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Jessica Marie Garcia and Chelsea Rendon

Girl, Let Me Tell You
Actress Jessica Marie Garcia opens up about her love life and the ladies get silly over Fierce Espresso Martinis. Guest hosted by Chelsea Rendon.
Show transcript
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Welcome back to girl.
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Let me tell you, I'm Jessica Flores.
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I'm Yvonne Rojas and Gloria isn't here with us right now.
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She is in New York killing.
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She's a star.
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She's being a star comedian out there doing shows being absolutely
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incredible.
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She's double booked, but I'm so excited to bring on my home
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girl.
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She's an incredible actress.
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She has this crazy bubbly personality.
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Chelsea RDA.
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Yeah.
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Thank you guys so much for having me.
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I'm so excited to be here and join y'all.
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I've been like, oh, I wanna do this.
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Our first kind of like guest co-host.
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So we're, this is a big deal.
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I'm popping y'all cherry.
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And I want everyone else to know, like, tell us that you've
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been acting since you were five years old.
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That's unheard of.
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Can you tell us about?
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Well, technically other people like are actual babies.
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You know what I mean?
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And they don't know they're acting but you knew it well.
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Yeah.
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No, I, she started acting at five years old in acting class
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I literally couldn't read.
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So my mom had to like, tell me the line and that's how I would
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learn it.
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Mom put you put you on.
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Yes.
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Well, so I always say I came out the womb ready to perform and
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like, I was always being crazy and like singing Selena and
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doing the most.
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Uh and then a couple of people, like growing up would tell my
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mom, like, get her in the business, get her in the business
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But finally, one day I was in Vegas and I decided to fake pass
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out in the middle of the casino.
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So I literally, I'm five years old and I fall and then I'm like
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we just for fun, for fun.
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And my mom was the only one that knew it was a joke.
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And like all my family was like, oh my God, what's God?
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Uh they started calling security.
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So my mom's like kicking me and she's like trusty get up, they're
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calling security, get up, get up.
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So then I was like, oh, you were committed?
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What happened?
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Where am I?
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And like I played it off.
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So then my mom was like, all right, we need to look into this
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shit and like back then she just called like channel seven
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or channel five and somebody just gave her the number for an
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agency.
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And so my mom called the agency and they're like, all right
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take some acting classes and get some head shots done and
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come back.
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So we did went back and they just repped me and then at six, you
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got your first feature film feature film.
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Yeah.
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So, like I did a commercial at five.
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and then at six, I booked the lead of an indie film to a clip of
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that.
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Put it up there.
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I can change too much.
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I look exactly the same.
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I was like, I take it back because it was an indie.
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So there's no sag after strong because it's allowed.
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But, um, but yeah, so I went into it, like, my mom went into it
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thinking it was gonna be a hobby.
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And then when we were, like, rehearsing for the film, she was
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like, oh, this is gonna be your career, like, wow.
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And I've never looked back like I've been able to do it for 25
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years.
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Have a beautiful career for it.
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Um, and thankful to work with amazing people, meet amazing
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people.
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So I'm like, 00, my God.
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Yeah, girl, that's a long time in, in the whole show.
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You're, you're an expert.
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After 10 years, you're, you're double edged.
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I know they say it takes 15 years to create an overnight success
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And so I like 15 years.
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I was like, where is it?
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I mean, and for you to stay in it for this long, I mean, you, you're
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in love with it.
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Oh, yeah.
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And that's the thing.
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It's not, it's this or nothing.
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It's not work when you love what you do.
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So, like, I crave, like, it's funny because my showrunner
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Tanya told me to stop saying this.
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But like I used to say, like, I, especially during the pandemic
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I would tell her like, I feel like I'm a crack addict and like
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I need a hit, you know, and she's like, um, Chelsea, why don't
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you just say it feeds your soul instead of saying it's a drug
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like that is a little healthier.
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But like, that's honestly what I feel like even right now being
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here with you guys and on a set, I'm just like, uh you know, and
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I'm like you, I love it.
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Well, we're really excited to be here.
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I know you have a lot to say you're really opinionated and I'm
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really actually excited to get into our first segment which
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is what's on your feet?
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Are you ready, girl?
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Oh, yeah, all the feeds, what's going on?
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Ok.
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So this is something that we keep seeing on our feed right now
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Megan the stallion released her single cobra under her label
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Hot Girl Productions.
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We all know Megan the stallion.
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She's been through it.
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She through it.
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She's had a rough, I wanna say like past what, two years now
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since the whole incident with Tory Lanez and stuff like that
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She got shot.
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Yeah, but oh my gosh, that, that whole thing still blows my
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mind.
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But yeah.
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So what do you guys think about her single cobra?
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Have you guys heard it?
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I actually have, I watched the music video.
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I don't like the music video, I didn't get like I get that there
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was supposed to be a story but then there wasn't a story but
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like, I think it's very beautiful to see a powerful bad bitch
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like her get so vulnerable with the lyrics because like, again
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so much songs right now are like pussy popping s a thing like
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a, like a, you know what I mean?
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Like like a thing.
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But like if for that was like, I was very surprised by it that
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it felt like, like a real song.
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Like, I, I listen to like old stuff.
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Like, I have my stuff.
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I listen to two thousands and stuff.
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Yeah.
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Like I listen to Ja Rule like, where, like always on time, you
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know what I mean?
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So like, I don't listen to a lot of the now music.
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So I was really impressed by how genuine and like open.
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She was like Taylor Swift.
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I didn't listen too much to the lyrics for whatever reason
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why I'd watched the music video was the first time I heard it
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and I only kind of paid attention to the visual which I didn't
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like.
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But I, I think I need to go back and actually listen to the lyrics
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I mean, if you listen to it, but I mean, what I admire is that
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she has her own production company called Hog Grow Productions
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and she's funding her own music, which is like, not many women
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get to do it, especially in this industry, you know what I mean
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And she's gonna make it and she's po off.
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So I it's like that she's, you know, a Trailblazer in the music
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business because it's not easy.
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Yeah.
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She literally talks about depression and like suicidal thoughts
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and she's like, no, no, no.
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And I'm like, yeah, bitch say it, you know, like, so I respect
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that but um I need to go back and listen for sure.
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The other thing that's on your feed, you've probably seen
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it.
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The Golden Bachelor.
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I have, I have, I have thank you.
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You can find love again and live.
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Honestly, this show brings me so much happiness.
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Sometimes you feel like at a certain age like there's no, there's
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nothing but how wholesome is it?
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It is.
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You guys don't understand it was wholesome until the last
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episode when he has three girls left three women who are so
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in love with him because they haven't had a love since their
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husband either passed away.
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No, all three of them have passed away.
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So they haven't felt love or been in love and they are acting
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like they were 16 year old women and he has said I love you.
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I'm in love with you to each one of them, to their eyes.
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Is that a lie?
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I don't know.
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Can you be in love with three women at the same time?
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Like is he playing them because he seems like the sweetest
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guy.
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I don't mean that my thing is, it's hard.
