normal.
29:28
Yeah.
29:29
So you know, if you are noticing like lumps or bumps in the,
29:33
in the like externally anything that itches or burns, of course
29:37
that's not normal.
29:38
Some, some, sometimes I feel like a lot of people think that
29:42
if it itches it's a yeast infection but it could be so many other
29:45
things.
29:46
So that would be a reason to go get evaluated for sure.
29:48
I have something I want to bring up.
29:50
I feel like sometimes I have coarser hair because my hair is
29:53
very.
29:54
So I think women like me with your hair sometimes get prone
29:58
to ingrown hair.
29:59
So for people that have that anxiety, how do you, I guess how
30:03
do you let them know like, hey, it's just an ingrown hair.
30:07
I got really comfortable.
30:08
So I'm like, oh this shit is getting clogged up, right?
30:10
I mean, it's my vagina.
30:13
So I know it really well, see I'm still learning there, vagina
30:22
is kind of an overarching theme for today because the tampon
30:26
goes in the vagina.
30:28
Right.
30:28
But I think it's still good to know that difference.
30:31
But no, I mean, I think, I think if they come in and, and I explain
30:36
to them like, yeah, it's just an ingrown hair or what we call
30:41
folliculitis.
30:42
I have, it's just my hair really, really curly, not to pick
30:45
up my business.
30:47
So I got folliculitis.
30:48
I it's an embarrassing thing because then I'll wear a bikini
30:53
But then like, I just because my hair is really coarse.
30:55
I just like, I don't want to wear bikinis.
30:57
I just want to put Instagram thir straps up because of that
31:00
Yeah, that's why I don't have, I think it's important to hydrate
31:03
the skin really well before you shave.
31:06
Um Also, you know, make sure that you're using a new razor almost
31:10
every time because the dullness of the blade will, will kind
31:14
of cut the hair at a different angle.
31:17
And then also maybe consider using like shaving cream because
31:20
that will hydrate the skin a little bit but that thicker.
31:23
No, that's another myth.
31:26
If you like, if you shave, it's going to come back 10 times worse
31:29
That I have a question.
31:32
I have a question like, wait a second.
31:34
It is.
31:35
I want to know, do you, do you recommend waxing versus that
31:40
Lasering?
31:42
I think lasering is actually good because it does kill the
31:46
hair follicle.
31:47
Um, so I think that's a excellent option, especially if you
31:51
have, if you're more prone to folliculitis.
31:53
But, but you, you can get you right there.
32:02
I've been, I've been sugar waxing and it's been helping out
32:04
like it grows back less now because I'm in my thirties.
32:07
So, I mean, I mean, waxing can also, can lead to folliculitis
32:12
too folliculitis extent.
32:13
But, you know, I think, I think you have to kind of try different
32:17
things and see what works best.
32:18
But I'm afraid what if it hurts?
32:20
Laser does hurt, I hurt that much.
32:24
I mean, what level are you going to?
32:25
No, I mean, it depends on where they're actually part of the
32:29
vulva shins.
32:31
Oh, no, but I will say on your vulva it's the least painful.
32:37
But there's a part where like all the way at the bottom, that's
32:41
the most, actually, the bikini strip area is the most sensitive
32:44
part.
32:44
So whenever I get waxed, I'm just like, maybe not the baby.
32:47
And then it just, well, you can put, you can put, um, like a numbing
32:51
cream before, before you, sometimes some OBGYN offices have
32:56
that, that's like external and that will help when you like
32:58
wax or.
32:59
Well, I would never do it myself.
33:00
That's one thing.
33:01
I mean, because I will stick around with that waxing paper
33:03
for the rest of my life.
33:05
So, why, why is the purpose of the hair down there?
33:09
Yeah, you know, that's a, that's an interesting question
33:11
I think it's more like an evolutionary thing where, like back
33:14
in the day when, you know, we didn't clothes, it maybe was like
33:18
a protection to the genitals.