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I don't really watch a lot of reality TV.
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I think The Golden Bachelor is beautiful because it's again
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showing people you can, you can have another love, you can
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have another life and you know what I mean?
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And so that I really admire.
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But personally I don't like, I watch Jersey Shore.
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That's what I watch because it connected to one from before
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You know what I mean?
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Like, so I don't know much about it.
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I'm not in the bachelor world, but now I want to watch it.
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It's so, it's so wholesome because you're like a lot of these
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shows.
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It's very catty.
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It's just very, sometimes a lot of the people there are there
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for the wrong reasons.
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They want the exposure.
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ABC and D these are genuine people that have gone through maybe
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deaths or whatever you're looking for love.
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And I don't think we even talk about that enough is like, you've
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been with someone for so long and maybe there's like a passing
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away or what, you know, you've been lonely for so long, so many
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years, we don't really talk about what older, older men and
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women go through when they're maybe alone and they're going
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through.
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And it's just so, it is true and it actually makes me like, emotion
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check it out, check it out if you have a chance.
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You know, I'm like, I, I need to watch it the way you guys are
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reacting.
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I'm like, ok, we haven't seen it before.
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It's actually different.
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It's not like a bunch of young hot single people.
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Mind you, they being stupid being too, like, over sexual.
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It's just like they're genuine.
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You know, I'm watching that reality show.
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World's toughest test, like the special forces thing.
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And one of the guys on it is like Tyler Cameron that used to be
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on the Bachelor or Bachelorette.
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And I'm like, I don't like that sort of thing, but I'm, like
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watching him through this show.
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I'm like, actually I'm interested in that guy who is he as a
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person?
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Because I thought, oh, you're a bachelor, you're that guy
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You know what I mean?
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And so I'm like, oh, I like you a little bit.
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Like, you seem kind of cool.
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Like, I wanna be your friend.
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He's, like, helping them out and being the leader and I'm,
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like, respect, bro.
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Like, yeah.
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But, like, I just thought he was a bachelor or, like, a part
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of the Bachelor automatically make those assumptions.
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Like, you're on the Bachelor, you kind of already know what
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you're gonna get a little bit.
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Yeah, exactly.
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See them in a different light for sure.
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Um, and I love that.
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I don't know, to a certain extent it does feel like a power couple
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is gonna, like, come out of it and I know that's what we kinda
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wanted to talk a little bit about on this episode was Power
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couples coming together with like your equal.
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You come whole, you come whole.
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I think that in my opinion is what a power couple is.
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It's like you're great alone.
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You are set alone, you're incredible alone and you come together
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and it just kind of like blends in together 100% 100%.
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Like honestly, OK, if you've watched anything or NFL at all
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you understand that Taylor Swift has taken over the world
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I mean, like I feel like you cannot talk about power couples
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without talking about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey.
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Like that is the it thing right now like it's the it thing like
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how much, how much more of a fan base got brought to the NFL.
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I'm sure the NFL stoked about this, right?
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They have the shit out of it because we, we're gonna talk about
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this in the hot take.
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OK?
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We're gonna get deeper in this so we'll be back.
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I have got that.
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All right guys.
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Speaking of love hot take, Travis Kelsey and Taylor Swift
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are the it power couple right now, right?
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OK.
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First off, it's Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey are the it did
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I give her that respect, you know, put some respect on her name
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That's true.
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I feel like she definitely owns this situation even though
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like they're at his games, his stuff like she is the main.
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Well, she's the reason why people are talking about it because
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if it was Travis and a, you know, maybe someone, I mean, it's
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Taylor Swift.
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Anything she does is gonna bring attention.
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It's Taylor Yo, they literally the NFL completely went from
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sports to only talking about Taylor Swift showing her on every
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everything being like she took it over and because she's Taylor
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Swift.
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Are they a definition of a power couple that we got the Obama
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Look, they're a power couple.
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I mean, I think Hove and B are a power couple.
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Definitely.
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But like for me, I think the beautiful thing about Travis and
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Taylor, like, look, I'm a big sports fan so I knew I was at the
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Super Bowl when the Niners lost to the fucking Chiefs was there
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He was there too.
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You know what I mean?
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Like, so I don't like him because of that, but I think he's an
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amazing player but like he is who he is.
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He has his own name, his own title.
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Like he's a Super bowl champion.
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You know what I mean?
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He's already a power is Taylor motherfucking Swift.
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You know what I mean?
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Like coming to this, like they don't need each other.
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They want each other.
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Exactly.
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That's what I love the most.
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That's what a power couple is that you don't need that person
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You don't, it's like we, we, we choose to each other and we wanna
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be with each other and to be honest, she makes hella more money
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than him.
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And that shouldn't be a problem.
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Nobody should talk about it.
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Like, people have literally said, like people have said,
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like, oh, like she's a billionaire and he's barely making
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millions.
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Like, and it's like, who cares?
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But it's like, how many, how many more men make more money than
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Taylor Swift.
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Do you know?
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I don't think many men.
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I'm like, not a lot.
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I love Taylor Swift.
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So I know some stuff and like apparently one of the big, well
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I just follow a lot of things.
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So I know stuff.
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I like what I'm saying.
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Like one of the biggest things that she said in interviews
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is like, guys never wooed her.
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They didn't do beautiful things for her and special things
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for her.
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So the fact that he like rented out an entire restaurant to
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have a party and take her out, like that's something special
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that she hasn't really had before.
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So I'm like, I am here for Travis k showing her what to do.
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I would take Taylor on a date and woo her and like open the door
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for her because they're intimidated.
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Like who I think it's intimidation.
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I don't know how to explain it.
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But like he seems like he wants to show a woman, I'm the man,
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you know what I mean?
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Like, and she is so used to being the man that I don't think men
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are used to being able to be a man with no one can, like, come
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like they intimidated, they're intimidated by, well, it
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takes a certain type of man to date somebody that stature with
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so many eyeballs on you with so much success.
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Like, that's not an easy thing to do.
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You know, she's already in her masculine, so much.
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She's successful.
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She makes her money.
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She's dealing with the industry she's dealing with, she's
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so much in the, the masculine part of her energy to be that,
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to take, she wants that masculine so she could let go and be
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her.
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Exactly.
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That's the thing with me.
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I'm such a tomboy.
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I very masculine.
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But with my man, I'm like they told me and then like, when I'm
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out in the world, I'm like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah
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blah.
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You know what I mean?
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Like I know exactly what you mean.
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So I think she needed somebody so that she could be that, you
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know, with, you know, and I mean, we'll see if she is that man
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I was gonna say, we don't know.
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I will tell, I'm so curious to know what it's actually like
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without all the cameras and without the antics and I wonder
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what the real vibes are, but people are saying that they've
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like, flown and seen each other, like they have been doing
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that already without like all the cameras and stuff.
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What are your expectations in a relationship?
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We'll be answering that and many more questions with our special
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guest, Jessica Marie Garcia.
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Should married couples still have their own bank accounts
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I do, I do we have our own bank account or no?
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No, we don't have any shared bank accounts.
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Oh, interesting.
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I don't think it's fair to expect a man to pay for everything
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I will say except for the first date so much more attractive
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when there's like I got it.
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Of course it's like super attractive.
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All right, I'm so excited to bring out our next guest, Jess
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Camry Garcia.
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You call for an angel.
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Alright.
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The whole star here.
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Look at you.
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OK, let's do your intro because you have done so many incredible
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things, Jessica, you are a writer, a producer as soon to be
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director and you hit the San Diego Latino Film Festival with
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illegally blonde brown brown illegally re I knew that one
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that you made that and um so you're hoping to maybe potentially
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put it into, make it into a future?
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Yes.
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Well, congratulations girl, it's gonna happen.
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It is here with us.
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Thank you for having me.
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This is so dope like just even taking in that four Latinas are
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sitting at a table together.
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Oh, I know, I feel like so like it's so real.
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Yes.
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OK.
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Tell me a little bit about this project illegally Brown.
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This is something that you again like you maybe wanna make
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it or you do wanna make it into a Yes.
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What do you have.
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Um So basically it is the story about two sisters.
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You know, they get taken from their, from L A and they get displaced
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to Mexico because they're not citizens, but they're also
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not Mexican.
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Um And it's a long story short.
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It's a love story for these sisters and it's also an adventure
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comedy where these girls get involved with terrorists, get
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involved with the FBI.
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It's a lot, but it's also something I think that we don't see
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a lot of us get the opportunity to do.
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So I'm really excited to possibly be a part of that but, and
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not only as a performer but as a producer.
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So it's pretty sick and you have a Latina director.
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Yes.
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So it's like, let's do it, let's make it happen.
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And then on top of all of this, you're a new mom.
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I am.
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How do you have, how, how did this happen, how it happened?
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But I wanna know, ok, in your life, you do two people love each
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other.
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Uh How do I balance?
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I mean, I mean, how is your life changed?
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Oh, my God, everything has changed, everything has changed
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My, I feel like I was the grinch and now my heart has grown.
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Um It's, it's so it's the most incredible job that I will ever
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have.
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And it's also the hardest, like every single day is a new adventure
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and it's like, it's wild to just see all the things that she's
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doing every day, like, seeing the person she's becoming,
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she's, uh, 21 months.
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I know.
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I'm one of those people that, like, oh, my God, she's 100%.
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I became that person.
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But it's literally because like a one year old, like a 12 month
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old and a 20 month old are so different.
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So, she's almost two, but she's not yet two.
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I'm so sad.
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So, it's something that only moms will understand why you
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say it like that in a way.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Do you feel like your whole life view has completely shifted
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You're, you're looking at life now through, like, did you
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always want kids?
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Always?
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Ok.
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And, and obviously you're married and obviously you're married
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And so how, how did you know that he was the one?
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Oh my God.
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Um, he reminds me why he's the one every single day.
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But it's, but it's also that he's the one for me in every stage
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so far of my life.
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And we've been able, you know what I mean?
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I think that's what's so important because we've been together
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for 14 years in January.
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Like we've been married for five, but we've been together
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for 14 years.
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Like we, um, it's so funny because we met at a mutual friend's
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birthday party but, like, I was a waitress at Outback, he was
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in between catering jobs.
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Like we both, like, he's, um, on the production side.
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Like he's a set dresser but not when we met, like, none of, like
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we had nothing like we were rubbing two sticks together trying
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to, like, you know what I mean?
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So, we've really seen each other through so much that, I mean
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that's family to me regardless is dope.
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Yeah, he loves you.
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He loves you.
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He's like, is Chelsea gonna be there like that?
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And how do you guys keep it fresh?
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How do you keep it going?
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Well, you have a baby now.
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So it's like, yeah, so any moment you can, that's, that's for
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sure.
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But um but also how, how is your relationship with him changed
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now that there's a child?
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Oh I'm, I'm seeing him as a father and that tells me so much about
17:53
a man with how he is as a father.
17:56
I have a horrible dysfunctional relationship with mine.
17:59
So um I feel like I would have chosen that 10 times over to be
18:03
able to say that my husband is my child's father because she
18:07
is, he is everything I could have wanted as a dad for myself
18:10
you know, and it's just beautiful.
18:12
I I was gonna make a dirty joke, your daddy now, I can't do that
18:17
No, no, no, no.
18:17
I say the worst thing is about to cry.
18:25
Look, we were talking, we were talking about that.
18:29
Um actually like off camera but it's true like, and we had mentioned
18:31
this before but you choose who your daughter's father is going
18:34
to be and like, man, look, look at who you chose.
18:37
It's somebody that's actually going to be present and actually
18:39
going to be like a good force in your child's life.
18:41
So I know I'm so lucky.
18:43
I thank God every day for that.
18:45
But I'm also like, damn, I earned that because my dad sucks
18:49
You deserve it, you deserve it.
18:50
But I think you can also, you know, choose that same path for
18:53
yourself or you can learn to like, you know what I mean?
18:56
It's not, it's not an easy decision because I think I could
18:58
have gone down a path of being with somebody who would have
19:01
been that way matched.
19:02
You know what I mean?
19:03
Like it because they say like you end up attracting somebody
19:07
that, you know, so like people, they always say that guys marry
19:10
their mothers or like women, marry their fathers in a sense
19:13
what I will say to also attribute that and people ask me all
19:15
the time.
19:15
They're like, oh, how do I find like their like, Adam, my husband's
19:19
name is Adam.
19:19
Like how do I find my Adam when I first started dating him?
19:22
Every single one of my friends was like, what the hell are you
19:24
doing?
19:25
He's got no job, he's got no car.
19:27
Like what are you doing?
19:28
I was like, neither do I what I saw potential in him.
19:34
He was a hard worker.
19:35
No, I love being around him.
19:37
We literally had a 12 hour phone conversation about just like
19:43
yeah, that's crazy.
19:44
And he was on minutes too at the time.
19:46
It was a long time ago.
19:48
You know what I mean?
19:49
He spent that money but that, to me meant so much more because
19:54
I had already dated people with not a lot of money but something
19:57
And those were horrible.
19:58
So it was like, why am I gonna keep doing the same thing?
20:01
Expecting a different result?
20:02
You know, and then we've been able to grow with each other and
20:06
I know he's not, you know, he knows me good, bad.
20:09
And he has seen the worst of me.
20:12
Yeah.
20:13
He knows you like inside and out.
20:14
And that's that thing with those long term relationship.
20:16
It is like real intimacy.
20:18
It's like a love that you can't even, it's not, it's not touchable
20:20
Like every little thing can like melt off because we're talking
20:24
about that and independence, it's gonna lead us right into
20:27
our next conversation of Callas no more what we're asking
20:31
and answering some complicated questions.
20:33
So we will get into that right now.
20:35
Let's go.
20:41
All right.
20:42
I'm gonna, I'm gonna get the first one but bam.
20:46
Ok.
20:46
So here it is.