33:20
And then it also may be something where like, mates could see
33:25
that that person has gone through puberty, they could reproduce
33:29
or something like that.
33:30
It was more like a visual cue.
33:31
So I think it's, it's just more of like a historic or evolutionary
33:35
thing.
33:36
Well, I just feel like sometimes people can get a little self
33:40
conscious about here down there, but I think it's, it's normal
33:42
you can do whatever you want.
33:43
Like I feel like I for wax, but some people do like different
33:47
shapes in their landing streak, landing.
33:51
I heard of the landing strip or some people are like, you know
33:53
what I am, take me for who I am and I want to make sure that nobody
33:57
feels uncomfortable about that because people will be out
34:00
here like no, everyone has different preference, do whatever
34:03
you want.
34:03
It's your body.
34:05
Thank you.
34:05
Thank you.
34:07
I just want everyone that's listening to know that you can
34:09
do whatever you want with your VVA because that's the right
34:12
word, Bob.
34:17
OK.
34:17
Other questions.
34:18
And this is, I know a lot of um you know, people, they get really
34:21
scared to go to the OBGYN for the first time because it's like
34:24
you see the movies, you see how they have like, 1 ft here, 1 ft
34:27
here and it's like, jammed up and you're just like, talking
34:29
hey, so tell me about your Sunday while you're in there doing
34:32
whatever you're doing.
34:32
Like, so, like, how, how often should people go to the Opgn
34:37
and, and then how old should they be the first time they go?
34:39
That's a good question.
34:40
Yeah.
34:41
You know, I think overall often for sure is at least every year
34:45
because things can change anywhere on our bodies where we're
34:49
examining and things in a year's time.
34:52
So every year is definitely important.
34:54
And then as far as age goes, I mean, I'll see, I've seen people
34:58
as young as 10 or 11 because they are starting to have like,
35:02
period problems and period issues.
35:06
And so, I mean, it's really just when you feel like there may
35:09
be a problem, heavy periods, painful periods and then, but
35:13
if you're not having any issues, I think around age 14, 15 is
35:18
reasonable.
35:18
So you can talk about other, other things that are going on
35:21
or other options that you may need for birth control and things
35:24
like that.
35:25
I love going to the Gyno.
35:26
Do you?
35:26
Absolutely, baby.
35:28
That's my favorite doctor up there.
35:30
I dentist with the bottom, but G top five dentist and g probably
35:35
bought for me.
35:37
Just a normal doctor.
35:38
I want to know why are you?
35:43
I want to know why, why are you afraid of the G I'm not afraid
35:46
I just, it's just one of those like, ok, here we go.
35:50
I know.
35:50
I don't know.
35:51
Maybe I need to book an appointment with you to like, you know
36:00
I like going only because I have a lot of like reproductive
36:05
history issues in my family.
36:07
So I like to make sure that I'm like, ok, is everything fine
36:10
I'm great.
36:11
I just want to make sure active is key.
36:13
That excellent.
36:14
That's why I I'm like, you're not gonna catch me.
36:17
Thank you.
36:17
OK, let's talk about another thing that I think we have insecurity
36:21
about is our natural Vava vagina order.
36:26
Am I saying?
36:26
I think it's vagina because it's coming from the inside, right
36:29
It could be, yeah, I mean it could be both but yeah, for sure
36:34
What, what are we supposed to smell like down there?
36:38
Yeah, so well I always tell my patients um your vulva or your
36:43
vagina should not smell like the inside of a bath and body works
36:47
store.
36:47
Oh my God.
36:49
You see that post on your, by the way, follow her doctor.
36:55
No, no, any of that roses, chocolate, any of that stuff.
37:01
I think um vagi women and vagina owners have kind of turn used
37:06
kind of words to describe their, their vaginas as like maybe
37:10
like earthy or ripe or pung or even like maybe sour and those
37:16
I think that is pretty, you know, a reasonable way to describe
37:19
it and kind of like a typical way to describe your vagina.