20:47
Does how much your partner make matter to you in a relationship
20:51
Should men be the provider?
20:54
Ok.
20:55
So I'm gonna go to married women.
20:57
Yeah, le let's hear from you first.
20:59
Well, um you know, it's a little bit of an unfair question for
21:03
me because, um, my husband and I, our passions are different
21:07
and his are, you know, set, um, set design, um, and set dressing
21:14
and props and things like that.
21:15
That's never gonna make as much money as I can make as an actor
21:18
So it's really unfair to say, oh, sorry, my dreams are just
21:21
more lucrative so we can't be together.
21:24
Yeah.
21:24
That's like, you know what I mean?
21:25
That's just a weird, yeah.
21:27
And again, it even goes into what we were talking about Taylor
21:29
Swift and Travis Kelsey earlier, like, just because she makes
21:32
more money than him, it shouldn't matter if he's providing
21:35
for himself.
21:36
And like, yeah, I could take you out to date night.
21:38
You know what I mean?
21:39
Like, you know, my boyfriend and I were both people in the business
21:42
I just got a day job.
21:43
He has been successful without having a day job for years and
21:46
he's fine with that, but he's not asking for money.
21:49
I'm not asking him for money, but he buy my groceries.
21:52
Thank you, baby.
21:52
I love, you know what I mean?
21:54
Because I'm struggling right now.
21:55
You know, I mean, I think it depends on, like, your status in
21:58
the relationship.
21:58
Like, if you're married I have a boyfriend, like his money
22:01
is the money.
22:01
My money is money, money.
22:02
If you go to dinner or I, I, I'll offer and he'll say no or like
22:06
I'll get us our coffees and stuff.
22:07
Like it's just, I'm not there yet.
22:09
That's what I was saying.
22:10
Like, you know, it's up to you what works for you and then also
22:14
what chapter you are in your life with that person.
22:17
I'm gonna take it from the standpoint of where I am dating now
22:19
which I'm dating again.
22:21
Like I know what I want.
22:22
I want like that long term longevity.
22:24
I want a father for my future kids.
22:26
I'm gonna of course, look to see if this is somebody stable
22:29
at least works hard.
22:30
I don't care if you make less than me.
22:32
But are you a hard worker or are you just somebody that wants
22:34
handouts?
22:35
Are you somebody that I know I can depend on?
22:37
This is like a teammate that you're looking at, you're dating
22:39
them to know that they can actually be there.
22:41
You could be there for them.
22:42
So, yeah, I, I'm looking at how much they're making.
22:45
I don't need to be this like crazy millionaire.
22:48
But can you provide like a safe, steady home and you know, be
22:52
somebody that I can depend on and you know, so I'm not going
22:55
to say no, I don't care, you know.
22:57
No, I'm, I'm looking at those things and I hope he's looking
22:59
at me.
23:00
What kind of qualities do I have as a woman, you have to look
23:02
at those qualities when your friends were telling you like
23:05
he doesn't have this, he doesn't have that, he doesn't have
23:07
that.
23:07
And it's look at the man that he's become and who, who he is and
23:10
like, you fell in love with him at his core and like all these
23:13
things can come after the fact.
23:14
But like the fact that again, when you think about specific
23:18
type of women that are like, he needs to make six figures, he
23:21
needs to make, to make that.
23:22
What are you doing?
23:23
Tell me, have you seen or have you seen those videos of like
23:26
people going around interviewing women and saying how much
23:27
is your future man have to make?
23:29
And they're like no less than $500,000.
23:32
I get it.
23:32
There's women like that out there but also that's such a small
23:34
percentage of men in your, if that's your end all be all.
23:37
Are you even looking at how they were raised?
23:39
Who are they?
23:40
There's so much more that goes into relationship.
23:42
It's extremely important.
23:43
Don't get me wrong that stability.
23:44
But are you, why is it so cut and dry?
23:46
Like they need to make 700,000?
23:48
Like I think when you love somebody to work with them, you work
23:51
together on a team in general that you together?
23:54
I think a lot of that is performative.
23:56
You know, it's just, you know what I mean?
24:01
Like I just feel like that's like such a persona that you put
24:03
on for people to think that you have some kind of status like
24:06
as someone, a lot of people think I'm like, you know, that have
24:09
all this money or whatever.
24:10
It's just never something I ever want to, to anybody.
24:14
Like, it's so gross.
24:16
But I do.
24:16
You're blinged out with all your jewelry and your ring.
24:19
You blinging you bling.
24:20
I found this on Instagram.
24:22
I will tag them for you.
24:23
Very nice.
24:23
I, I know it's not like, like that but because you live a glamorous
24:29
life without it being expensive, it's a persona I'm giving
24:31
out to you.
24:33
I'm going back to this.
24:37
Goes into this question.
24:39
Married couples still have their own bank accounts.
24:43
I do, I do we have our own bank accounts or?
24:46
No?
24:46
No, we don't have any shared bank accounts.
24:48
Oh, interesting.
24:49
So how do you decide who pays for what you just talked about
24:52
it?
24:52
And you guys have transparency?
24:54
Oh, you guys are making or do you guys not even talk?
24:55
Oh, yeah.
24:56
Yeah.
24:56
No, no, we always talk.
24:57
Yeah.
24:57
Well, and I think that's where it gets a little messy because
25:00
it's like even if you don't share a bank account, you could
25:03
still be transparent about.
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I got this.
25:05
You got that like, you know what I mean?
25:08
I don't know.
25:08
I haven't been in that relationship where I have to share a
25:10
bank account with someone.
25:11
If I, you know, my mom is on my bank account.
25:17
I still have a bank account but make sure you know, she's got
25:19
money.
25:19
Oh my God, I'm so am I, but I think in this day relatable, I love
25:28
that.
25:28
I it's coming.
25:30
Stay alive.
25:31
No, I've had a, no, I've literally had a debit card since I was
25:35
like young, like probably like seven years old or something
25:38
because my mom just wanted me because I was making money as
25:41
a kid.
25:41
Like, oh look, see you're providing you're putting in so like
25:45
I wanna show you so like Bank of America is like, you been with
25:48
us for 28 years and I'm like, I'm like, you know what I mean?
25:51
Like I would have been two but it's because my mom's been with
25:53
the company for so long.
25:55
You know, I, I don't feel like it has so much to do with how you're
25:57
raised.
25:57
Like if a dad or you're raised in your family and it's like you
26:01
have a son.
26:01
It's like, son, if you're gonna ask a girl out, you better have
26:03
enough money to give her to, to make sure she hasn't like if
26:06
you're gonna ask a girl out to dinner and you're like, come
26:09
over me and then he's like, let's put the bill.
26:11
Yo, did you, why did you ask me to dinner if you're not inviting
26:15
me here?
26:15
Did you guys see that?
26:16
Oyster Tiktok?
26:18
I don't know.
26:18
It was some video where like a woman ordered like three things
26:21
Three dozen oysters and she ate it and like a guy had asked her
26:24
out for drinks so then he left her to pay for the entire I know
26:28
talking about.