37:22
But now if you do notice that it smells bad.
37:26
Like one of my patients said I my my vagina smells like a dead
37:29
animal then.
37:30
Yeah, that's a no, no shaming but oh my God, like ok lady.
37:35
Well, let's go ahead and check you then.
37:36
That's something that I feel like could be fixed like or no
37:39
with like a shower or is that something that you with a shower
37:41
Yeah.
37:42
So if, if you're noticing that like the odor is there and it
37:45
smells like a dead animal, even after a shower, then something's
37:49
wrong, right?
37:49
Something's wrong.
37:50
Exactly.
37:51
So things that kind of can affect your, your smell though could
37:54
be like, you know, your period obviously because of the blood
37:57
and then intercourse because that semen can affect the ph
38:01
of you.
38:02
I heard that um and then also kind of like what type of underwear
38:06
you wear because you wear like polyester really tight or that
38:11
doesn't let your Vava breathe, right?
38:13
So what kind of underwear do you usually just cotton loose
38:17
fitting loose?
38:18
Sometimes I sleep without, without any underwear.
38:22
That's ok because it's supposed to breathe.
38:24
And I was out there in my own apartment.
38:28
Well, don't be, you know what I should never, I also want to
38:32
say, I think it's really important.
38:34
This is like a PS A message to again, I hope that everyone's
38:38
listening to our podcast because it's amazing.
38:40
But don't put the health of your body and your partners.
38:43
You know what I'm saying?
38:44
Like you should do that like I your own because I'm trying to
38:47
say it politically correct.
38:48
Don't let somebody else dictate how often you go to the doctor
38:51
or trust them with everything.
38:52
There are some things that recur naturally for women.
38:55
Again, sometimes the underwear you wear or even jeans can
38:58
cause you to have yeast.
39:00
I'd be saying je infections, infection or like wet clothing
39:03
Right.
39:04
Yeah, for sure.
39:05
Like, ok, so I've roomed with two beautiful, yeah, roommates
39:10
in college and they were rowers and I know like, they're constantly
39:12
like, you know, in the water, the ocean and things like that
39:16
and they're wearing these tight suits, which I'm sure didn't
39:18
help them out.
39:18
But I'm sure that's something that could really affect, you
39:21
know, getting yeast infections.
39:22
Right.
39:22
Right.
39:23
Yeah.
39:23
So, like tight clothing, the type of material you want to avoid
39:28
anything that's like more like polyester.
39:30
So, because that doesn't allow the Volvo to breathe also,
39:34
um, if you're, if you are more active, like in the water, make
39:37
sure like you take your suit off as soon as you're done because
39:40
just that moist environment increases the risk of infections
39:43
as well.
39:44
So, like in order to cure and if anybody's watching, like,
39:46
what's the best way to cure a yeast infection.
39:49
Yeah.
39:49
So, overall there are a lot of over the counter medications
39:53
available for yeast infections.
39:55
But honestly, some of those infection, some of those medications
39:58
have ingredients that can be irritating to the ulva and the
40:02
vagina.
40:02
So it is probably best to go see your doctor or your um practitioner
40:08
because if you keep using that, that actually may be making
40:12
your symptoms or your um, infection worse.
40:16
So, not always.
40:17
But I think especially if you're having recurrent infections
40:20
you wanna kind of get down to the nitty gritty and figure out
40:23
like, why do I keep having these?
40:25
And because sometimes you could have a yeast that's like resistant
40:28
to certain medications or it could not really genetics, but
40:32
sometimes you even think, I think it's a yeast.
40:34
Remember everything that itches is not a yeast infection
40:37
So you want, you want to go in and make sure like if I think it's
40:41
a yeast infection, but actually it may be XY or Z.
40:45
So that's important too.
40:46
Like I know some people that have recurring U I just, it just
40:49
happens a lot for them.
40:50
So that is that also genetic or is that just like?
40:53
No, I, I wouldn't say that, I mean, unless you actually have
40:57
an anatomical issue with your was an anatomical is essentially
41:03
just like you were born with the way that your, your, your body
41:08
was made.
41:09
So like if your urethra which is your pee hole has like uh like
41:13
it was formed in a different way or you have an issue with your
41:17
kidneys or your bladder, kidney, kidney.
41:20
It could be genetic.
41:22
But, I mean, that's not that it wouldn't be really common to
41:26
see a genetic problem for recurrent UTIs.
41:28
Ok.
41:29
Well, we have like 15 minutes left and I want to talk a little
41:32
bit more about periods.
41:35
And how do you, how do you track your period?
41:37
Like, what do you do that?
41:38
Like, how do I track my period?
41:39
How do you know, I can't track my period because it comes whenever
41:42
it feels like, which is so scary.
41:45
It's so scary.
41:46
Like I said, because I can be anywhere.
41:47
I could be on a run.
41:49
Actually, I was running a half marathon not that long ago.
41:53
And right in the middle of the half marathon, there it goes
41:57
and it was awful because I had to like, take off and I think every
41:59
you know, every, you know, buddy can relate to this that has
42:02
had a period when you get it in the middle of like something
42:06
whether that's like a gig, like you're, you're, you know
42:08
you're on stage or like in the middle of a marathon and you're
42:11
just like, so paranoid, you're like, am I, am I staining something
42:15
Am I, you know?
42:16
So, yeah, I had to like take off my shirt, tuck it in the back
42:19
of my pants and I'm just like this because every step you're
42:21
just like, oh, like I have a question.
42:24
Because you know, I'm a pedestrian, I'm from New York.
42:26
So I walk everywhere and whenever that happens, like I'll
42:29
just ask anyone walking in the street.
42:31
Like, yo, I know that you don't know me.
42:32
But can you check to see if I'm, you know, if you can see my period
42:36
But is that something you, you ladies do like on the west coast
42:38
because you're taking cars everywhere.
42:40
Like my home girls in New York are looking out for me.
42:42
But like why in New York?
42:44
Because you guys are walking everywhere.
42:46
I don't know, I've never had a random girl come up to me and say
42:50
that I have something.
42:51
I would say it to a girl if I saw it, you know, I think there's
42:53
a kind way of seeing it like, like I got you.
42:56
Yeah.
42:57
Right.
42:58
You might want to check it out, you know, I don't think we do
43:01
it.
43:02
We got to work on the sorority, the sisterhood on the west coast
43:05
in New York City.
43:06
We are telling everybody you got something I love that.
43:10
But you know, it's the regional differences I use.
43:13
Um Well, I guess I don't want to talk about brands, but I do track
43:16
my period only because I would go to the OBGYN and they always
43:19
ask you that question, what was the last period?
43:21
And I was like, I don't know, go go to the app so that I can know
43:25
when my last um I wanted to ask also because this is a thing that
43:29
I go through for sure.
43:30
It is like, and it is the worst for me.
43:32
It is deliberating, debilitating.
43:36
You know, I'm not the English girl.
43:39
It's debilitating for me.
43:41
Sometimes I can't even stand up.
43:43
Is that normal when you have cramps that are like that?
43:47
Yeah, I mean, I'm just, it's like in bed like fetal position
43:50
like, like so that there could, you know, chronic pelvic pain
43:55
in general is uh it is a, is kind of a hard condition to manage
43:59
because there could be so many causes of it.
44:02
But I think if you're at the point where you're laid in the fetal
44:05
position, you have to miss work, you're calling in during
44:08
your cycle.
44:09
I mean, none of that is normal.
44:11
And even though like sometimes our culture and sometimes
44:14
people from way back in the past have always told us like, oh
44:17
heavy bleeding and he and really painful periods are normal
44:21
quote unquote normal.
44:22
I mean, honestly, we don't need to live like that and that's
44:25
not normal.