26:29
Ok, so what do you think?
26:30
Is that shady?
26:31
You left her, you left her, sir?
26:34
Like, ok, if you don't wanna pay for that, then you could say
26:37
oh I'm gonna pay for this part of the bill you could pay for
26:39
that.
26:40
But he left her.
26:41
No, we saw a tiktok where this guy asked her on a date and then
26:45
when the bill comes, he's like, oh, we're doing half and half
26:48
and she's like, oh my God, I'm so sorry.
26:50
I, I thought this was a date.
26:52
I didn't know we were gonna be friends.
26:54
I thought you were.
26:54
Oh, cool.
26:55
That's cool.
26:55
I'm so sorry.
26:56
Here's my car, here's my car and then he's like, you know, like
26:58
it's almost like if you're gonna ask a girl out, like at least
27:00
have enough for the ice cream or something because it's like
27:02
I don't know, maybe not.
27:04
Maybe you think that permanently or is that just a first date
27:06
thing?
27:07
I don't know.
27:07
But I think that's why I think it's so important the way your
27:10
parents raise you.
27:11
It's not about how you were raised.
27:12
It's the social norms that we see because we are told that a
27:17
man is supposed to provide, he has to pull out the chair and
27:19
do the thing.
27:20
Now, a lot of guys don't do that anymore.
27:21
My man does he still, you know.
27:23
Um but I'm like I took my man on a trip to like desert Hot Springs
27:28
I was like, babe, I've had a crazy month.
27:29
I wanna go on this trip and I put money on it.
27:31
He didn't pay like I paid for the hotel like he paid for certain
27:35
meals while we were there.
27:36
But then like recently he took me on a trip to Maui.
27:39
You know what I mean?
27:39
Like yo I was caught them fires.
27:41
That shit was crazy.
27:42
Um Yeah, yeah but like so again I do one trip, he does another
27:47
we do things together like I don't think it's fair to expect
27:50
a man to pay for everything.
27:52
I don't think that's fair.
27:53
I think that we could be even about it and if they wanna do it
27:56
one day, ok cool.
27:57
If I wanna do one day.
27:58
Cool.
27:58
But it's not fair to expect somebody I will say except for the
28:01
first date, except for the first day like if you wanna, if you
28:04
like I always put my, I always put out my wallet but it's that
28:08
thing that makes it a little cuter like no, no, no.
28:11
Yeah, of course that I offer but yeah it's that it's so much
28:15
more attractive when there's like I got it.
28:16
Of course it's like super attractive.
28:18
That's what I look for.
28:19
I don't know that type of vibe.
28:20
Have there been any uncomfortable conversations between
28:23
your husband with finances?
28:24
Oh, yeah.
28:25
And I think that also fluctuates with, like, like, what, like
28:31
in an argument, I feel like I could use that as ammunition
28:34
you know, and I've learned through the how wrong that is,
28:41
but it's something that literally doesn't, it really doesn't
28:43
bother me.
28:44
It's just in those moments where I'm like, I need something
28:48
I need to win this.
28:49
How do I win this?
28:49
Oh Yeah.
28:50
Yeah.
28:50
Yeah.
28:50
It's cheap.
28:51
It's a low blow, but it's something that I do.
28:53
It's beautiful that you know, that I try to, I try to be because
28:57
I don't think it's fair, especially because so often I, I I'm
29:01
so vocal about how it doesn't because I think that at his core
29:04
he's still going to have like, is this ok?
29:06
Like, you know, but I also have to reassure him like how much
29:10
he provides in other ways, which I think is priceless.
29:14
You do make more than him.
29:16
And let's be honest for a man, I'm not sure.
29:18
I mean, I'm not a man but I would only assume maybe, I don't know
29:20
maybe it could cause some sort of insecurity there.
29:23
So I think, I think, but Adam is such a man and that's the thing
29:29
that's not about that.
29:31
It's just about being confident with yourself because if
29:34
you are insecure as a man or as a woman, it's going to seep through
29:37
in every way possible.
29:38
But if a man is confident in himself, whether or not you make
29:42
more than him is not going to make an issue.
29:44
You know what I mean?
29:45
Like, because he's confident with himself.
29:47
Ok.
29:47
Next question, how important is love in a relationship?
29:49
And could you be with someone who you didn't really love?
29:52
We're going to be answering that one when we get back, we're
29:54
gonna be signing off of IG and tiktok.
29:55
But make sure you guys tune in on me too dot TV will be back with
29:59
us and JC.
30:00
It's not that I, I choose love every day.
30:02
It's not like I wake up and I'm like madly in love with this person
30:04
after 1015 years.
30:06
It's like you're really choosing to wake up and put in that
30:08
effort.
30:09
We've gone through trying times.
30:10
I think everybody can say in a relationship that they have
30:13
But it's never been to the point where I could see a life without
30:18
him on purpose.
30:22
All right guys, we're back with Gla Dita no more with Jessica
30:25
Marie.
30:26
And we're gonna get back to this question.
30:27
How important is love in a relationship?
30:29
And could you be with someone who you didn't really love?
30:31
And I think this is a cool parallel to our conversation as you
30:33
guys know a lot of women date for clout money, whatever it might
30:36
be.
30:37
Could you guys, could you Jessica if you weren't married right
30:39
now?
30:39
Pretend you were single, be with someone without.
30:42
Sure.
30:42
Sure.
30:42
Um, uh, it depends how needy I needed.
30:46
Like, as far as like, am I or am I homeless if that were the case
30:49
then?
30:49
Yes, we would absolutely do that if I like needed.
30:53
Yeah, I think so.
30:54
So you'd be using the person.
30:57
But I feel like it's an ex, an exchange though, right?
31:00
For women that want the, the guy with all this money and there's
31:03
no love there.
31:03
They're getting whatever she's providing.
31:05
Well, well, either way it's gonna be an exchange, either way
31:08
it's gonna be an exchange.
31:09
You know what it is?
31:09
Exactly.
31:10
Like, I don't think, well, what if you're in a relationship
31:12
and you're, you haven't said I love you yet.
31:14
You're not in love yet but you're in, like, you really like
31:16
them and you've been together for months and it's not like
31:20
I think that you can really like somebody and be in a relationship
31:23
I think, and then I think that if it's gonna last a long time
31:26
it'll turn into love and that's gonna make it last longer.
31:29
But I think you can be in, like, I think a lot of people are in
31:31
relationships and they're not in love, how many people break
31:34
up with someone and they're like, oh, I love them.
31:37
Yeah.
31:37
A lot of people, people, yeah.
31:39
There, there's a degree of love in the relationship but it's
31:42
not like enough to withstand this.
31:44
Like the time.
31:45
Yeah.
31:46
Well, I think it's also, I was looking at it in a sense of like
31:49
you are married to someone and you have a family with this
31:52
person, like you to be a family.
31:56
Right.
31:56
Exactly.
31:57
Or, like, again, I think a lot of people honestly settle nowadays
32:01
You know what I mean?
32:01
Like, and then there's the other side where they, like, give
32:04
up because they don't wanna fight with anybody or deal with
32:06
anything.
32:07
But like, I know people that you're not happy, you don't really
32:11
love that but you just want someone there.
32:14
I know a lot of, you know, back in the day, like, with their mindset
32:16
it's like we're staying, we're sticking together, we're
32:18
gonna be a family no matter what we're doing this for the kids
32:21
And that's, that, that's an, that's an interesting point
32:23
from the point of you're already married, you're no longer
32:26
happy.
32:26
You don't really feel like you're in love with this person
32:28
anymore, but you have kids.
32:29
Is that a situation you guys would stay in and stick it out because
32:32
you already have the family or is it like, I'm unhappy?
32:34
I no longer love this person.
32:35
I'm leaving.
32:36
What we, I could never, I say it's not good for exactly that
32:41
you have, you not good for anybody.
32:42
The husband is not happy.
32:43
We're not happy if my parents stay together.
32:45
If it wasn't toxic.
32:46
What if it wasn't toxic?
32:47
What if it was just like I don't, but then you're missing out
32:51
but then you're, I think your child would never want you to
32:53
miss out on a side of you that you might even in a way rent them
32:56
for because you dedicated your life to a relationship that
32:59
you didn't want because you gave that much.
33:02
You're gonna, you, you get annoyed like my mom always gives
33:04
me this example.
33:05
You're gonna get annoyed by the way he leaves his towel on the
33:07
floor or the way he leaves socks or his shirt or whatever, whatever
33:10
But because you love him, it's OK.
33:13
But once you start losing that love, like his fucking hiss
33:17
again, his towel again.
33:19
So it's like I couldn't live with that.
33:21
I couldn't live.
33:22
I think you're, you're really good to ask this question because
33:24
you've really been with someone for super long.
33:27
Do you feel like you've always felt love?
33:28
Because a lot of the times I hear people say that I've been with
33:30
someone, it's not that I, I choose love every day.
33:32
It's not like I wake up and I'm like madly in love with this person
33:34
after 1015 years.
33:36
It's like you're really choosing to make up and put in that
33:38
effort.
33:39
You know what happens if you just stop putting in the effort
33:42
You know what I mean?
33:43
Um I, I mean, we've gone through trying times, I think everybody
33:46
can say in a relationship that they have but it's never been
33:50
to the point where I could see a life without him on purpose
33:55
If that makes sense.
33:56
Like, any time we got to like the worst argument where I'm like
33:59
ok, this is it.
34:00
We're done in the back of my head.
34:01
I'm like, no, it's not, it's bullshit.
34:03
Like that's not, that's not happening.
34:04
Like it's, I, I've just never been so out of love that I didn't
34:10
want to be or like, maybe I need a break or maybe I needed like
34:13
a weekend away.
34:14
I never, I haven't had that.
34:16
But I think it's also because we prioritize in like our time
34:19
independently, like our independent time so that we're not
34:23
just like, you know, just seeing each other all day, every
34:25
day if that makes sense like this, like you guys are each other
34:32
but that, you know, he's a middle child right here.
34:36
No.
34:36
But I also think it's the difference between the idea of a relationship
34:41
and the reality of it.
34:42
And it's like people say, and I got this from, you know, a show
34:46
but like a woman said, like I'm not, um I don't love him all day
34:51
every day, but I love him every day.
34:53
You know what I mean?
34:54
And like everybody thinks that no, everything has to just
34:56
be amazing, period.
34:57
And it's like, it doesn't work like that.
34:59
I don't, I don't like him a lot of the time evolve.
35:02
You can like, honey, stay ladies, ladies, we talk about today
35:09
I have a question.
35:10
I wanna ask you.
35:11
Have you ever been the dependent one in a relationship?
35:14
Like, financially?
35:16
Yes.
35:16
I, I think it could be a lot of things.
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I think it could be a few.
35:19
You could be emotionally dependent on somebody.
35:22
Yeah, I could say, like, financially, I don't think I've ever
35:25
been, I've never been, never, I don't think I've ever been
35:28
dependent on partner, but I've had partners that were dependent
35:31
on me for their happiness.
35:32
And that was really crazy to me because it was like, if I wasn't
35:37
responding or if I wasn't there, if I wasn't showing up, they
35:40
wouldn't be happy.
35:41
Like it was like, I, I need to be with you also.
35:43
Uh, it was, it was a lot to take on because it just showed that
35:47
there was something that they were missing that had nothing
35:49
to do with me.
35:50
But like, my little void of, you know, love and it wasn't, was
35:53
what they thought was happiness, but in reality, they had
35:56
to work on that on their own.
35:57
And that's why we're not saying that like, you're, that the
36:01
what I take from that is like, they're co dependent.
36:04
I, I guess could have like, they're depending on another person
36:07
for their happiness and sometimes that's not very, like,
36:10
doesn't last very long.
36:11
I think, I think I've been there but not to that extent.
36:14
I think I've been at a point where I'm talking to a guy and like
36:16
how they, and this was when I was like, a lot younger, a lot
36:19
they would respond.
36:20
I'm like, OK, they could either make or break my day.
36:22
Like, how is the conversation when you're younger?
36:23
Right.
36:24
Obviously when you get older, you recognize, ok, I can't,
36:26
all my happiness and focus can't be on this person.
36:29
But yeah, I think I, and then guys have also been dependent
36:31
on me to the point where it was like, really unhealthy, right
36:33
You know what I mean?
36:34
Where it's like if you break up with, I'm gonna be on some like
36:38
maybe, maybe hurt myself or things of that nature, like it's
36:40
gotten maybe to that point, which is scary.
36:42
I don't, you know, I think that's where like Jess said earlier
36:46
like, prioritizing time for yourself.
36:49
And it's like I've been in hard times where I call my man and
36:53
he is a very, I say he's from 19 twenties, like he would put his
36:56
phone down for five hours and like go skateboard or go surf
37:00
or do that.
37:00
So like I got used to not hearing from him like at the beginning
37:04
and now he's like, on his phone more because he loves me.
37:06
Um, but uh there were times where like, I would call him like
37:10
something happened at night and he puts his one in sleep mode
37:12
I call, he didn't answer but I have my girls that I could call
37:15
So then I don't feel alone and at least I have someone that can
37:18
help me through that moment.
37:20
You know what I mean?
37:21
So, like, mind you, he'll tell me after like, oh my God, I'm
37:23
so sorry or like, what happened?
37:25
And I'm like, oh, no.
37:25
Well, like Jack got me through it or whatever, like she said
37:28
prioritizing your independence and having your own tribe
37:31
that it's not, you're only relying on your partner.
37:34
I know.
37:34
I, I, yeah, I agree with that for sure.
37:36
It's not the only person, but I do want to be able to, but not
37:39
your only person.
37:39
It's all about your camaraderie with your girls like this
37:42
table.
37:42
Like literally, it's what it is.
37:44
You can sit here and exchange ideas and really bounce ideas
37:47
off each other, which is what I'm like saying a different point
37:49
of view and you guys hear it.