44:26
So please get checked out honey, I book an appointment with
44:30
you.
44:30
That's perfect.
44:31
Right.
44:31
That's perfect.
44:33
Um appointments later.
44:34
But I used to really be like, oh, you know, like I would just
44:36
rush through my period.
44:38
I'm like, you know what I I deserve if I can, I would take the
44:40
day off because I'm like, I just have to take care of myself
44:44
So I just, yeah.
44:46
Yeah, I remember there was one time in high school where I could
44:49
it was last period.
44:50
Not like my period.
44:51
It was last period in classes and I had to sit in the classroom
44:55
for, like, an hour and my teacher was like, are you good?
44:58
And I just couldn't even stand up.
45:00
And I remember, like, I slowly just made my way to the car with
45:03
all my textbooks and I'm like, this is the worst game ever.
45:07
Yeah, looking at me like girl, I'm like, that's not normal
45:11
I want to shout out Spain real quick.
45:12
That gives out PTO Spain the country because they do.
45:17
I know.
45:17
Thank you.
45:18
Thank you for bringing that girl.
45:19
Who's that?
45:20
I'm like Spain country.
45:22
They'd be giving out PTO over there leave.
45:25
So we need, I hope one day the government listens to our conversation
45:30
and gives us men leave too.
45:32
I'd be down for them.
45:33
What a speech.
45:34
Thank you.
45:34
Thank you.
45:37
All the women know.
45:38
I mean, it is hard out here like navigating everything and
45:41
the pressures, especially when you're younger.
45:43
I couldn't, I mean, when I was younger, did you ever have a leak
45:45
through anywhere in class or something like that or even at
45:48
a partner's house as well?
45:50
Definitely at a partner's house and I'm just going to be candid
45:53
He has some very expensive sheets and those sheets were thrown
45:56
in the garbage because I don't want people make you feel bad
46:00
about it.
46:01
It's just like, I, I'm sorry that you're Gyptian cotton.
46:04
She's got messed up.
46:05
But look at me, I ordered it at a store.
46:09
But, yeah, like I do get embarrassed when I'm at a partner's
46:14
house and there is a situation but that's how, you know, you
46:16
have a good partner that he, he or she won't make you feel he
46:20
she or they won't make you feel like weird for having something
46:23
that's natural.
46:23
There's nothing I can do about it.
46:25
I hate, like sometimes when I was younger I would date people
46:27
Like, you don't know when your period comes.
46:28
No, I don't, you know, I didn't have a tracker back in the day
46:32
but now I do.
46:33
Thank you.
46:34
You know.
46:35
Yeah, everybody you should be with someone who respects.
46:38
It's like, you know, I love a partner that's like, what can
46:40
I get for you?
46:40
Go to the store for me, get it for me.
46:42
Have it in your house.
46:44
All of that ready for me.
46:45
I love that girl.
46:46
And then I have another question.
46:47
This is for more.
46:48
So once we're older and we're going to start getting off of
46:52
our period around what age should we expect something like
46:55
that?
46:55
Because, you know, I'm about to hit 30 end of this year.
46:59
So I know, I probably have, I mean, I don't even know when does
47:01
it start?
47:02
So I know you got to, you got time.
47:06
Um usually like around like between 45 and 50 is kind of when
47:12
things kind of start happening and periods start changing
47:15
So you still got a while.
47:17
But I mean, yes, I mean, there actually is a condition where
47:21
you can something that we call premature ovarian dysfunction
47:25
or failure where your periods actually can start going away
47:28
even as early as 40.
47:30
So that would be a reason to get a, get evaluated too.
47:33
And is it something you can reverse or is that just genetics
47:35
that sometimes ends up being genetics or some other medical
47:38
condition?
47:39
So, we've asked a lot of questions I wanna say around 50.
47:42
Yeah, we've asked a lot and I feel like there's still so much
47:44
more.
47:44
We have our fierce audience who is watching right now and I
47:47
know you guys have a lot of questions as well.