37:51
Exactly.
37:52
Yeah.
37:52
And be afraid to reach out to your home girls because they can
37:55
really give you some clarity for things that you're like beating
37:57
yourself up with.
37:58
You know what I mean?
37:59
Exactly.
38:00
I cannot thank you enough Jess for being at the table before
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we head over to the bar because we're gonna head over to the
38:08
bar for, to get a drink.
38:09
Where can everybody find you and keep tabs on you?
38:11
Um Please follow me on the Instagram.
38:14
She's a tiktok queen.
38:15
I'm a tiktok queen too.
38:17
But um at Jess underscore M underscore Garcia, there's a lot
38:20
of names there.
38:22
Um And then on tiktok at Jess Marie with no E Garcia, that's
38:27
it.
38:29
Someone took it.
38:31
We're gonna get that back for you.
38:32
Thank you for being here.
38:33
Thank you.
38:33
This was beautiful.
38:34
Thank you.
38:38
OK, let's actually high five.
38:42
That was a black.
38:42
Would you rather your heart light up any time you have a crush
38:47
on somebody or like you're attracted to somebody?
38:49
Like it could even be like your friend's dad or like your, your
38:52
bro, your boyfriend's brother or have your butt light up if
38:56
you have to go to the bathroom and like you could be like with
38:59
the president in the United States, you could be like on a date
39:03
and then it lights up like Redos Reindeer.
39:06
All right, ladies, we are back and I'm excited to be with you
39:09
guys to make some fierce espresso martinis that are gonna
39:13
help you espresso.
39:17
I, I've never, I've never made one but I, I could really use
39:19
one if it wakes us up.
39:20
Well, it's espresso.
39:22
So it's gonna, there's literally like coffee beans and coffee
39:24
right here.
39:24
It smells delicious.
39:25
If you could smell this right now.
39:27
It's not, well, I actually don't even like coffee.
39:29
So I'm not that excited.
39:31
You're gonna, but I'm gonna do it because so I'm a bartender
39:34
in training right now at work.
39:35
So like I'm really excited to like, I'm like I have the power
39:39
Ok, so this shaker is a little different than like the ones
39:42
at my work.
39:43
But technically, it's all about like the, the ups and downs
39:47
the rhythm like Colombian.
39:50
It has to hit from back to front, you know what I mean?
39:53
Um, so we are about to get into this.
39:56
Ok?
39:56
You wanna try?
39:57
Ok.
39:58
How's mine?
39:58
You tell me because you're the teacher and, oh my God, I'm redeeming
40:07
myself.
40:08
Uh uh 20.
40:10
Take one, take two.
40:14
Let me try.
40:14
Let me honestly I think I don't have my hands too small for this
40:18
Yeah, it is hard with this one.
40:19
I don't even know where to start, back, back forth.
40:21
Let's go.
40:25
No, you got the face.
40:26
It's coming out of all angles.
40:28
But yeah, like the point that they talk about making a rhythm
40:31
making a rhythm, a rhythm.
40:33
OK?
40:33
So we have the ingredients here.
40:34
It's two ounces of vodka.
40:36
Half an ounce of coffee liqueur.
40:38
I don't know why I said that word liqueur, one ounce of espresso
40:43
and then half an ounce of simple syrup.
40:45
We got it right here.
40:46
So it could be easy.
40:46
Peasy.
40:47
We got ice already in the shaker.
40:48
So I'm gonna do mine but buy them w look see, I'm like, I'm cute
40:55
cute.
40:57
OK.
40:58
So this is mine.
41:01
Hit it, hit it, hit it, hit it, hit it, get it, get it, get it.
41:04
Oh my God.
41:05
That rhythm, dance rhythm.
41:08
OK.
41:08
So amazing.
41:12
Amazing.
41:13
How satisfying was that?
41:14
Ok.
41:14
So now we gotta top it off with a little bit of you.
41:20
This is amazing.
41:21
And I don't know if I could ever be a bartender.
41:24
All right, let's turn.
41:25
Ok.
41:25
Now that we're all here and we're chilling.
41:26
What are some things of this episode that stuck with you?
41:30
Honestly, my top is I love relationship goals.
41:34
So like, it's about finding the Travis to your tailor, like
41:39
be a boss in yourself, find a man that's a bo a boss in himself
41:43
and like, make that power couple because I think people always
41:45
try to look outward to fulfill them and like they're 70 they're
41:49
waiting for the other person to make them complete.
41:51
And like, I think with that relationship, like they're both
41:53
100 like that's, you know, that's what I think me and my man
41:58
are, you know, so like, that's what I want everybody to do.
42:01
So yeah, there's a lot of talk of like, you don't wanna depend
42:06
too much on your man.
42:07
But I would argue that if you're dating someone you can really
42:10
rely on and you trust their heart, you trust their judgment
42:13
Look at who they really are, look at how they are with other
42:16
people.
42:16
I think it's a beautiful thing when you can depend on your man
42:19
to be honest, depend on him in every sense of every sense of
42:22
the like, emotionally, even if you need it in that time financially
42:27
These are tough times so don't be afraid to do that because
42:30
I do hear a lot of talk online about, you can't depend on any
42:33
man, every man's trash.
42:34
You know, there's some great men out there.
42:35
Just be aware of who you're dating, be aware of who they are
42:38
We all have that experience is making shaking this drink right
42:43
now.
42:46
DD.
42:47
It's a little rhythm.
42:49
So the only thing also it's hard with this but it's supposed
42:53
to be angled like this like this.
42:56
So when you're shaking it, but like with this one, it's hard
42:58
because of you, we can't like grip it the same way.
43:01
It's you girl now you gotta do nothing I think.
43:05
Don't settle, don't settle.
43:09
You don't have to settle.
43:10
You can be happy in a relationship and, and like, you know,
43:14
yourself, love yourself and then you won't accept anything
43:16
less than that.
43:17
And I think that love is real and you can be in a loving relationship
43:21
and not settle for less.
43:22
I really believe that.
43:24
So if anybody's in a relationship that they're not happy with
43:26
um it's time to re evaluate.
43:29
Y don't, yeah.
43:31
Don't stay longer than you should.
43:32
I've done that.
43:33
OK.
43:34
Now your turn, let's go.
43:36
This is all so you have to hold the pressure on that.
43:38
Don't be afraid to make a change.
43:41
I'm not, this is not meant for me.
43:45
There we go.
43:46
I'm actually excited to try it.
43:48
Try it.
43:48
You haven't tried it?
43:49
Hunger.
43:49
I was, oh, this is hard with these nails.
43:52
Oh, my God.
43:53
It is really pretty.
43:54
All right.
43:55
Well, cheers guys cheers.
44:01
All right.
44:05
00, that's actually not bad.
44:09
I'm like, at first it was a little, oh, well, we're gonna get
44:12
Chelsea in the next episode.
44:13
So, let's get to know you a little bit better.
44:16
And what better way then would you rather you play?
44:19
You play?
44:20
What would you rather be?
44:21
Of course.
44:21
Ok.
44:22
But the thing is that whoever gets voted out needs to take a
44:24
sip.
44:25
I'm down, you drinking.
44:27
So I know there's no chance left for me.
44:30
But all right, first question, would you rather have a one
44:33
minute conversation with your past self or your future self
44:36
And what would you say?
44:39
It's same, same because then like it would like, bitch calm
44:43
down like it's gonna happen and you now, I don't know it because
44:46
I overthink, you know what I mean?
44:47
Like you already went through it.
44:48
The past is the past and made me who I am because I was a traumatic
44:51
I've had trauma in my life.
44:53
So I would go back to be like it's gonna be ok.
44:55
That would be one thing.
44:57
But right now because I've been healing, I'd rather go.
45:00
There's so many moments like back in the day where I would just
45:02
like hug myself and be like me to be All right.
45:06
So, wait, what do you future?
45:08
For sure.
45:09
OK.
45:09
So then do we all take a sip since we're the same?
45:13
Because I have a, I have a funny question.
45:14
Ok.
45:14
A good question.
45:15
I like this question.
45:15
Would you rather your heart light up any time you have a crush
45:20
on somebody or like, you're attracted to somebody?
45:22
Like, it could even be like your friend's dad or like your,
45:25
your bro, your boyfriend's brother, like, even for a second
45:28
like if you get turned on it lights up, would you rather that
45:31
it could be anything?
45:32
It could be like your friend's boyfriend and he looks so hot
45:35
and it's like, and you feel like you or you're being exposed
45:41
or have your butt light up if you have to go to the bathroom and
45:44
like, you could be like, with the president, the United States
45:47
you could be like on a date and then it lights up like Rudo Reno's
45:50
Reindeer both.
45:52
What would you rather, what do you think about it?
45:55
But I'm like, but what if I'm with my husband of so many years
46:02
no matter what, you're going to find other people attracted
46:06
looking isn't a problem but other people might be offended
46:10
offended by it.
46:11
You know what I mean?
46:12
So I'd rather be like my butt lights up and then I just wear a
46:15
coat.
46:15
You know what I mean?
46:16
Hard to light up every time you saw a pretty girl, I'd be like
46:18
all the time, like, really out here real, real, real quick
46:22
That's the thing.
46:24
I don't know.
46:24
I think that's the funniest question in America.
46:25
But that's the problem because they're gonna be watching
46:27
TV.
46:27
And it's gonna be like light, light, light, like I wouldn't
46:30
be able to watch any of my shows because my man's just gonna
46:32
look at me and be like, really?
46:33
I'm like, look at his eyes, babe, I could feel it all, you know
46:36
So, but anyway, what, what your answer I my heart you'd rather
46:42
have your heart lighter and expose yourself.
46:44
Yeah, like I like when a guy walks in the room and you're just
46:48
like, then that guy gets a compliment.
46:50
There's pretty people in the world you know, like is gonna
46:53
be sitting with you every time that guy walks in the room lighting
46:57
up like crazy and your man is just like looking at you like whoa
47:00
thank you.
47:02
No, thank you.
47:02
Have a personal problem.
47:04
Ok?
47:04
But, but oh wait, you're the odd man out.
47:06
So you take a sip.
47:07
Ok, here we go.
47:08
Next question.
47:09
Would you rather live in a world without color or without music
47:13
Is that even a question about?
47:14
Well, no, I'm like without color, without color.
47:17
Are you sure you guys without color?
47:20
So everything is black and white.
47:21
Everything is just nothing people live like that all the time
47:24
My boyfriend is partially color black a lot of men are color
47:27
blind.
47:28
My boyfriend and his brother are both.
47:30
You know what I mean?
47:31
But like, I love color.
47:32
Look at all of your lips.
47:34
Like everything color is, you would never hear color is poetry
47:37
too.
47:39
Come from color.
47:40
Music doesn't come from Color Taylor Swift.
47:43
But I, but what would you choose?
47:48
You choose color?
47:49
I think I would choose color.
47:50
And then I just make music in my head.
47:52
Well, you can't, music doesn't exist.
47:54
It's a world without music or without color.
47:56
So if music you never know it would, you wouldn't miss it.
47:59
Well, neither would color.
48:02
No color.
48:03
No music for anybody.
48:05
Imagine the odd man out again.
48:09
You guys see you tomorrow.
48:13
OK?
48:15
You read the next one girl and this is from the Glam hotline
48:19
Would you rather have tons of hair all over your body or not
48:23
at all?
48:24
Tons of hair, tons of hair.
48:27
Wait, wait, wait.
48:28
But you can't shave it like back hair or like it would be, it
48:34
would be on my leg right now.
48:35
OK?
48:36
No hair.
48:36
And then I'd put on a wig.
48:37
OK?
48:38
That's what I was gonna say.
48:39
I'd rather have no hair and put on a wig and that's not an option
48:43
Oh Lord.
48:45
No naked mole rat.
48:46
Or you're like a hairy beast.
48:48
I think I would go naked mole rat.
48:49
At least I'd be smooth.
48:50
No, it wouldn't be a hairy beast.
48:51
It would just be like So it would be, it would be like us just
48:56
not taking care of.
48:57
It's like a little bit of hair everywhere.
48:58
Like a little nose, a little hairy back.
49:00
You said hairy back.
49:01
But we wouldn't have a hairy back.
49:03
We wouldn't have a hairy back.
49:03
We need us.
49:05
No, you don't know that we've been shaving our whole lives
49:08
We don't know the potential back.
49:10
Oh, I've never shaved my back.
49:11
So that's what we're saying.
49:13
Let's see.
49:15
No, I have no hair on my back but there's other places we don't
49:18
know how long, what would happen.
49:20
It isn't really that long.
49:21
Your entire life that long.
49:24
You guys know that all this is to protect us, to protect us.
49:27
Eyebrow hair is to protect us from dust going into our eyes
49:30
Eyelashes carries the no, the eyelash do that.
49:33
But think about it is that you can lay your head and do a little
49:36
pillow.
49:36
Whoever you lay it with you, you'd grow.
49:39
I'm sorry.
49:40
You just said the armpit hair is someone could use it as a pillow
49:44
What else is it for?
49:46
I don't know, hair, follicles do stuff.
49:49
And what is the point of armpit hair?
49:52
What are you protecting?
49:53
I'm not God, I didn't make this shit up.
49:55
I'm just asking, where are you at?
49:57
OK.
49:58
Next, who did you drink?
49:59
We're all drinking.
50:01
There's no, there's no right answer for that.
50:02
You're gonna lose regardless.
50:04
Well, you guys today has been to say the least fun.
50:08
And I'm so happy to have Chelsea here.
50:11
Of course, coming back very soon.
50:14
So you gotta watch that on me too dot T to bring this energy back
50:17
Like always, I'm Yvonne Rojas.
50:18
I'm Jessica Flores.
50:19
I am Chelsea Rendon and this is girl.
50:23
Let me tell you.