47:48
So we're just gonna go ahead and get into them because a lot
47:51
of these can't be myths.
47:52
So can a tampon stretch out your vagina?
47:57
So, no, that is definitely a myth.
47:59
So the next question from our uh fierce audience that they
48:03
had submitted before the episode, is, is there a right vagina
48:07
or vulva size?
48:09
Actually, that's a really good question because I have heard
48:11
like Khloe Kardashian, like um coming at Kim Kardashian talking
48:16
about like, oh your, your skims are, you know, it's not white
48:19
enough.
48:19
It's not, you know, for the women that have, you know, maybe
48:21
a little bit of a thicker vulva.
48:24
It's not like, um, how do you say it?
48:27
It's not inclusive enough for that.
48:29
So, it's normal to have like, all types of sizes, or what would
48:32
you say is like the normal, yeah, I mean, for sure, you know
48:35
I mean, just sometimes our weight and genetic factors and
48:39
things like that can impact the size of our, of our Vava.
48:43
So it is, it is very, very important to realize that there's
48:48
a variety of and I mean, yes, it is true.
48:51
I think there are some brands that kind of tailor more towards
48:54
different sizes and shapes, but definitely important to
48:58
know that all they're all unique and they're all different
49:01
and beautiful.
49:02
Yes, we all have beautiful vulva, what color should our blood
49:06
to the blood be during your period?
49:08
So usually I would say, well, first obgns don't really care
49:14
or they don't really don't get super concerned with like major
49:19
color changes in general, it, we care more about how heavy
49:22
and how long your periods are lasting.
49:24
And of course, if there's pain, but overall, I think the color
49:28
variation changes from like pink to like a deeper red and then
49:32
it kind of goes to like brownish and then it could even be like
49:35
dark brown or black towards the end.
49:37
And it's just it changes because as our, as we go through our
49:42
period, the lining inside our uterus sheds is called endometrium
49:47
And so what happens is, is the longer that blood stays inside
49:51
the uterus, it, it's a process called oxidation happens.
49:55
And then that's when the period color changes.
49:58
OK.
49:58
All right.
49:59
So, and then the last question from our fierce audience is
50:02
what does like a typical discharge look like?
50:06
Yeah.
50:06
So it's very normal and I want everyone to realize like vaginal
50:10
discharge is normal.
50:11
OK?
50:12
Like some people have more than, than others and it just because
50:16
you have a discharge doesn't necessarily mean it's an infection
50:18
right?
50:19
But I think mostly normal discharge is, is gonna be like clearish
50:23
to like a light kind of lightish um white kind of color.
50:28
So as long as you're seeing that and it's not like very abundant
50:32
or it doesn't have an odor or anything where that has changed
50:36
drastically from what you're used to then, then that's totally
50:39
fine.
50:39
So should have no odor you said, right?
50:42
You know, it can have like we were saying like kind of like maybe
50:45
a sour or like a earthy odor or something along those lines
50:49
but nothing that smells bad, right?
50:52
Or like a dead animal, dead, dead animal.
50:55
And what causes discharge?
50:57
Like is it more so like if you're aroused and you're around
51:00
somebody that arouses you or is it just like you're going about
51:02
your day and it's just like a normal thing that, yeah, it's
51:05
partially what you said.
51:07
But then it also is just like physiological like your cervix
51:10
it has glands, there's glands in that area and they, it produces
51:15
discharge it.
51:15
Sorry, I'm asking so many questions.
51:17
Is it normal?
51:19
Um And I've heard this also that vaginas are self cleaning
51:23
right?
51:23
So, ok, so for instance, you see all those products that like
51:26
you go down like a and it's like, you know, this is, you know
51:31
smell like roses and daisies and butter or whatever, right
51:35
But I've also heard using those aren't that good for you, right
51:39
So, so the, so the proper way to think about it is you do you do
51:44
want to clean your vulva, the external area because that has
51:47
like, you know, the sweat glands, the follicles and that can
51:51
obviously that can obviously lead to an odor or infection
51:57
if you're not keeping that area clean, but you never want to
51:59
put like your hand or, or like a towel inside your vagina to
52:04
clean it, right?
52:05
Because that is the self cleaning organ is what we call it that
52:09
we have hundreds of bacteria in our vaginas and they actually
52:12
keep our vagina acidic.
52:14
So if you see a product that says, you know, make a ph balance
52:18
or acidic, it'll make your vagina acidic.
52:20
Well, actually your vagina does that for free.
52:23
Ok.
52:23
So you don't have to, you don't have to pay for that like dos
52:26
isn't that I've never used one.
52:27
Yeah.
52:28
Yeah.
52:28
Even that.
52:29
That's not good for you.
52:30
Yeah, I would say no, no, I'm not putting that up there.
52:34
I've never done that.
52:36
No, I'm not, I'm not playing with that.
52:38
Like, I, yeah, I, yeah, I, not so even around the, like, underneath
52:46
the first lift we're putting you on the spot.
52:51
I know you can clean that area.
52:54
Exactly.
52:55
Right.
52:56
And, and when you're cleaning it too, you know, don't use like
52:59
a super abrasive like um soap and make sure like you just use
53:04
like your hand and like warm water.
53:06
You don't need to like scrub it or anything because that actually
53:09
can cause like micro tears and that can lead to infections
53:11
and things like that.
53:12
I still smells after that.
53:14
Then I need you.
53:15
Then you need to come see me, come see you.
53:17
I have one question that may or may not be from our fears audience
53:20
What do you think about vagina facials?
53:22
There's like a thing where you do like facials for your vaginas
53:25
Yeah.
53:27
My friends haven't heard you steam it like you just go to a place
53:31
and you steam it.
53:32
No, no, no, don't cancel my appointment because what if that
53:36
kills your good bacteria?
53:37
What if that steam kills your good bacteria and then, and then
53:41
the bad bacteria take over and then you get an infection.
53:44
There you go.
53:45
So you don't, you don't want to mess with your, your vaginal
53:49
bacteria.
53:49
The minimal, minimal, the better you see any signs to go to
53:54
doctor Eric Monte.
53:55
There you go.
53:56
In Texas.
53:57
No, I'm in Arizona, Texas speaking.
54:01
She's giving me tips later.
54:04
Well, we will be in that group chat after this episode.
54:06
Yes.
54:07
One more question.
54:08
Absolutely.
54:10
But I genuinely do want to say this from the bottom of my heart
54:12
It's so nice sitting here talking to Gin.
54:14
I know I would have needed this when I was younger.
54:17
I still need this example.
54:20
I was about to go get my vagina steams.
54:22
Were you?
54:23
Absolutely.
54:23
And now I'm not anymore.
54:25
Let me call them.
54:26
You're going to cancel your appointment, your appointment
54:29
It's so true.
54:30
I was supposed to do that because I feel like there's also a
54:33
lot of misinformation there is and like a lot of myths even
54:36
when it comes to and things like that or like, you know, all
54:39
those things that Latina moms tell us and things like that
54:42
So it's just so nice to sit here and being able to talk to you
54:44
and kind of get those questions and do it without shame.
54:47
And I think that's like the number one thing is like, we should
54:50
not be shameful of the body parts that we have and who we are
54:54
and what comes with all of that, you know, because I think also
54:57
like in our society, there is a lot of shaming of like, oh, like
55:00
smelly this or like hair, this or whatever that and it's like
55:04
the period here.
55:05
Like, you know what we have vaginas, they do things.
55:08
It's a beautiful thing.
55:09
What our bodies are capable of doing is incredible.
55:13
They're self cleaning.
55:14
They're lovely.
55:15
And that's my little vagina vulva speech.
55:18
Love it.
55:18
Thank you.
55:20
Thank you.
55:21
Thank you to everyone for tuning in.
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